Getting back stuff from family

LegacyUser

Left Ireland over a year ago to go travelling,returned about 2/3 months ago.
My parents house didnt have a lot of room to store all my belongings.
So,i loaned alot of my stuff to friends and relatives.Since,i have been back..i have received everything back except from one person.
He's related to me and we used to be very close.I gave him a loan of quite a large amount of electronics.(He knows it was a loan btw)
Well,ive been onto him a few times about the stuff and he gets quite aggitated that the only reason im ringing him is cuz i want my stuff.He's sent me quite a few texts also in the same manner.
I actually got no christmas present from him aswell (first time ever)
He lives on the other side of the country and well,i dunno what to do.I dont want to cause a massive family row.Hes not a sibling btw.
He rang me about 2 weeks saying he cudnt find one of the things,he says he left it in a friends house and wud ring me back and let me know what the story is.
I know at the end of the day that it is only stuff but its my stuff!!!
Any advice on how to approach it?

Weidii

In a non-confrontational manner (if you want) Give him a date and time that you'll be there for the stuff and see how he reacts. It's your property and you have the right to take it back from him, family or not.

Dizzyblonde

Weidii wrote: »

Give him a date and time that you'll be there for the stuff and see how he reacts.

This is exactly what you need to do. Someone who has the nerve to avoid giving you back your stuff needs to be pinned down - in a non-confrontational way. There shouldn't be any discomfort on your part, after all it's your stuff. (though I'm thinking it sounds as if he hasn't still got all of it - maybe he flogged it?)

allabouteve

Totally agree with above advice, and remember if there is a family rift over this, its because he's been so selfish. You haven't.

biko

Depends on what stuff this is. Does it have sentimental or actual value?
If it's just DVDs or CDs or such then it's no point fighting over it - m2c.

Btw, you lent out stuff because you couldn't keep them anywhere. This seem like a cheapskate option to storing it proper. You may have to consider some losses for the free storage of your stuff.

LegacyUser

Quick update,i texted him.
He let me know that he has my dvd player but he has "mislaid" the rest of my stuff because he moved house only a month ago,thing is i was asking him for them like 3 months ago now.
And in response biko,yes,these goods do have actual value,quite alot actually

Dizzyblonde

StuffIssues wrote: »

Quick update,i texted him.
He let me know that he has my dvd player but he has "mislaid" the rest of my stuff because he moved house only a month ago,thing is i was asking him for them like 3 months ago now.
And in response biko,yes,these goods do have actual value,quite alot actually

Looks like he's flogged the rest of it. He probably won't replace it so you need to think about whether it's worth getting in a state over.
It might be better to tell him you're disappointed, but move on and try not to have much contact in future.
Some poeple are just like that and all you can do is ensure he never gets his hands on anything of yours again.