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Asking friend out

  • 03-02-2008 9:24am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, Im looking to ask one of my friends out (Im male shes female) Wondering how to go about it. I think she might be interested in me and I think she might have an idea im interested in her.

    We go out with a group of friends all the time.... I just looking for comments on what you think the best way to go about it is. If I ask her for coffee, to go somewhere shes more than likely not going to get that im trying to ask her out..... Id prefer to ask her out while sober and not just try it whenever we are out in a club, but maybe thats the best option?

    Thanks


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  • #2
    St Bill
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 515 ✭✭✭St Bill


    Maybe bring her out to the pub for a drink. Say you want to talk to her about something, which might give her a heads-up. When you have her on her own, you'll just have to ask her out. The only alternative is not saying anything at all, and maybe seeing her end up with someone else! Go for it and good luck!


  • #3
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    Definitely ask her when sober and just be direct. Ask her to a film you would like to see and go to an early show so ye can go for a coffee / drink afterwards....

    Fair play to you for not just trying to land the gob on her when she is drunk... You are one of the good ones :D:D


  • #4
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    ...And just in case the thought of gobbing her didnt occur to you before Sarah said something: Dont gob her.


  • #5
    agent_smith
    Closed Accounts Posts: 356 ✭✭agent_smith


    Good advice so far. but and big but this... girls (or a lot of them do) like attention. Find out soon enough if she is interested in you. There is nothing worse than falling for your friend and then finding out that she is not interested and jsut wants you for a shoulder to cry on.
    Be yourself is important. However golden rule. If you get faintest whif she is not interested or she says she is not interested, back off. Dont be a door mat, the best friend for free. Be her friend, but cut all the special treatment and treat as no more and no less than a regular friend. Im not saying that to be bastard. Be nice and all that, just dont make yourself a doormat. Too many lads i know do that and only end up gettin hurt. Best of luck dude.


  • #6
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    +1 Smith. At the same time dont actually get into the relationship and become a doormat/shoulder to cry on either - relationships are a 50/50.


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  • #7
    msg11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,572 ✭✭✭msg11


    agent_smith wrote: »
    Good advice so far. but and big but this... girls (or a lot of them do) like attention. Find out soon enough if she is interested in you. There is nothing worse than falling for your friend and then finding out that she is not interested and jsut wants you for a shoulder to cry on.
    Be yourself is important. However golden rule. If you get faintest whif she is not interested or she says she is not interested, back off. Dont be a door mat, the best friend for free. Be her friend, but cut all the special treatment and treat as no more and no less than a regular friend. Im not saying that to be bastard. Be nice and all that, just dont make yourself a doormat. Too many lads i know do that and only end up gettin hurt. Best of luck dude.

    True that, But as smith said, do not be a prick !!

    Oh and go for it mate, a few people know my age on here (17), been threw a lot with girls, and the worst is the drunk moments, the best times are the sober ones, cause you will remember them the most...

    And best of luck !!


  • #8
    Baudelaire
    Closed Accounts Posts: 382 ✭✭Baudelaire


    Just ask her out, the truth is if she's a good friend but isn't intrested she'll tell you out straight and let you down gentley or if she says yes you already have the foundations for a great relationship, it's win/win really because either way you'll still have a friend :)


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here, its ironic actually thats just what didnt happen, we chatted and then i invited her to the circus, she said yeah sure and then when i texted her with the details today got no repy was chatting to her then this evening and she said she had a long day etc and then later said that she probaby shouldnt have said yes.....

    Dunno if im deluding myself but it seems like she is torn and worried about things being awkward or whatever, so i guess i'll either back off or else see if she'll go for coffee tomorrow and have a chat


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