Long distance relationship blues..

LegacyUser

When I lived with my gf during summer hols, and when we see each other at weekends, we usually get a long grand.

But sometimes during the week the relationship just feels... wrong or iffy somehow. Yet at the weekends it feels much better...

Sometimes after a conversation I just think "you're a gobsh1te, what am I doing in this relationship" and sometimes I dont don't know why I'm thinking this. Then we meet at the weekend and all is ok (usually). An example would be today for instance; she's been feeling low energy for 2 weeks now, achy muscles, etc. she fainted one day in the morning and woke up on the floor. Her period was also totally out of whack... she has all the symptoms of aenimia, and isn't even eating properly (she went vegetarian last august). Yet after two weeks of this, she says to me today "i'll be grand, will prob go to doc at the mid term, in a couple of weeks". Now this kinda **** really makes me think "what an idiot". that is just one example. Can you love somebody you think is behaving like an idiot?

I have always thought her family were total gob****es, and I don't mean any harm in that... but idiots and a bit "off centre" to put it nicely. I didn't think she was like this, but sometimes during the week I do. Perhaps I'm seeing that she isn't all that different to them in some respects, and that scares me quite a bit.

So do long distance relationships always become such head wreckers? If things weren't so good at the weekends I'd be outta here... also, during the summer when she came to live with me it worked out grand.

There is an end in view - going to oz together. but sometimes I have doubts...

K_P

LDer wrote: »

Sometimes after a conversation I just think "you're a gobsh1te, what am I doing in this relationship"

LDer wrote: »

I have always thought her family were total gob****es, and I don't mean any harm in that... but idiots and a bit "off centre" to put it nicely.

You don't seem to have a whole lot of respect for your gf if that's the way you're thinking. She's been ill but rather than be worried about her, you think she's an idiot?

I've been in a long distance relationship myself and I agree that things can be difficult and talking on the phone is nothing compared to actually being together. To be honest, it's your attitude towards her rather than the distance that would have me questioning this relationship.

Is there no way you can see more of each other before you go travelling?

Mr. Incognito

Regards the suspected anemia- there are iron supplements. I can't remember the name but my missus is a veggie and takes high iron content water satchels. They're orange and you can pick them up in the chemists.

Long distance relationships suck and rarely work unless it's over the short term. i did it for a year and you just get used to being without the other person and the cycle of missing them and happyness when they are around is head-wrecking.........ah but love is strange.

LegacyUser

I do love her, very much. And I am concerned. But sometimes I get frustrated when she doesn't take her health more seriously and I end up worrying a lot about her... in the end, I just wish she would cop on sometimes and have more common sense, simple as.

Yeah Setanta - the cycle is not very nice and I'm glad it's only for another 4 months. then we have decided we'll be together all the time. But there are times I find it hard, very hard...

I'm putting it down to the distance.. if there are other issues... I guess we'll cross that bridge when we live together.