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Gettin_Jiggy

  • 28-01-2008 2:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there,

    Goin unreg on this one, basically, ive been seeing my girlfriend for about 3 months now, we havent had sex just yet, im 27, shes 20, I kinda held out from makin a proper move on her (sex-wise) due to age difference, problem is, we both live at home, she's allowed stay in mine alrite, and when she has its just been foreplay etc....

    The other night, we had our 1st row (bless!) and anyway, ended up with her telling me that she was gettin freaked that we havent had sex yet (happy days I say, ive been wantin to say this bout a month, didnt know how to approach the subject myself) and it was pissing her off, I had previously discussed this with a close female mate and she said "She prob feels the same, ask her" and lo and behold, she does!

    Now problem is, I dont feel entirely comfortable bonkin in the parents house, I dont know whether she understands this or not, and prob whisk her off for a dirty weekend soon, she says she thought I didnt fancy her, in fact, was the opposite, I though she didnt fancy me!

    Basically, im known in a certain field for what I do (musically) and at first I thought she was only seeing me because of this (yes im retarded!) so I kinda didnt know what to make of this lovely, younger lady saw in an oul fella like me, so I was wary and cautious (bit too cautious looking back) so I was very "guard up" at the start, so to speak....

    I know theres obviously a communications breakdown between us somewhere for us not to even have discussed this until the other night, and I dont want anything of the sort happening again, any tips for approaching certain subjects such as these with a new(ish) girlfriend?

    Basically, we shouldnt be able to keep our hands off each other, and its the 1st relationship ive had to start like this, how can I keep things exciting?


Comments

  • #2
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    dude, whats the question?

    This is down to one thing: lack of communication. Book a hotel, tell her you've booked it and enjoy the anticipation.

    If you were too afraid to have sex with her because of the age-difference, maybe that's an issue you should have a think about.


  • #3
    evry1sm8
    Closed Accounts Posts: 284 ✭✭evry1sm8


    Im a girl and i have to say i definitely like the guy to take control!! If i was with a guy for a long-(ish) period of time and he didnt try it on i would think he didnt fancy me too... My advice is just go for it, be as dominating and forward as you can ;) (on your weekend away of course, but do explain about not feeling comfortable doing it in the folks house so she knows its not that youre not interested).
    If she doesnt like what youre doing she'll tell you and you can take a different approach next time.
    My opinion is that most girls like to be "taken" or dominated (as such)...just my opinion ;)

    MAKE SOME MOVES :D


  • #4
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Ok - you didn't discuss it. Now you have.

    In future discuss things with her.

    Cad e an fadhb?


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