Girl Trouble

LegacyUser

I met this girl at a, lets say, mutual interest class. When I first looked at her I was immediately attracted to her. I don't know why. I like her a lot and from talking with her she seems very interesting so I like her more than a lot. The "class" in question is only on once a week so I decided to ask her if she would like to meet me outside of said class, to which she replied no(and gave me a reason which made it less embarassing for me), but later on the class she said something confusing and I'm not sure of her exact words but it was to the effect of: "I'm actually in this class to meet people I hope you don't feel too bad because I'm not sure" or something like that. These aren't her exact words but its what I think she meant I could be wrong. From talking to her after this I get the impression she likes me(she asked if I was going to return to the class after the christmas she genuinely seemed to want me there) but I can't tell if it is as an acquaintance or as something more. I can't get her out of my head. I think the only reason I go to the class anymore is with the hope of getting to talk with her (damned if I don't try while I'm there ). I keep thinking maybe she regretted saying no, that possibly she may have not been ready to say yes when asked first. Am I wasting my time, energy, sleep pursuing this one? Should I move on hope I get lucky enough to meet someone else like her(these incidents are few and far between)? Or should I stick around to see if she makes a move? I'm not really good at this kind of thing but I'm getting better which is positive (2 years ago I wouldn't have even thought I'd be in a situation to ask a girl out!) Any advice?
Thanks for reading and apologies if this isn't the right forum for this but its an issue for me and its personal.

LegacyUser

Cofused wrote: »

Am I wasting my time, energy, sleep pursuing this one? Should I move on hope I get lucky enough to meet someone else like her(these incidents are few and far between)? Or should I stick around to see if she makes a move? I'm not really good at this kind of thing but I'm getting better which is positive (2 years ago I wouldn't have even thought I'd be in a situation to ask a girl out!) Any advice?

Ask to meet her for a coffee before the class, or a drink afterwards, to discuss the class - it's the least threatening way of doing it. If she bites, good; if she refuses, you'll know. Good luck!

CrazyNoob

You asked her out she said no
The ball is in her court if she wants to go out she will ask you

noker

Ask her out again. At least then you will no for sure. She might regret saying no the first time.

kryogen

ask her again in a casual way as in the coffee suggestion, or, be completely up front, just tell her you want to get to know her better, outside the usual enviroment! if she says no she says no, then you know for sure! if she says yes then its easy!

evry1sm8

I agree, ask her again. Someone said the ball is in her court but girls are REALLY bad with asking guys out, she may be really hoping youll ask her again...:) Good luck

Miss Fluff

noker wrote: »

Ask her out again. At least then you will no for sure. She might regret saying no the first time.

One plus to above, at least one more try and you will know for sure either way. Good luck

tbh

no - dont ask again. She knows you like her, so she knows that if she's made a mistake, it's very easily fixed. She may well be acting nicer than she would normally because she feels bad for you that she said no. It has to be said, you're probably spending a lot of time analysing the situation, so you may be seeing things that are not really there.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies. So the gist I'm getting fro your responses is that its alright to try and initiate again but and then leave it. I have other ideas I think my next move is to try and create some common ground but to be honest I think it may be wasted effort.

tbh

hey if you like her so much that you are willing to ask her again, I'm behind you all the way bro!

flaka

Dude - first you went to the class for a reason - I presume to learn something. Focus on that.

If you are enjoying the class she wont matter to you.

Second - don't pay any attention to what she said - pay even less attention to any of the words she used. If some girl that you never spoke to before asked you to go for a drink would you be weirded out?

There are other people in the class - you didn't metion how many of them you've asked to go for a drink with.

If you are enjoying the class, showing interest in the topic, contributing to the environment and getting a long with other people she'll probably seek you out. When that happens you can invit her along for drinks with all your other friends from the class.


If anything she is not sure about you yet - so enjoy the class and don't sweat it - you could be lucky - she might be a head wrecker carrying god knows what infections who will steal all your money and crash you car.
Ya just don't know - you aint loosing anything if you never talk to her again.