Finding it difficult to cope. sexual issue

First-Round

Ive had genital warts for about a year but only having treatment few weeks. when i first showed a doctor she told me what they were but didnt do anything. i just thought there was no treatment. treatment doesn't seem to be doing much now anyway. Im finding it really difficult to deal with. no one other than doctors and a counseller know. its very rare i dont share my problems with friends so its dragging me down so much
I havent been happy once since I first saw them. I havnt enjoyed anything, no matter what good things happen to me there at the top of my mind. I cant concentrate in college properly. even talking with friends someones telling me something and I have to get them to start over because I forget what there talking about
I used to be confident, now I'm nervous not half the person i used to be.I can hardly have conversation with friends even because i normally talk about whats on my mind. so now im just quiet
i have a girlfriend. we havent had sex but its going to happen soon so im already considering what reasons i can use to finish things. really dont want to finish but also scared to tell as im afraid more people would find out.
doctors avoiding answering when i ask how long they take to get removed, anyone got any ballpark figures? will accept pms of course. i know virus wont go awy

Im getting them frozen off, has anyone used laser treatment?? anyone got advice for coping??
thanks for reading

speaktofrank

First-Round wrote: »

Ive had genital warts for about a year but only having treatment few weeks. when i first showed a doctor she told me what they were but didnt do anything. i just thought there was no treatment.

Why didn't you just ask if any treatment was available and spare yourself all this misery now. I think there are several options available. Laser is used in smaller warts apparently and surgery for larger ones. lso there is an anti viral drug that can be directly injected into the warts too.
I think the virus eventually clears itself from your body but you're not helping yourself by being stressed all the time.
Be straight with your gf when the time comes. Good luck

Buzz Buzz

I caught them, was absolutely shocked when I discoverd it was the case... freaked out! Started occuring around the beginning of July.. Anyhow, I did get it checked out reasonably early and confirmed what it was, however I did'nt seek treatment until only two weeks ago.. Counted about 3 small 'pimples' and thought 'F**K, I'm riddled!!'.. but having spoken with the doctor she explained they were actually very small, and its a highly common infection.. not that thats any excuse for not wrapping up. She froze them for starters and then gave me this cream, apply 'xyz', and the have pretty much disappeared already. Regarding your girlfriend, I guess it really depends on your relationship with her.. is it strong enough where she will accept what has happened in the past..? The doctors, before they saw my case, gave a timeline of upto 3months, but then 4 weeks when they saw my individual situation.

LegacyUser

Hi there,

As a fellow sufferer I feel your pain. When I found out I had it I was devastated. I was going out with someone at the time and I thought my life was over. I contracted the warts after I was raped when I was 15 (I was a virgin prior to that) so I guess our situtations are a little different but I do understand how you feel.

You should just be honest with your girlfriend and be incredibly careful from now on. Remember how utterly shít you felt when you found out and make sure never to put someone in that position. I'm in a long-term relationship now and he knows everything and he's fine with it. We're very careful and I get checked regularly. You shouldn't write off your relationship over this. You never know, your girlfriend might surprise you.

As for treatment, I had cryotherapy (getting the warts frozen) and it worked wonders. As a male you would also be at an advantage with this treatment as the drier the surface area the quicker the healing time. It can be uncomfortable at the time, and chances are you will need a few sessions, but it does work. Speak to a professional who will recommend the best treatment for you. If you arent comfortable having treatment with your regular doctor I would recommend the Well Man Clinic in Dublin (depending on where you are of course...your local directory will point you in the direction of your local equivalent I'm sure)

Once you have the treatment and get rid of the actual warts you need to look after yourself. The warts can come back during times of stress or sickness and you need to do your best to keep your immune system in full swing. Eat well, excercise and don't over-do it on the drink/drugs/whatever you're into.

Above all remember that you made a mistake and, as Buzz Buzz pointed out, it is very common. Now you should do all you can to make sure you don't spread it any further.

Best of luck with it. It gets easier, I promise.