my friend

annemarie13

ok so a few days ago my friend and i decided to go cinema.when the day arrived she text me saying am i still up for going.i said ye.

then two hours before it was time to go (i had gotten ready and everything) she said she couldnt go that her dad wanted to go out for some dinner.
i was annoyed cause we had planned to go.

when we are walking in the street she always walks in front of me and when i try to walk beside her she walks faster! i feel like she thinks she is the leader and im just dirt following her around.im upset about this.

what should i do?

biko

Girlfriend, she is taking you for granted. Mm-mm.

Best way to address the walk issue in my opinion is to challenge her. If someone walks in front of me like in your case I either would physically pull them back or stop to let them walk off by themselves. But you must tell her then why you did it so she understands why.

Make mental notes of when she lets you down, like this cinema thing. One by one they might not be much but when you add them up you can see a pattern, or not.

K_P

annemarie13 wrote: »

ok so a few days ago my friend and i decided to go cinema.when the day arrived she text me saying am i still up for going.i said ye.

then two hours before it was time to go (i had gotten ready and everything) she said she couldnt go that her dad wanted to go out for some dinner.
i was annoyed cause we had planned to go.

when we are walking in the street she always walks in front of me and when i try to walk beside her she walks faster! i feel like she thinks she is the leader and im just dirt following her around.im upset about this.

what should i do?

That's quite an assumption to make from one trip to the cinema cancelled and her habit of walking a bit faster than you. Something tells me there's a bit more going on here.

As for the cinema thing. It's disappointing, but plans change. It'd be a different story if you were already there or this was happening constantly. Lighten up a bit. As for her walking in front of you, have you mentioned it, asked her to slow down, made a joke out of it? All these options are preferable to assuming she thinks you're "dirt".

tbh

if your friend is a good friend, then forget about the other petty stuff, like the fact she always walks in front of you. She's not going to change - why should she? - so it's up to you to decide if it's something you are willing to put up with. If you don't like it, well, no-one is forcing ye to be friends, are they?

Life is too short to be worrying about stuff like this.

Susannahmia

Yeah I have met my fair share of those kind of people. Users who are only out for themselves and love being the leader. If she is treating you like this all the time get some new friends, try to be more assertive or have it out with her and tell her what she is doing and how it makes you feel, she might genuinely not realise she is doing it. Out of interest what age are you op? You sound young.

annemarie13

Susannahmia wrote: »

Yeah I have met my fair share of those kind of people. Users who are only out for themselves and love being the leader. If she is treating you like dirt get some new friends, try to be more assertive or have it out with her and tell her what she is doing and how it makes you feel. Out of interest what age are you op? You sound young.

thanks for your help.it does help put the whole thing in perspective.haha im 18,ye the whole thing sounds childish ye i no but shes 18 too so..

Susannahmia

annemarie13 wrote: »

thanks for your help.it does help put the whole thing in perspective.haha im 18,ye the whole thing sounds childish ye i no but shes 18 too so..

Teehee no offence but I thought you were in your early teens!:D

LegacyUser

Maybe you walk too slowly and she's trying to get you to catch up?

Overheal

if you think shes playing leader dont play into it. if shes taking the lead and storming forward then try breaking off: eg. say youre both headed to point X and she is going to via path a, you just go path b. See how long it takes her to notice youre gone

annemarie13

Overheal wrote: »

if you think shes playing leader dont play into it. if shes taking the lead and storming forward then try breaking off: eg. say youre both headed to point X and she is going to via path a, you just go path b. See how long it takes her to notice youre gone

thanks im goin to try that xx

annemarie13

i dont walk to slow,i no she thinks shes better then me and thats why she does it.

MagicMarker

annemarie13 wrote: »

i dont walk to slow,i no she thinks shes better then me and thats why she does it.

How do you know? And if you do know, why do you waste your time with her?

annemarie13

MagicMarker wrote: »

How do you know? And if you do know, why do you waste your time with her?

i waste my time with her because she doesnt have any other girl friends, she only has her boyfriend and all his friends which are boys.

MagicMarker

I wouldn't want any of my friends to be my friend out of pity. I'd rather have no friends at all.