this week just getting me down

LegacyUser

going unreg for this one,just to save people the embarrassment.
anyway ive been single for a long time now,and taking reltionships very carefully becuz of lots of bad choices in my past.
so last week i am back in college and i just cant handle it, been feeling really weird for unknown reasons. so chatting to one of my exs alot, me and her get on really great, and everyone knows i still fancy her, her included. (but shes taken at the moment)
so anyway,chattin to her, and while chatting online she introduces me to one of her friends who i also get on realli well with, we just clicked straight away,so for a few days me and my exs friend are chatting non stop. then my ex gets a little distant and asks to talk to me, sayin her friend has a boyfriend and was not gonna tell me. i dont take this badly, i was happy my ex was looking out for me,and her friend then told me herself about the boyfriend so everything was grand (i wouldnt get with someone wit a boyf)
then my ex tells me she was really jealous,and feeling guilty over her feelings for me, which knocked me for 6. we've been chattin more den usual since this talk and its been really nice, but jokes on me,when all our friends met up at the weekend she brought her boyfriend and sat beside me,being ridiculously all over him all nite. i foolishly thought that since i sed to her i wouldnt get wit her friend (i wudnt anyway becase of her boyfriend) that she would be a little more considerate around me. what the hell is up,any advice,becuz i just feeling down now when i was doing fine being a young single grumpy Dr.Cox like guy.

Teddi

Hi mate, I can totally sympathise with you! I know how that feel!

The first thing that popped into my mind when I heard this was that she Is trying to do one thing, and one thing only. MAKE YOU FEEL JEALOUS!. You mentioned that she said that she was jealous of you over her friends situation.If you like, you could call it getting back at you for making her feel that way. Now im sure she's not doing this to be a bitch, but to keep you on your toes.We all know women can do this to make us want them more(dont flame me, it works both ways ) Something tells me that she still has resounding feelings for you, but can only express that by making you feel jealous as she is currently with her new B/f.

Im sure it will be hard on you but the best thing to do is find a nice girl for yourself and will fill that void and not let your ex's situation effect you this way.

best distance yourself from her for the time being, not totally ignore her, but gradually ease yourself out of the situation, remember, these times are only phases, they are time based..it will heal as such.

Hope it works out for you...

Teddi

Endasaurus

Its all a big female mindgame to make you feel jealous because of how she felt over the other thing.


Take no notice!

Overheal

All I can say at the moment is I have the deepest sympathy: its a real awful thing when they seemingly flaunt it in yer face. Its really inconsiderate and I can't understand it at all. Im in a similar spot the last week - spending time doing other things helps: I've been catching up all weekend with people I haven't talked to properly in ages and its been really beneficial.

Nerin

I've been catching up all weekend with people I haven't talked to properly in ages and its been really beneficial.

+1
just off msn from a video call with my friend who moved to new zealand in september

Liam Byrne

Endasaurus wrote: »

Its all a big female mindgame to make you feel jealous because of how she felt over the other thing.


Take no notice!

.....Probably, and if that's the case you're better off without her. The #1 requirement for a proper relationship is a mutual and healthy level of respect.