which martial art

Freshmilk

Hello there........I have a question.Iam quite small in stature 5'6 9 stone and am terrified of been involved in a fight and have no courage.I dont go looking for a fight but last night I was out in a club and this chap bumped into me and spilt my pint all over me!In reaction i pushed him to which he turns around and gos "who you pushing?" and with that I start appoligisng sayin "sorry pal didnt mean it" because i was terrified a fight could happen.I would love to feel confident in this way.I would love to be an animal.So if anybody was to try it on with me i could solve it.I dont want to be the type of person who goes around causing trouble but just that if anything kicked off i could handle myself.What would be the best way of going about this?what martial art would be best? thanks.

SorGan

Freshmilk wrote: »

Hello there........I have a question.Iam quite small in stature 5'6 9 stone and am terrified of been involved in a fight and have no courage.I dont go looking for a fight but last night I was out in a club and this chap bumped into me and spilt my pint all over me!In reaction i pushed him to which he turns around and gos "who you pushing?" and with that I start appoligisng sayin "sorry pal didnt mean it" because i was terrified a fight could happen.I would love to feel confident in this way.I would love to be an animal.So if anybody was to try it on with me i could solve it.I dont want to be the type of person who goes around causing trouble but just that if anything kicked off i could handle myself.What would be the best way of going about this?what martial art would be best? thanks.

first for someone scared of fights you should control your temper a little bit more...its only a pint after all.
what animal would you love to be?:)

to answer your question, go check out some classes see what your really looking for.

Pride Fighter

If your a small man you have to have plenty of courage in a fight. If an altercation did happen (I hope it never does) you would have to eat a couple of shots, get in close and just blast away. I'd recommend boxing or judo. Your hips would be lower than most opponents so your size can be an advantage. You just have to know how to utilise it.

dlofnep

To be honest, I'd recommend judo and brazilian jiu-jitsu for you. I'm small also (5'4") and about 9 stone and training in the above has helped my confidence loads. Don't mistake it with over-confidence, but I feel more confident with being able to defend myself incase of an alteration, which inevitably happened about 2 years and and I was very comfortably able to handle a guy a fair bit bigger than me. I haven't been in a fight since, all our fights happen in the gym where they belong.

FiannaGym.com

I am 100% serious when I say "Rugby".

Peace

arybvtcw0eolkf

FiannaGym.com wrote: »

I am 100% serious when I say "Rugby".

Peace

Why?.

cowzerp

FiannaGym.com wrote: »

I am 100% serious when I say "Rugby".

Peace

He's not going to turn into a 6,4" monster just because he plays rugby! but thanks for brightening my day up, Boxing and or BJJ I'd say.. any competitive martial art will help you and boost your confidence though!

john kavanagh

forget about fighting, forget about the fantasy of beating up 4 guys...

take up a sport boxing, wrestling, weight lifting...doesnt matter - a healthy outlet for you energy and confidence building.

....and if you dont like people bumpin into you stay away from bars

good luck

pma-ire

Freshmilk wrote: »

Hello there........I have a question.Iam quite small in stature 5'6 9 stone and am terrified of been involved in a fight and have no courage.I dont go looking for a fight but last night I was out in a club and this chap bumped into me and spilt my pint all over me!In reaction i pushed him to which he turns around and gos "who you pushing?" and with that I start appoligisng sayin "sorry pal didnt mean it" because i was terrified a fight could happen.I would love to feel confident in this way.I would love to be an animal.So if anybody was to try it on with me i could solve it.I dont want to be the type of person who goes around causing trouble but just that if anything kicked off i could handle myself.What would be the best way of going about this?what martial art would be best? thanks.

go do a martial arts by all means. but don't expect to become a leathal street fighter from it. look for a club that has a happy relaxed buzz, not hyper active testosterone lab experiments

people who train in martial arts for a while should have a calm out look on life, and when confronted with a dodgy situation they don't feel the need to react in a way that causes a fight. but if it does kick off anyway maybe you will have something kick in that will help you get out of it??

don't worry, be happy

Roper

So,

A fella bumps into you by accident and you push him? Sounds like you provoked that situation mate, that'd be the first thing I'd look at.

ryoishin

Find a local club and that ll get you into the trade then you ll naturally find your bearings.

heres a reply from bas rutten on his forum when i asked about fighting a taller opponent with strikes:

"Short guy aginst tall. You HAVE to press the action, come forward all the time. this way he has to move backwards the whole time and it is just very difficult fighting backwards. So you need to be in great shape, strat working hard on your conditioning. The closer you are, the less longer his strikes can travel and the less power they have.

that's the theory, now see if you can make it work, it's not easy, esspecially if he knows how to move backwards (doing it "moving to the sides" and not straight back) "

Dawei

find a club , get your ass kicked few times , you won't be terrified any more.

gondorff

Study aikido.

You will never be involved in another fight.

Roper

gondorff wrote: »

Study aikido.

You will never be involved in another fight.

He's right...



... you'll just be involved in beatings...:D

SorGan

Roper wrote: »

He's right...



... you'll just be involved in beatings...:D

lol:D:D:D

mark.leonard

Roper wrote: »

He's right...



... you'll just be involved in beatings...:D

lmao

ColinJennings

I've got to agree with JK and Roper. This sounds as if someone bumped into you and you over reacted. I'd be worried that if you thought you could beat him up you would have been slower to appologise.

I would love to be an animal.So if anybody was to try it on with me i could solve it.

This just worries me. My solution for an idiot starting on me or someone spilling my pint has always and will continue to be simply ignoring it or if that isn't possible getting a taxi home. There is no point in getting into a fight over something so foolish, even if I thought I could win.

gondorff

Roper wrote: »

He's right...



... you'll just be involved in beatings...:D

lol and if you're not there to receive those beatings?... Any serious martial art or in any case any martial art that takes itself at all seriously, should include, as one of it's fundamentals, the art of walking away.

SorGan

gondorff wrote: »

lol and if you're not there to receive those beatings?... Any serious martial art or in any case any martial art that takes itself at all seriously, should include, as one of it's fundamentals, the art of walking away.

...some striking would help too..:cool:

gondorff

You mean 'atemi'? That's best avoided.

Although I respect what you are saying, non-violent deflection and the encouragement of an antagonist to submission with economy and harmony of movement would be the purist's first choice. OP, with his low centre of gravity, can make his own mind up.

A knowledge of anatomy is also helpful.

wayne1

cowzerp wrote: »

He's not going to turn into a 6,4" monster just because he plays rugby! but thanks for brightening my day up, Boxing and or BJJ I'd say.. any competitive martial art will help you and boost your confidence though!

cowzerp is right u be able to stand up with the boxing and when u go to ground use B J J :eek:

FiannaGym.com

Do you think Peter Stringer has any hastle when he's in Coppers with the whole Irish rugby team?

I'm Pearse Stokes and through my "Take up rugby to become an animal" training programme you too can become an animal.

Have you ever lay awake at night, going through scenarios where you beat up the mean guys who are throughing their weight around - then take their girl friend home? Here's the thing - WE ALL DO!

No some people think you can over come this sort of inadequcy be finding fun in your life, performing to the best of your ability, etc but I say, WHY BOTHER!?

Just joing a rugby team!! Thats right! Forget about developing a confident and content outlook on life!

DONT GET CONFIDENT - GET COCKY!
DONT GET ANGRY - GET EVEN!

Rather than learning how to fight, you just travel in packs.. and START FIGHTS BEFORE THEY HAPPEN!

All this for just 19.99 posted to me!
Peace

Dragan

OP - i would suggest you find other ways to over come your self confidence issues than wanting to "be an animal".

If you do an MA then do it for the love of that MA.

Baggio...

gondorff wrote: »

Study aikido.

You will never be involved in another fight.

I'd be interested in the science behind that statement. Walking away is the ideal and the best option of course (or running). Unfortunately there are some Neanderthals out there, that wont let you just "walk away".

FiannaGym.com

Neanderthals?

I wish!

Peace