Separation proceedings - claims of adultery

covirish

We have decided to separate and things had been going smoothly. We have agreed on kids, money etc. She is renting a house (with my backing) and is resident with the kids there. My solicitor has my first draft of a separation proposal. But, I left my wife alone in the house I am staying in while I dropped the kids to school, during which time she found my mobile phone and went through my inbox. I caught her when I came back and she claimed to have found texts which proved I was having an affair (one of which was from my mum!). She is now threatening to cite the name of a woman in the separation proceedings, although there is no real proof that anything was going as (as it wasn't!). Can anyone tell me if citing for post-non-legal separation adultery in the setting of an agreed legal separation affects anything? I need to know whether this is all bitterness bluff from her, or if I need to be able to defend myself against the claim.

Maximilian

You obviously have a solicitor, so ask him/her those questions.

covirish

Ah, ok, never thought of that! Some are less embarassed than others, is there any problem with trying to get a heads up?

Maximilian

Honestly, yes there is. You risk getting faulty advice here from someone who doesn't know what they are talking about. You are paying a solicitor, so get value for your money and put your fears to rest.

seamus

I would not recommend dicussing an ongoing case with *anyone*, not even people you thought were your closest mates. Anything that gets back to your wife could be used against you.

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