Fancy best friends brother.

LegacyUser

Me and my best friend are very close. Normally we can talk about everything but this i Cant and Wont bring myself to mention to him

For the last year or so I've been lusting over my best friends older brother [We'll call him "GLOBE"]. The problem is his very late 20's and im only 19... and a guy! (My friend knows im gay, so theres no problem there, his brother doesnt know and he's straight)
I dont know what it was, one day we're just passing eachother and suddenly *BANG* head over heels for him, which is weird because i've known him for years and just thought nothing of him.
The thing is, i've fancied him over a year now and i really need it to stop! I've never made it obvious or anything, it's been the simple hello in passing, granted i have to literally keep control of my breathe and try not to blush. I get the feeling he doesnt like me anyway, considering im in my friends house nearly everyday and that can be offputting to some people. For some reason i'm drawn to the fact he constantly seems very quite and repressed other than that nothing really attracts me to him, he's definitely not the greatest looking guy, but i've come to love the way he looks. I dont really know anything about him at all. (other than what my friend has brought up in slight conversation, and then i find it gets sickening when i try to find out everything about a certain band, film or book that he likes, maybe its so he'll notice me or something, im not to sure, i just get confused whenever i think about it) Which is alot because im constantly thinking about him. And i need it to stop because i know its NEVER going to happen. And im literally torturing myself.

What i need is advice how to stop thinking about GLOBE 24/7 i know it'd be easy to just go out and meet somebody to help forget. Which i've tried to do and i'd had a couple of dates and flings and even a 4 month relationship with somebody but to be honest GLOBE was still on my mind (We broke up for personal differences in the end, I'd hardly break up with someone because i fancy GLOBE and give them a lame excuse to cover, that's just weak!)

LegacyUser

ILoveGlobe wrote: »

I dont know what it was, one day we're just passing eachother and suddenly *BANG* head over heels for him, which is weird because i've known him for years and just thought nothing of him.
The thing is, i've fancied him over a year now and i really need it to stop! I've never made it obvious or anything, it's been the simple hello in passing, granted i have to literally keep control of my breathe and try not to blush.

Basically you can fancy the unknown because you've put him on a pedestal, unobtainable,which is fine for fantasty life but awkward in real life. Yeah, you just need to carry on developing your real life and carry on meeting other gay guys and eventually the Globe fantasy will just wither away. It's a pain while it carries on, but just carry on as you have been.

Goat Mouth

ILoveGlobe wrote: »

I dont know what it was, one day we're just passing eachother and suddenly *BANG* head over heels for him, which is weird because i've known him for

Em that kinda sounds likes a combonation of Erotomania and Unrequited love syndrome. Maybe you should see a psychiatrist, I've seen documentaries on it, and it can be fatal if not treated!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love

Miss Fluff

Chillax for a moment OP, you have a crush. Please relax for a moment and enjoy the infatution/obsession. From what you say, chances are this guy is straight, is it gonna happen for you???? And stop being so hard on yourself.