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Birthday present? Casual relationship....

  • 10-01-2008 12:19am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I am seeing a girl for the past 4-5 months. Its a casual thing. We talk almost everyday. Neither of us want a relationship or anything serious. We are allowed to be with other people and this suits us both. I would ask everyone not to be judgemental of our situation. I know it might be a bit 'unorthodox' but we're both happy with it.

    We are both 21. Her birthday is coming up fairly soon. I am just wondering is it appropriate to buy her a present and if so, what could I buy/do that would not seem like I am coming on too strong? I guess jewellery would be a bit much for a casual relationship and she may not appreciate it?? I know, its not a very serious PI, but I'd be grateful for some opinions from you guys.

    Cheers.


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  • #2
    Cathmandooo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,324 ✭✭✭✭Cathmandooo


    There is a gifts forum....


    anyway, buy her a gift, you never know what your relationship could bloom into. Jewellery is always acceptable, you know better what she likes than we do. go for it :)


  • #3
    remus808
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,380 ✭✭✭remus808


    If your intent on keeping things casual, i'd stick to less personal stuff that's still practical and a good gift... Haven't got any obvious brainwaves but stuff like DVD's (box set?) and techy bits (phone/mp3) are generally a winner that i'm sure she'll appreciate... In your situation I would shy away from anything with too much of a personal slant (i.e. jewellery!)


  • #4
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Treat her to dinner, movie and a few drinks?


  • #5
    Caliden
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,982 ✭✭✭Caliden


    A CD or a DVD sounds fine. Anything over say 20 euro would be a bit much if you're not going out.
    On a bit of a tangent, would you be upset if she was with someone else on her birthday while you were there?
    If yes, then you want more than a casual relationship :)


  • #6
    Reku
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,766 ✭✭✭Reku


    Well if you want to keep it casual then you could always just go with a decently priced wine, chocolates and flowers. All temporary and rather non-commital (no indications of wanting to be together for any period) but if you splash out can still be somewhat impressive.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No I wouldnt be upset if she was with someone else. Neither would she if it was vice versa. Although that situation has not arisen yet to be honest.

    So I'm trying to think of a present that is suitable and doesn't scream commitment!!

    What would you think of perfume? Its a nice gift I think, but maybe a bit too personal?


  • #8
    adsgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    If it is casual then stick with Cds, books or Dvd's.


  • #9
    Pigletlover
    Closed Accounts Posts: 968 ✭✭✭Pigletlover


    adviceunreg wrote: »
    What would you think of perfume? Its a nice gift I think, but maybe a bit too personal?

    Perfume sounds good, not too expensive so you won't seem like you're coming on too strong. Try and keep it similar to the type she wears - floral/musky etc.


  • #10
    Whispered
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,772 ✭✭✭✭Whispered


    I think this is so cute. Am I the only person to see the irony in coming online looking for advice on buying a "causal" gift for a "casual" relationship. :o

    Perfume, flowers, jewelry etc are all not very suitable in my opinion. Try steer away from anything "romantic" Maybe bring her on a night out. Or something like a voucher, which I'd normally not recommend, but if you are looking for something practical that a girl would like. Also it wont look like you put too much thought into it so she can't read too much into it.


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