"Platonic" vis-a-vis "Intimate" friendship?

LegacyUser

Want to go un-reg for this!

Is it possible that a guy (who is very confident and not at all shy with the ladies) in bed with a girl (both of them are straight)

The guy initiates touch (even while sober) such as intertwining legs, hugs, spooning, 'playing footsie' even full frontal lying on the girl etc.

Ordinarily and in any of my past experiences this sort of behaviour would lead to a kiss... which might lead to so on and so forth! Could this ever be meant simply as friendship without a sexual element? Here there hasn't even been a kiss! Is it possible that he just doesn't like me/ is not interested? and he regards this sort of touch as normal between friends?

Am confused and would sincerely welcome your thoughts on this one!

(Oh and just to round out the picture I should add that we are both in our 20's and good friends - so it can't be passed off as some sort of 'teenage' thing)

Ishindar

sounds like hes got a girlfriend that u dont know about. or maybe a sexual deficiency hes embarrased about. this is very unusual behaviour and its more probable there an underlying issue with him than its a frendsy wensy thing.

Tusky

So....you are in bed together, and he gets on top of you and doesn't do anything ? Yeah, thats weird.

WhiteWashMan

Whats stopping you from making moves on him?

He could be doing everything he knows to get with you, but is afraid to go that one final step, as he feels you might be just mucking about. Who knows. Try it on next time youre in that situation.
Or just take him out, get him drunk and jump his bones.

IRISH RAIL

have to agree with whitewash =man swallow the pride and go for it

Lola123

Ishindar wrote: »

sounds like hes got a girlfriend that u dont know about. or maybe a sexual deficiency hes embarrased about. this is very unusual behaviour and its more probable there an underlying issue with him than its a frendsy wensy thing.

+1.
Although I think it's safe to say that this is not the typical behaviour of platonic friends!

*Page*

I had simular experience and it turned out he had taken as many steps out of the friend line of events and was waiting for me to take the next one. Simply because wwe are friends and he didnt know if i felt the way he did... and i didnt.

LadyJ

WhiteWashMan wrote: »

Whats stopping you from making moves on him?

He could be doing everything he knows to get with you, but is afraid to go that one final step, as he feels you might be just mucking about. Who knows. Try it on next time youre in that situation.
Or just take him out, get him drunk and jump his bones.

Agreed.

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To put it mildly, did he have a boner?

AngryBadger

I'm uncomfortable with initiating a kiss in many situations since for me it feels like I'm imposing myself on a weaker party, hence I prefer to get some more affimative signals from a girl first. WHich of course means I've often been in the situation you describe since the women involved think they're giving me plenty of signslas, which they may be, and I may jsut be missing them

Maybe that's happening with this guy?

Faith

I've been in a situation exactly like that, but I know the guy is just like that. He behaves that way towards loads of our friends. While I'd love if it meant more in my case, I doubt it does. He's an outrageous flirt and will happily do things like pin me to the wall and pretend to do me, without it meaning anything.

So the question is, is your friend like that? Is he flirty and affectionate with lots of women? Or just with you?

SarahSassy

Sounds like he is leading you on and teasing you.... Cant imagine if he got to that point where he is lying on you and he wanted to kiss you that he wouldnt have....

Morbid.Angel

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LegacyUser

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Speaking as a bloke, you can take possibility 'B' out of the equation above!

Hot-Totty

Don't do it anymore. You'll ruin the friendship. Sounds like he thinks the cuddling is grand as long as ye don't kiss. He's just being a guy and copping a feel. Maybe You are reading too much in to it. You might set yourself up for a fall and loose a mate. Speaking from a personal experience here.

Piste

Do you like him? How responsive were you being?


If you were just lying there and not doing much he may have felt that you didn't want him on you but felt too awkward and embarrassed to say anything, if the situation comes up again maybe try and kiss him and see how he responds then?