Obsessed with sex

LegacyUser

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex. My boyfriend can't keep up with my sex drive, I can barely keep up with my sex drive....it's constantly on my mind. My boyfriend and I have exceptional sex....prob 3 or 4 times a week...might be 3 or 4 times on a Sat night, you know yourself!! But this is not enough for me...I am into everything as well, like my friends would be disgusted if they knew half of the stuff I get up to in bed. Lady in the street but a freak in the bed describes me. I suppose what I am asking is, does any other girl my age feel like this, or what do fellas think??

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Nevyn

how are you? I suggest you read the charter for this fourm, boards.ie is not a dating site
and making such offers esp when the ops has stated she has a bf will get you banned from this forum.

Cheeky_gal

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LOL!

biko

As long as your bf can keep up I cannot see any reason to slow down.

MagicMarker

Obsessed wrote: »

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex. My boyfriend can't keep up with my sex drive, I can barely keep up with my sex drive....it's constantly on my mind. My boyfriend and I have exceptional sex....prob 3 or 4 times a week...might be 3 or 4 times on a Sat night, you know yourself!! But this is not enough for me...I am into everything as well, like my friends would be disgusted if they knew half of the stuff I get up to in bed. Lady in the street but a freak in the bed describes me. I suppose what I am asking is, does any other girl my age feel like this, or what do fellas think??

What is your problem exactly? There's nothing wrong with wanting sex as much as you do. Are you unhappy that your bf can't keep up?

Some of us want more than we can chew.. If you're happy with what your bf provides then i don't see a problem.

*edit* Damn you biko!! Ruined my moment

Nevyn

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Cheeky_gal

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AHA!

how are you?

Thaedydal wrote: »

how are you? I suggest you read the charter for this fourm, boards.ie is not a dating site
and making such offers esp when the ops has stated she has a bf will get you banned from this forum.

sorrrrry

Nevyn

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Lil' Smiler

Nah some people just have a way higher sex drive than others - your bf shoud feel lucky

Speaking for myself, i can only handle so much sex sometimes whereas my bf would like alot more!

And as for your friends being disgusted, what they don't know won't hurt them! everyone enjoys different things and get their kicks from different things.

Fair play to you for having the energy, I know i couldn't!!

StormWarrior

Op I'm female too and I have the exact same prob. A blood test showed I have higher than normal levels of testosterone. Maybe you should get yours checked?

LegacyUser

Unfortunately I have the same problem and many of the girls I went out with got fed up
of me pestering them for sex.. It got to the stage that girls I really cared about were
getting fed up of me..

Some here may see it as a joke, but if you're losing people you love because of it, I personally wouldnt find it one bit funny.

I dont think there is anything you can do, if you love your bf, which Im sure you do, try and find away around it, but chances are you'll get bored of him not being able to satisfy you fully, it will cause tension, fights will occur and the relationship will fall apart.

You could try using some sort of sex aids, apart from that. I dont think much can be said.

Sorry

McGinty

Hi Op

Don't worry about considering we all come in a variety of shapes/sizes/colour, it stands to reason that we all have varying sex drives as well, don't worry about what you enjoy sexually, even though we are bombared with naked images all the time I think we live in a fairly sexless age, as an avid reader of all ages you would be suprised to learn we didn't invent sex nor did we think of the perversions we that we think we invented they have been there since the beginning of time, just enjoy and if you find you're boyfriend can't keep up, when you are apart find ways to enjoy yourself alone that should relieve some pressure, the only slight thought I had was were you confusing sexual desire with a need for intimacy (a hug for a hug, or touching just on its own) it was just a thought.

cson

Unless its affecting your work or relationship or anything else I wouldn't see it as a problem. In fact I'd say that your bf is very lucky.

Hivemind187

I used to go out with a girl with a sex drive like yours.

At 24 youre most likely in the short sexual peak everyone will experience in their lifetime. Males usually experience this between 20 and 22 females between 25 and 27 (these are reletive figures).

Provided you actually enjoy sex then there is nothing wrong with it and you arent suffering from something like nymphomania. That your boyfriend cant keep up isn't that much of an issue if you are creative. Get some toys for yourself, start out with those and finish together.

Regarding your appetites and desires for thing you think your friends would find disgusting. One word ----> Relax.

Your friends are more than likely into some things that they feel you would find revolting - we ALL do - most people are far too inhibited and afraid of what other people think oif them to indulge themselves or to admit it to other people. Provided no one is getting hurt or exploited then nothing you do is "bad" or "wrong" or anyone else business actually.

Just think of all the fun you are having that they arent

gerry99

lol lol , i find it funny that some 1 was banned 4 a wk!!!! lol c'mon lighten up !!!
i think that your really worried about nothin at all!!! u say that if your friends knew they would be shocked but im guessing that half of them get up 2 da same shananigens as u do in them bedroom!!!! im just happy that u hav a b\f who can keep up wit !!!!! keep it up!!!

Duckjob

You haven't indicated you have a specific problem other than you seem worried you might be abnormal... Unless it's causing some other problem, just relax and enjoy it I say.

I'm sure it does wonders for your bf's ego as in his mind, he can attribute the situation to his own incredible "studmuffinry"

And if he runs out of steam you can always "supplement" by way of some quality time with yourself.

I really don't see a problem.... Most people would kill to be getting that level of bouncy-bouncy in their relationship.

witchywoman

your apetite seems perfectly normal to me, most girls just act all innocent and prudish but to be honest, you should not be hard on yourself over something perfectly natural, no 2 people are the same.

Marksie

gerry 99 if you disagree with a moderator decision then pm the mod or go to feedback.

OP: there are plenty of things that can be done both to extend, prolong and satisy. For both of you.
You boyfriend *could* begin exercises to prolong his erection and his ecstatic response. Kegels and the like.
You both could totally concentrate on non-penetrative techniques.
You could of course self-pleasure in front of him.
Whatever you want to do, its a totally natural thing as witchywoman said ans the limits are your imagination.

Hivemind187. No i would disagree, there is no short sexual peak, it can be increased and prolonged as you grow older and more aware of youe sexual self. I would totally disagree with that statement tbh.

Hivemind187

Marksie wrote: »

Hivemind187. No i would disagree, there is no short sexual peak, it can be increased and prolonged as you grow older and more aware of youe sexual self. I would totally disagree with that statement tbh.

Biology would say otherwise mon ami.

Human beings do experience a heightened state of sexuality in their early to mid twenties (variance per individual).

davyjose

i find it funny that some 1 was banned 4 a wk!!!! lol c'mon lighten up !!!

Sorry to go OT, but personally I've noticed an awful lot of disrespect for people's problems on here lately. These guys aren't posting on here to keep us entertained. It's hard enough to post on here and for a lot of people it's a last resort. Sorry, but it's something that's been bothering me for a few days.
Back on topic, OP, you're asking what guys think. Well, personally I think fair play to you. I think I can sense that you're worried there might be something abnormal about it, but I can assure you, with all the people who come on here saying their partner isn't into sex, I would way prefer your boyfriend's problem than any of theirs. Just don't stray away and you're good.

prod_igy

i used to go out with a girl similar in sex drive to you. It didn't matter where we were, she wanted sex! in the cinema, in the cinema toilets, outside a niteclub (nearly inside), in fields, down alleways, friends toilets etc etc.......and the times when we were in bed, she would want to go all night, and then when i got sleep, i would wake up to her giving me a blowjob wanting sex again in the morning. As guys will admit, its fairly tough getting it back up after the first time, never mind the second time, and then again in the morning, and sometimes bein pestered to get it up.

So my advice to you is (probably not directly answering your question here) not to keep pestering your bf for sex after ye have just had it, give it at least 15-20mins if u have to, and use a vibrator or pleasure yourself in between. i ended up dumping my ex cause she was too clingy and needy for my liking, even though i have to admit the sex was unbelievable!!

cowzerp

Obsessed wrote: »

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex. My boyfriend can't keep up with my sex drive, I can barely keep up with my sex drive....it's constantly on my mind. My boyfriend and I have exceptional sex....prob 3 or 4 times a week...might be 3 or 4 times on a Sat night, you know yourself!! But this is not enough for me...I am into everything as well, like my friends would be disgusted if they knew half of the stuff I get up to in bed. Lady in the street but a freak in the bed describes me. I suppose what I am asking is, does any other girl my age feel like this, or what do fellas think??

Does not sound excessive to me anyway, maybe your fella has a low sex drive?? once at least, most days is pretty normal in a relationship, nothing excessive! especially if you's lived together

TwoShedsJackson

gerry99 wrote: »

lol lol , i find it funny that some 1 was banned 4 a wk!!!! lol c'mon lighten up !!!
i think that your really worried about nothin at all!!! u say that if your friends knew they would be shocked but im guessing that half of them get up 2 da same shananigens as u do in them bedroom!!!! im just happy that u hav a b\f who can keep up wit !!!!! keep it up!!!

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ardalardhan

Marksie, you're a filthy f*ckin pervert. Go home and finger your dog, you sick son of a bitch.

Marksie

Ardaldharthan: Banned personal abuse

Lux23

I find the older I get the higher my sex drive gets bigger. I won't go into detail but I am exactly the same as you OP so don't worry about it.

r3nu4l

As with most other people here my advice is to not feel bad about it. Ask your boyfriend if it's a problem for him, if it is just be honest and open. If he's happy for you to use sex aids then go for it, if that causes problems for him (for some guys it does ) then you need to talk some more.

As for doing things you think your friends would be shocked by...so what, so long as you and your bf enjoy it and you aren't hurting anyone else (unless they want to be hurt) that's fine. You can keep your sex life as private or as open as you want.

Obsessed

Obsessed wrote: »

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex. My boyfriend can't keep up with my sex drive, I can barely keep up with my sex drive....it's constantly on my mind. My boyfriend and I have exceptional sex....prob 3 or 4 times a week...might be 3 or 4 times on a Sat night, you know yourself!! But this is not enough for me...I am into everything as well, like my friends would be disgusted if they knew half of the stuff I get up to in bed. Lady in the street but a freak in the bed describes me. I suppose what I am asking is, does any other girl my age feel like this, or what do fellas think??

Yes , I do and yes I'm exactly the same with regards to what I would share with my friends with regards to what myself and my boyfriend would do in bed.

To be honest fella's are just fella's, let them think what they like really:)

All that matters is your boyfriend and how happy he is about your sex life and my guess is pretty happy ....but talk to him still about it.

aidan24326

Obsessed wrote: »

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex. My boyfriend can't keep up with my sex drive, I can barely keep up with my sex drive....it's constantly on my mind. My boyfriend and I have exceptional sex....prob 3 or 4 times a week...might be 3 or 4 times on a Sat night, you know yourself!! But this is not enough for me...I am into everything as well, like my friends would be disgusted if they knew half of the stuff I get up to in bed. Lady in the street but a freak in the bed describes me. I suppose what I am asking is, does any other girl my age feel like this, or what do fellas think??

To hell with what your friends would think, you're probably having more fun in the bedroom than they are. It's nobody else's business anyway. If you're a 'lady on the street and a freak in bed' I'd say you're just about what every guy wants! Having a healthy sex drive is nothing abnormal. If your boyfriend is struggling to keep up with you, using a vibrator as suggested by others might be a good way to relieve yourself.

Introduce it into your time with him aswell, use it on yourself while he watches, I couldn't see too many guys having much problem with that tbh. But if you need more sexual release then just talk to him about it, if you're doing it 3-4 times per week then he's hardly overworked! Either way there's nothing abnormal or unusual in anything you've said so just enjoy.

Miss Fluff

Obsessed wrote: »

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex. My boyfriend can't keep up with my sex drive, I can barely keep up with my sex drive....it's constantly on my mind. My boyfriend and I have exceptional sex....prob 3 or 4 times a week...might be 3 or 4 times on a Sat night, you know yourself!! But this is not enough for me...

How regularly do you masturbate OP? Your appetite sounds healthy to me, I really wouldn't worry about it unless it is having an adverse effect on your day-to-day life.

Rattlehead_ie

OP: Think about it this way. If a guy was in the situation, it would be "normal" or the response would be typical, guy is only thinking with his privates.
I can't see any reason why a girl cant be the same. Its perfectly normal to have a v high sex drive especially when your young and of course if your man does what he does v well he would seem to be a very lucky guy indeed. As Miss Fluff asked, how many times do you masturbate? Would \ Does the combination of both self pleasure and sex with your bf fullfill your need or is that still not enough? Your post if I'm right reads that you are asking is it ok to have a high sex drive and NOT your bf doesn't satisfy you enough, what do I do kinda question.

So yes perfectly normal to have a high sex drive and its great your in a relationship that has what you need, now go grab your man for a booty call and good luck.

Helix

Hivemind187 wrote: »

Biology would say otherwise mon ami.

Human beings do experience a heightened state of sexuality in their early to mid twenties (variance per individual).

doesnt "sexual peak" refer to the period of years where you are most fertile, as opposed to anything to do with sex drive?

ryoishin

Does nt sound too much to me. I had a friend who had a simular prob but it was something to do with changing what kind of pill she was using.

Sephiroth_dude

Thaedydal wrote: »

Cheeky_gal banned for a week.

Bit harsh dont you think?condsidering you did'nt ban the other guy!!!!!!!!!!

Nevyn

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Reku

Helix wrote: »

doesnt "sexual peak" refer to the period of years where you are most fertile, as opposed to anything to do with sex drive?

As I understand it it is usually used in reference to when the sex drive is at the highest and for males is in the late teens - early twenties, for females it tends to peak in the thirties. Obviously this will vary from person to person though and the intensity of the peak will also vary. Some people will never really want sex others may actually live up to the whole "thinking about it every 5 seconds" thing that someone pulled out of thin air and spread around as factual with respect to mens' thought patterns.:rolleyes:

OP, as long as you are not having any problems remaining faithful to your boyfriend and he is ok with your appetite you shouldn't really worry, if you still feel concerned though perhaps talking to your GP and getting a check-up could help you relax and just worry about enjoying yourself. It is possible that something medical is resulting in a heightened sex drive so at least then once you get the all clear you'll know that it's what is normal for you.

Marksie

Hivemind187 mentioned enhanced sexuality being linked to age. One presumes the information is from a biology book.
Experience tells me different, either that or i know a lot of individually variant people.
Eiether vway his indications that this is as good as it gets during teh 20s and then slides downhill is totally incorrect.

Personally it is improving all the time.

Talliesin

Obsessed wrote: »

I am a 24yr old girl and I genuinely think I am obsessed with sex.

Do you find that your sexual behaviour and thinking about sex and sexual matters interferes with you living your life?

If you do then you might be obsessed, though it's not the only possibility. If not, then you certainly aren't.

...skipping the bits about comparative sex drive with your boyfriend, as Marksie covers the most obvious things to try first...

Obsessed wrote: »

I am into everything as well, like my friends would be disgusted if they knew half of the stuff I get up to in bed.

It's natural to some extent to wish to be accepted by ones peers and the thought that they might be disgusted or disapprove can naturally be upsetting.

Ultimately though, it doesn't really matter what they think about your sexual preferences unless you're having sex with them, does it?

And of course, it's just as likely that at least some of them would think that you might be shocked by what they get up to. Besides which it's all relative - some people get shocked that some people do anything at all, others won't find anything eyebrow-raise-worthy in the five and a half years worth of posts in this forum.