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LegacyUser

Doodling this girl for a month, only meet on friday/sat/sun's. (no i'm not cheating and neither is she, its a work/distance thing)

Due her period last thursday/friday, doodled her fri night. I won't go into details but have doodled several times condomless including that night (yes i'm old enough to know but honestly there are "issues" that i'm not going into which prevented the use of the ones I had bought)

So no period since friday. She tested herself today (7 days after due date). Negative.

Lateness is NOT usual for her i.e > Never happened before.

She was a virgin till she met me 2 months ago though, maybe that might have something to do with it ?

I don't know if this is gonna get posted or moved or whatever but I'm really in need of advice/help here that doesn't involve a link to "How pregnancy happens".

Honestly, please.

How accurate are these things ? I know from googling 7 days is kinda early but can i relax even a little ? I honestly can't sleep since the weekend.

Her being pregnant is absolutely NOT a good thing in any way, shape or form.

Abortion/Adoption = NOT options.

Only possible outcome = me running very far away or marrying her and even if i do that we're still going to be in **** city with her family/culture.

Going to Doctor is not an option (no shes not too young blah blah) its a cultural thing (I'm abroad) basically she shouldn't be showing up near a doctor for that kind of test without her husband. Ok she "could" do it but from what she tells me it'd be a very very unpleasant experience.

btw no the above is not an excuse i.e > shes not trying to grab onto me, get maintenance etc

Any chance prayer would help ??

Lux23

Well if she is pregnant she has no choice but to go to the doctor. Tell her to leave off the testing for another week but if shes get a positive result or even another negative she must go to the doctor. Don't give me cultural reasons, there are are no excuses on earth why any woman shouldn't been seen by a doctor. Those tests are as accurate as the one the doctor gives you but the pregnancy hormone doesn't show up straight away.


How was she a virgin before you is she is already married.

Mazeire

"Doodled her":D

Anyway, yeah she could be pregnant. A test done so early often gives a false reading. If she gets her period then happy days but if its different from normal such as its lighter or is shorter then thats also something to look out for. Really i'd say either bite the bullet and go to the doctor or wait until next month and do a test then.

moco

The tests are pretty accurate and if she's 7 days late it's not too early to do one. She probably isn't pregnant.

microgirl

Lux23 wrote: »

Well if she is pregnant she has no choice but to go to the doctor. Tell her to leave off the testing for another week but if shes get a positive result or even another negative she must go to the doctor. Don't give me cultural reasons, there are are no excuses on earth why any woman shouldn't been seen by a doctor. Those tests are as accurate as the one the doctor gives you but the pregnancy hormone doesn't show up straight away.


How was she a virgin before you is she is already married.

1 - he didn't say she was already married. He said that ordinarily it would be a Bad Thing (TM) for her to go to a doctor, for pregnancy reasons, without a husband - ie, she shouldn't be pregnant/having sex if she isn't married.

2. "Don't give cultural reasons" - WTF??? Do you read the news, are you in any way aware of other cultures? If she's from an Islamic culture then there is a VERY REAL POSSIBILITY she could be killed for having sex outside marriage, never mind with someone not even from her own culture. Not saying that that *is* the situation, just pointing out that cultures most definitely exist wherein it is not healthy to go to a doctor for a pregnancy test if you are not married.

Beruthiel

microgirl wrote: »

If she's from an Islamic culture then there is a VERY REAL POSSIBILITY she could be killed for having sex outside marriage.

Lets not jump to conclusions.

ZygOte

microgirl wrote: »

1 - he didn't say she was already married. He said that ordinarily it would be a Bad Thing (TM) for her to go to a doctor, for pregnancy reasons, without a husband - ie, she shouldn't be pregnant/having sex if she isn't married.

2. "Don't give cultural reasons" - WTF??? Do you read the news, are you in any way aware of other cultures? If she's from an Islamic culture then there is a VERY REAL POSSIBILITY she could be killed for having sex outside marriage, never mind with someone not even from her own culture. Not saying that that *is* the situation, just pointing out that cultures most definitely exist wherein it is not healthy to go to a doctor for a pregnancy test if you are not married.

well stated, cultural rules/beliefs could have a massive impact on this girls future depending on where she is from. aside from this pregancy tests are very accurate and i personally would assume that if a negative result is found a week after her due date then things are fine and she is just late.

in future use protection. unless you want to have a child always use protection.

xeroshero

A week after due date is def not too early to test so I think you can relax a bit. As she was a virgin before meeting you, it is most likely just her body adjusting to these changes - change in hormones etc. Happened me too for the first couple of months of starting to "doodle" (love that!) Cycle was a bit all over the place - I know the worry (even though we had always used, extra safe, protection - I still can't help but worry!)

Good luck but try not to worry - keep us informed

Mazeire

I would have thought that doing a test only a week after the doodle date that might have gotten her pregnant was too early to give a true reading but there you go.

Pigletlover

Mazeire wrote: »

I would have thought that doing a test only a week after the doodle date that might have gotten her pregnant was too early to give a true reading but there you go.

The test was taken a week after the due date of her period, not the 'doodle date'.

OP, as other posters have pointed out these tests are usually quite accurate, with some you can even take them before the period due date, so I doubt your girlfriend has taken the test 'too early'. I'd recommend for your girlfriend to take another one and make sure that she is taking it correctly before going to a doctor, considering her culture.

LegacyUser

People thank you so much.

I assumed PI must get this question all the time especially from young ones who don't know better.

Well I'm not a young one and she's older and really thank you for answering in the manner you all have.

I really have not slept more then a few hours since last weekend.

I'm gonna relax a bit and get her to take another test in a week.

Shes actually going abroad (from her country) soon so this woulda put a big dampener on her plans as well as mine. If she gets her period OR takes another test and it says no next week can I assume I'm safe ?

We were planning to stop seeing each other next week so she can get ready to head without us developing more feelings etc and I'd really like to shake hands and say "slán" as well. Beginning to like the girl too much.

BUT I most definitely do NOT want to seem like I'm giving her the heave ho because of this preggy scare especially if she comes back in a few weeks telling me I have a wee problem on the way. i.e > I don't want to say "Goodbye" only to get a nasty surprise soon thereafter. I also don't want to seem like I'm messing her round, shes the most gentle, good hearted person I have ever met.

MagicMarker

I am assuming, since you haven't clarified, that there was no contraception used at all? As in, no pill?

What on earth were you thinking man? If she's not on the pill and you can't use a condom for whatever reason, then DON'T have sex.

You are very lucky if she's not pregnant, I think a bit of cop on is needed from here on in don't you think?

rainbowtrout

If abortion/ adoption, going to the doctor and pregnancy is not an option then sex without contraception is also not an option.

why take the risk? And because her period is late is no excuse for not using it. She's not gonna know if she's going to be late or not.

I've been up to 12 days late and a week early on different occasions for no good reason. You just can't take the risk

Chances are she isn't pregnant on this occasion and if the test is negative, it probably is negative, but as you say 'doodled several times condomless'.. that's just asking for trouble really.

LegacyUser

MagicMarker wrote: »

I am assuming, since you haven't clarified, that there was no contraception used at all? As in, no pill?

No pill but (and i know how stupid this sounds) i pulled out.

What on earth were you thinking man? If she's not on the pill and you can't use a condom for whatever reason, then DON'T have sex.

You are very lucky if she's not pregnant, I think a bit of cop on is needed from here on in don't you think?

I know, I'm usually the one giving these lectures.

Lux23

microgirl wrote: »

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2. "Don't give cultural reasons" - WTF??? Do you read the news, are you in any way aware of other cultures? If she's from an Islamic culture then there is a VERY REAL POSSIBILITY she could be killed for having sex outside marriage, never mind with someone not even from her own culture. Not saying that that *is* the situation, just pointing out that cultures most definitely exist wherein it is not healthy to go to a doctor for a pregnancy test if you are not married.

Yea I didn't read his post properly but Id rather you didn't speak to me like, just because its an online forumn doesn't mean you don't need any manners.

MzFusspot

Mazeire wrote: »

I would have thought that doing a test only a week after the doodle date that might have gotten her pregnant was too early to give a true reading but there you go.

Looks like the doodle date and the due date were the same date

LegacyUser

i cant stop laughing, never heard that word before, has me in tears!!!! can't beat a bit of doodling

littlebug

I don't know why so many people are telling you that your girlfriend is propbably not pregnant A woman's period comes approx 14 days after ovulation. If the cycle is a bit out of whack and longer than usual that means that both ovulation and the period will be later than usual.

A negative test now indicates that your girlfriend more than likely didn't get pregnant around day 14 of her cycle. However ,if for some unknown reason (these things just happen sometimes) ovulation occurred a bit later than usual e.g 2 weeks later than usual and you doodled at that time then she could still be pregnant. It would still be too early to show up on a test because her period might not actually be due for another week. So really you won't know for definite for another week.

Mazeire

Pigletlover wrote: »

The test was taken a week after the due date of her period, not the 'doodle date'.

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He doodled her on the due date, from what I can gather at least, so both were one and the same.

DOODLE DOODLE DOOOOO!!!!:D

LegacyUser

Mazeire wrote: »

He doodled her on the due date, from what I can gather at least, so both were one and the same.

DOODLE DOODLE DOOOOO!!!!:D

Its enough to make me want to stop doodling for life.

Seriously though, I'm gonna get her to take another one next week. (Still late)

lizzyvera

stupidcondoms wrote: »

Beginning to like the girl too much.

...shes the most gentle, good hearted person I have ever met.

Well if you're possibly having a baby together I think you should stay in touch and let yourself fall in love to be honest.
I've had a pregnancy scare and it really taught me to be more responsible, but the more I thought about it the more manageable a pregnancy seemed. With nine months to plan there really is no need to panic or decide about adoption etc.
Anyway, good luck!

LegacyUser

I'm NOT going to be a Daddy!!!!

Thanks for the advice guys, just letting you know about my lucky escape.