Still haven't done anything...is this normal??

smileysurfer

Ok so here goes..... Been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, everythings great, wer in love!! one thing tho...we still havent had sex!!Some heavy petting tho!its not a big issue for me as I havent had very much experience before!but I know he has and Im wondering why he hasnt mentioned it!! Is it normal??
He did ask me back to his once or twice after a nite out but we were both really drunk so I didnt want to! Im just concerned that its gone so long now without anything happening that we'l become friends instead of 'lovers'! or if he's getting frustrated!he hasnt said anything about it tho!
I really am crazy about him and always thinking of him so I want to be with him. We find it hard to have time alone together also so maybe thats to blame?
I dunno, Im confused, any help wud really be appreciated!

tbh

how old are you?

under 20: normal enough

20-25: unusual but not weird

25+:just unusual.

Cathmandooo

Take your time there's no rush. It'll happen when you're both ready. Be grateful he hasnt mentioned it, that's very good of him not to try pushing you. It is normal and will probably feel extra special that you've gotten to know each other very well before doing it.

Storm_rages

Hi OP,
can i just ask what age you are?
I think as long as there is plenty of passion, kissing.
i think he is just waiting till you are ready!

finbarrk

I think you will have to draw it down in conversation some night and say that you would be intrested in going a bit further with your relationship.

smileysurfer

Well wer both early 20's? and the attraction is most definitely there as any chance we get theres 'passion'', maybe im just making a big issue out of nothing?

tbh

unless he's rejected you when you've made a move, I think he's just waiting for you to tell him you want to. You said that you've knocked him back a couple of times, so maybe he thinks you are still making up your mind. Surprise him!

Miss Fluff

Yep, think you need to make it clear you would like to get jiggy with it tbh;)

MagicMarker

What's that word.....??? ah yes, COMMUNICATION!

How can you be with someone for 4 months and not be able to talk about this kind of stuff?

Overheal

You're the gatekeeper not him give him the key if thats what you decide.

ballooba

I've been there before. Suggested it twice and got shot down. Left it up to her after that.

LoanShark

Maybe, He's Holding Out Incase He Can't Get You a Good Christmas Present!:rolleyes:

Seriously,

Has He Mentioned It?

Has He made any effort to ?

Does he stay over in your place?

Would kinda understand not talking about it,We're men we do those sort of things!!!
But After one month you would think he would have tried something!!

aidan24326

smileysurfer wrote: »

Ok so here goes..... Been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, everythings great, wer in love!! one thing tho...we still havent had sex!!Some heavy petting tho!its not a big issue for me as I havent had very much experience before!but I know he has and Im wondering why he hasnt mentioned it!! Is it normal??
He did ask me back to his once or twice after a nite out but we were both really drunk so I didnt want to! Im just concerned that its gone so long now without anything happening that we'l become friends instead of 'lovers'! or if he's getting frustrated!he hasnt said anything about it tho!
I really am crazy about him and always thinking of him so I want to be with him. We find it hard to have time alone together also so maybe thats to blame?
I dunno, Im confused, any help wud really be appreciated!

Nothing that unusual. He's probably waiting for you to give the green light so to speak. Hardly much danger of you just being friends if there's passionate kisses, touching etc. That's hardly 'friend' behaviour! So you've nowt to worry about.

Stay over with him next time and let nature take its course. Have some condoms handy.

the_syco

smileysurfer wrote: »

He did ask me back to his once or twice after a nite out but we were both really drunk so I didnt want to!

Well, he's had the balls to try to get it on twice, and so far has had no luck, so best bet is to go on a "romantic evening", not drink too much, and get it on:cool: