Should I get her a Christmas pressie?

LegacyUser

Hi,

I am not sure about this one. I met a girl recently and got her number etc. We have arranged to meet up next week.

Now I know this sounds stupid. As it is coming up to Christmas, is it appropriate to buy and present or is that weird? Its not that I don't want to its just that I thought she may think it weird or then again if I didn't she would think I am stingy. Assuming the first date goes well of course.

I would like your opinions on this.

Miss Fluff

WAY too soon. You've just gotten her number and haven't even hooked up yet. So she is more or less a randomer who you will be meeting up with.

LegacyUser

I've had 4 dates with the girl I am seeing and next week will be the 5th. I think I may see her over Christmas week depending on how next week goes, but it's not for certain. Not sure where it is going to go but would ppl recommend getting something small, and if so, what?

Cheers

Dord

Nope, wayyyy too soon. You could send her a merry xmas text

Tigger

nothing wrong with christmas presents
a nice plant or some flowers if she likes you it'll be taken well if not then who cares

is_that_so

If you do make it something really really small. Personally I'd go with the text message.

antodeco

Have you started "seeing her" yet? I reckon I would buy something small, but not give it to her unless you can see something forming from it. Plus, you can stash it in your pocket, so if she gets you something, you can just take it out. Being honest, theres nothing nicer than a nice meal out somwhere. Use that as a present and date in one?!

CathyMoran

I only started dating my husband in the November of the year we started dating but he got me something for Christmas (even though we were on a break at the time), it is still a treasured item (a huge teddy bear), I think that there is no harm in getting a present.

biko

Way too early for stuff. Just pay for drinks and food.

ivorygal

I'd bring her out for a Christmas meal - you're treat!

I think that would be appropriate - and very thoughtful, without being too full on!

Overheal

id get her a token... something. Dont go out and spend your wage on something huge or crazy just get her something simple.

spinandscribble

depends on the story between the two of ye. if its a first date and you're not too sure its going somewhere, no gift. if its going somewhere clearly, like you both havnt been able to stop txting eachother or something, a SMALL gift might be nice.

Rb

Don't even think of it, it's far too soon.

MagicMarker

IF you're going to see her on Xmas DAY then get her a card. If you really don't want be empty handed then buy her some flowers.

This is only if you're seeing each other on the day. If not, then forget about it and just take her out when to dinner when you do see her. Make sure you send a text on the day though.

Overheal

oh if youre going for flowers; no roses. definitely no roses.

humbert

Definitely no present on the first date. After that, see how you get on. If you're comfortable around each other a small present could be nice, otherwise maybe not.

SoCute

I hope you take the collective advice here and don't get her a present.

Good luck.

LegacyUser

thanks for all your responses. We haven't even had a first date yet!! :O

We met and did a bit of drunken flirting and exchanged numbers. We have texted quite alot since and we will be meeting up. We are meeting for drinks. That is all there is to it at the moment.

If there was a second date I might struggle to get a restaurant just before christmas. I think the text on the day would do the trick.

angelicsaz

there is somethin disguistingly romantic about xmas, it turns people into terrible saps... get her a present if ya want to.

I met a guy on the night link last year on the 21st, we met up again the 23 on the 24 we went to the pub and he was dropping me home i was presented with a small present ( a picture frame) it was sweet and thoughtful (id be complaining that i couldnt find nice picture frames anywhere)... for some reason after xmas was over, the decorations were down the magic dissappeared...... strange that

Mulan

Think of anytime you got a present.!! Didn't it feel good?
Think of anytime that you gave a present!!. Didn't that feel good?

Give her a pressie man.
Make some good.

P.S once its not a premarrige voucher!!!

Ellsbells

Nope its way too soon. Bring her somewhere nice for a cocktail when you do meet but dont buy a present. Would appear desparate IMHO.

Mulan

Ok, just flowers then!!

LegacyUser

I'd say get her something small like a teddy. Don't give it to her on the first date whatever you do! Closer to Christmas!

I'm in a similar situation myself. I'm just starting to see a guy but we both really like eachother. He's very sweet and I wanna get him a small token for Christmas. I don't wanna get him a teddy...Bit girly! Any suggestions for a small token to give to a guy? Guys what would ye like?!

BTW I'd love it if my guy got me a teddy.

Mulan

Well done to you.

If he likes music get him the new Eagles album, its great!!

Its the season for giving.
Lets all enjoy it

LegacyUser

Thanks people! We had our first date! Hopefully there will be a second. I doubt if it will be a meal as everywhere will be packed and booked up this week. Unless its pub grub!

I was thinking of getting an xmas card or something?

Pigletlover

I got together with my boyfriend around this time 4 years ago, it was a bit awkward at the start because we didn't really have the 'exclusive' chat. Anyway, I wasn't expecting a present, but he had gone to the trouble of finding out what perfume I wore and bought it for me. It was really sweet. So I'm going to say you should get her something, just something small and not too expensive because you don't want her to think you're coming on too strong and you don't want to embarrass her either in case she doesn't get you something.

decies

well i met a girl 3 weeks ago.first official date went for a meal.Then i went and got her a nice london burberry set nice pink wrapping paper and a bow,had my eye on a lovely pair of red ankle peppe boots for her.Last saturday went to cinema just rubbed her leg the usual crack,cinema over ,chat in car " not working out" lonely walk home on my own.Happy xmas :(:(:(
Ps London burberry set ladies :o:o

MagicMarker

decies wrote: »

well i met a girl 3 weeks ago.first official date went for a meal.Then i went and got her a nice london burberry set nice pink wrapping paper and a bow,had my eye on a lovely pair of red ankle peppe boots for her.Last saturday went to cinema just rubbed her leg the usual crack,cinema over ,chat in car " not working out" lonely walk home on my own.Happy xmas :(:(:(
Ps London burberry set ladies :o:o

Burberry?? Classy!

pressie wrote: »

I was thinking of getting an xmas card or something?

You've been given plenty of advice on this thread, have you read any of it?

Mulan

Rubbing her leg in the cinema?
I thought that went out the window along time ago.

Can anyone tell me whats the normal proceedure at the cinema on a date. Surely this is not it.

Regards

csm

I was with a girl recently that i'd known for a couple months. i'll probably be getting her something small. it's relevant to a chat we were having so i think it's fine.

everyone likes giving and getting presents, i don't see a problem as long as you're not coming on too strong

LegacyUser

No worries now guys! Didn't work out! blah blah blah

Dizzyblonde

pressie wrote: »

No worries now guys! Didn't work out! blah blah blah

I'm sorry to hear that - she obviously doesn't realise she's let a nice sensitive guy get away. Plenty more fish in the sea!

LegacyUser

Dizzyblonde wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear that - she obviously doesn't realise she's let a nice sensitive guy get away. Plenty more fish in the sea!

Thanks, yea on a bit of a downer today!

It was probably not a good idea to get involved in anything before xmas!

Cathmandooo

pressie wrote: »

Thanks, yea on a bit of a downer today!

It was probably not a good idea to get involved in anything before xmas!

Aw no, you poor thing! Well she missed out there, shame on her! Someone better deserves ye round up the lads and have a night out and forget her!

l3LoWnA

pressie wrote: »

Thanks, yea on a bit of a downer today!
It was probably not a good idea to get involved in anything before xmas!

Awh shucks - that's too bad!

OH well, I'm single for Christmas too You're not alone! Less pressies to buy Although, went pressie shopping with my friend the other day and she was buying lots of things for her new boyfriend and I must admit I was kinda envious

Then my other friends boyfriend rang me yesterday to ask me whether he should get my friend a digi-cam or camcorder for Christmas and which one

OH and my other friend asked me to be her bridesmaid....whats' that saying....always the....grrrrrr......hehe

But I'm happy to be single, I really am, I think it's just Christmas that makes me wish it was different, I've even started ex-texting in the last few days to kill the boredom/loneliness :eek:

cowzerp

pressie wrote: »

Hi,

I am not sure about this one. I met a girl recently and got her number etc. We have arranged to meet up next week.

Now I know this sounds stupid. As it is coming up to Christmas, is it appropriate to buy and present or is that weird? Its not that I don't want to its just that I thought she may think it weird or then again if I didn't she would think I am stingy. Assuming the first date goes well of course.

I would like your opinions on this.

If you like her i'd say flowers and a card..