should I just give it up and start again

LegacyUser

I usually post on boards but an going unreg for this. I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but here goes anyway.

I am in my early thirties and I have been in my current Job / Career for just over 7 years. over the last couple of years I have grown to hate the job so much that it has got to the point where I feel physically sick thinking about it (no Joke I nearly chucked this morning driving in). I'm not sleeping well at night and I contstanly worry about things to do with my job.

I have been in the same place for the last 7 years and in that time have come to be the only person in the company that does the Job, so everybody relies on me.

I have lost all intersest in IT (which of course makes the Job 100 times harder)

I am on a fairly good salary.

My confidence in my self is shot to pieces and i constantly feel like a failure for letting myself get into a situation like this.

I would dearly love to just hand in my notice and start afresh at something. Trouble is I have no idea what I want to do. I think sometimes that different careers may suit me only to disregard them again. I always seem to find reasons why I shouldn't pick a different career /Job.

I fianlly came clean to my wife about it yesterday and she is being really supportive. He said I should do what makes me happy but I can see in her eyes that she is very scared about what will happen if I give up my job

sorry i know I'm rambling...

Now to add to the stress we have a sizeable mortgage that we can handle fairly easily now but if I was to change careers i would probably be starting at the bottom again.

I would appreciate any advice that anyone could give, or if anyone was in a similar situation how thety handled it.

Lawless_Samurai

It sounds like you really wanna change jobs but are just looking for some encourgement so...... CHANGE YOUR JOB!!! You know deep down its what you want.

There is no harm in looking around while you're at your current job and making plans to move in the future rather then just quit. That way the mortgage won't be as much as a problem.

I have a cousin who was in a situation not unlike yours and eventually he decided to change jobs. It was a big risk and yes money was a factor for a while when he was starting out in his new job but he managed and since has been much happier and has never looked back.

I think with the mortage if you sat down and worked things out and broke things down you'd manage it alot better than you think.....

Anyway went on a bit there but if it were me I'd go looking for a new job.


Whatever you decide, Good Luck!!! :):D

How Strange

change your job. Life is too short yadayadayada.... but all of those usual bits of advice are so true. How many more years of your life are you going to waste doing something 5 days a week/48 weeks a year that you hate and makes you feel physically sick?

Go to a few agencies and see if they can offer alternative roles which may match your skills (not necessarily your work experience).

I had a sh*tty job for a couple of years, felt like you and was stressed to the eyeballs every day even at the weekends. I reached my breaking point, sent my cv out to a few places and had a far far better job, better money, better hours and prospects within a month.

It can be that easy. You just have to make the effort.

Feelgood

Its strange but some people would actually crave the position you are in, you have a niche within your company and you indespensible!.

I'm and IT head by trade too and one of the guys that used to work with me was in your position, hated the job, thought he was wasting his life and he was making close to 100K a year (Programmer). So he went out and trained up as a pilot at 39 years of age and is now making about 34k a year and is happy as a pig in sh!!e.

The point I am trying to make is that your never too old to start a new career, money doesn't bring happiness and you should work to live not live to
work!.

Find out what you want from life and go do it, everything is possible..:)

iMax

If you've lost interest in it then you need to have a change (maybe just location rather than career), however, from personal experience, I quit a lucrative & now I look at it cushy job in IT three years ago. I now work for myself contracting & while I no longer have a boss to answer to, there's a huge amount to be said for having someone else pay your holiday pay & pension & health insurance etc. even having a sick day has a huge effect on my income. The stress about not being paid is massive (right now I'm owed over €2k for some work done last October & despite phone calls & emails, I can't even get a call back.

My advice to you is think hard & long about what to do, sometimes we can have a huge problem with work for a while, but it will pass. seven years with the one place is a long time, I was a similar length of time with mine & right now would give anything to wipe out my spontaneity of three years ago & still be there earning 50k a year, not having to worry about anything else.

If I didn't do it I'd never know, but now I do... The grass is not always greener.

TheEx

Sounds like you have loads of other skills as well as IT. I'm sure if you are high up the chain you have great people skills. Get yourself an appointment with a registered occupational psych asap and get out of the rut. Money is nothing if you aint happy... Its just not sustainable. You can do it!

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies people. I discussed it ia bit further with a family member last night and she told me to hang in there and have something else lined up before I hand in my notice. she is right of course.

I think it is more fear than anything else that is stopping me.
Anyway I'm gonna send my CV to a few agencies and see what they think.

thanks again for the advice

Lawless_Samurai

Cool Fair play to ya dude. Good Luck!

cudman

Cu wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies people. I discussed it ia bit further with a family member last night and she told me to hang in there and have something else lined up before I hand in my notice. she is right of course.

I think it is more fear than anything else that is stopping me.
Anyway I'm gonna send my CV to a few agencies and see what they think.

thanks again for the advice

In case you do come back to read this I will throw in my two cents.
Your health has to come first!! You re obviously qualified,experienced and valued by your current employer so something else should come along fairly soon. If you feel the need to change career there are plenty of qualifications you can obtain in two years and if you can get by financially for those two years wouldnt it be woth it?
You may start at or near the bottom somewhere else but isnt it bettere than turning yourself inside out going to a job that you detest?
Anyway hope this was some help to you (I was in a similar situation a few years ago myself).