problems in bed

balrog

hello everyone, I have read a number of threads relating to guys coming to fast. well i have the other problem, i find it hard to when having sex and always have not even coming when i did it the first time. I can when i **** but even somtimes this can be time consuming. the real problems is my wife now thinks i dont really find her a turn on which i do and have told her repeatly. has anyone else had this problem ???

MikeHoncho

Do you stay hard or lose your erection? Id stop thinking about it so much to be honest. Sex isnt just about ejaculating. Sure that just means its over. Relax and enjoy yourself and see what happens.

dream brother

I had this problem too, its catch 22 really! i can fcuk for ages and not come but then the GF feels its her fault! i dont mind though probably try not **** as much, especially before sex!!!

Pigman II

Stop **** then. Save your ammo for the main event and your find yourself turning into a glue gun.

Saruman

Does it bother you, or her?
If its only her, then tell her you are doing tantra and you do not need ejaculate

Keyzer

Pigman II wrote: »

Stop **** then. Save your ammo for the main event and your find yourself turning into a glue gun.

I love your responses...

k-a-t-e

Hey as long as you stay hard, I'm not seeing the prob - it just means you go on til she's finished. That's something to be proud of. Def go with the tantric thing - it'll make you look good.

ex_infantry man

Pigman II wrote: »

Stop **** then. Save your ammo for the main event and your find yourself turning into a glue gun.

hahahahahaha thats very true but shur wud,nt delayed ejaculation be a good thing for the woman with her possibly having multiple orgasm so why would your wife be thinking your not turned on by her

LegacyUser

I can sympathise with the OP - it's something that has always happened to me.

I've only ever cum from sex once, and I can go for hours. Generally have to finish myself off or get the girl to finish me off manually. My ex loved this though, she'd cum 4 or 5 times before I was done, and this always meant big brownie points for me!

It is frustrating at times, I mean there is no real way to have a quickie - but I found if I didn't masturbate, didn't drink and I didn't think about it too much then I'd enjoy it alot more. I'd much prefer to be in this situation than blowing my load in 5 seconds.

So don't worry about it too much - I used to beat myself up about it, but at the end of the day it's something that isn't your fault. Enjoy and embrace it!

MagicMarker

Are you using condoms? That will obviously make you last a lot longer. But you're wife needs to stop being so womanly:) I don't mean any offence by that, but would she prefer you cum within seconds? I think not.

Drummo

k-a-t-e wrote: »

Hey as long as you stay hard, I'm not seeing the prob - it just means you go on til she's finished. That's something to be proud of.

So as long as she peaks, that's all that matters? :rolleyes:

Lux23

To be honest I can understand the way his wife is feeling, you feel like you are doing something wrong when your with a man who takes ages to come. I suppose all you can do is reassure her that your are really turned on by her and that you are enjoying every minute of it even if you find it difficult to come.

aidan24326

Are you on any medications?

k-a-t-e

Drummo wrote: »

So as long as she peaks, that's all that matters? :rolleyes:

EXACTLY:D

LegacyUser

I understand completely. I had this problem for years and have just started to get over it in the last few months.

As for those saying its a great thing you obviously have no idea how frustrating this can be. For years this really freaked me out and I thought I'd never be able to cum during sex.

I would say in my case condoms were a factor (you have to have a very trusting partner before you should ditch those) but I also had issues about fully relaxing during sex. I think finally being able to let go with the right person also helped.

It can really build up in your head aswell so this would also be counter productive to fully 'letting go'.

If you've cum once its at least a start. I find as time goes on the frequency increases.