Would this be weird?

LegacyUser

I met a girl at a graduate assessment day, the other day and we got on pretty well. I was chatting to her a fair bit and it turns out she shares a common interest of mine that almost no other girls have. It’d be unusual for a guy to know more about this interest than me, but for a girl that would be unheard of!

I stayed chatting to her and the group (mainly her) for a while after I finished up for the day, she didn’t finish until a couple of hours after me. When I left I was thinking to myself that if I was there for longer that I would / should have asked her for her number (even though it may have been a bit inappropriate on an interview day), but never got the chance. She made quite an impression on me, she’s funny, smart, good looking, out going, genuinely nice and shares my biggest interest – which is the main attraction if I’m honest, a MASSIVE attraction!

So anyways I was on bebo and just saw that one of the people who I’m friends with has her as a friend. Would it be weird if I sent her a bebo email? Maybe asking her how she got on on her day with the intention of asking her out? Or would I look like a complete physco? Girls, what would you think if this was you? Would you think stalker?

I know that it may look a bit desperate…”a girl that you were chatting to at an interview day” She might be like “who the hell is this physco??” if she doesn’t remember me! I wouldn’t normally think of doing this, only it’s so rare to find a girl with this interest!!!

I know that if she doesn’t reply or sends me a “please f off” that I’ll probably never see her again (even though I could end up working with her next year). But the other side is that in reality I don’t have much to loose other than looking weird to a girl who I may never see again!

Should I give it a shot?

Thanks in advance.

Ickle Magoo

Seems to me you have everything to gain & only a little bit of pride to loose...:)

m83

Do it! Do it! Do it!

strawberrybox

yeah defo go for it whats the worst that can happen she doesnt reply or says no either way your no worse off than you are now-
Speaking as a girl i would be chuffed that i made such an impression on someone that i just spoke to for a few minutes and i wouldnt be thinking stalker but ah isnt that nice it took a lot of balls to email me. Btw what is this "interest" you keep going on about????????
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fuzzywiggle

Go for it! She won't think you're a physco at all..''hey, i stumbled on your page..you're a friend of a friend! how's things,what did you think of the other day'' etc. etc! Don't ask her out in the first mail though..get a momentum going! Good luck!

simu

No, not weird. Do it.

Yuugib

lolz my story is a bit different but once i saw a guy at the bus stop once, about half an hour drive from my house, since then it just hit me that this is the right person to be with, but since i was too stubborn i didnt come up to him.. so it took me eight months to find him and actually talk to him now we happily together for 7 months now.. bright future ahead too

Anyways, my point is if u really feel that this is the right girl, i do not think that "beboing" her will be as u said "wierd".. lolz
Dont miss a chance now u ll regret it in the future!
stalkin is not always bad lolz

Dord

Sounds like a good idea to me too.

Just send her a message or leave a comment saying that you noticed that one of your friends was hers also. Ask how she got on, blah blah blah you can pretty much take it from there. Good Luck!

Don't forget to tell us how it goes.

Star Lord

Just drop her a message on her bebo commenting on seeing her smiling out of your mutual friends bebo page (a little bit of flattery goes a long way!) and ask how she felt she got on.

Nothing whatsoever to lose. Chances are she'll be flattered, and you could at the very least have a new friend!

Dinxminx

Depends on the "interest" really....

LadyJ

Sounds perfectly fine to me. I'd do it anyway. What's the worst that could happen?

Now, what in the name of God is this interest?

Lockstep

LadyJ wrote: »

Sounds perfectly fine to me. I'd do it anyway. What's the worst that could happen?

Now, what in the name of God is this interest?

Seconded.
What is the mysterious interest?

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice everyone, I think that I just needed a bit of encouragement so I'll give it a go and see what happens. As a lot of people have said, I've got nothing to loose!!

The interest is nothing weird (as I may have made it sound!!) its just more of a thing that guys are into and its unusual for a girl to be really into it, so thats why it impressed me so much!

I'll post an update if I get a reply or no reply or a f**k off you physco!!!

Star Lord

Weirdo? wrote: »

The interest is nothing weird (as I may have made it sound!!) its just more of a thing that guys are into and its unusual for a girl to be really into it, so thats why it impressed me so much!

That's why we're all wondering what it is, you're so mysterious about it!

OP wrote:

My interests are football, reading, walking, miget porn...

Intriguing lady wrote:

Really? I love miget porn too!

I know I know...

Good luck anyway and let us know how you get on

blackheartfairy

ah do go for it!!! take it slow though!!!!

AngryBadger

Don't see anything wrong with this. She'll probably be delighted to get the attention at the very least, and if she reciprocates, then great, if not, sure nothing ventured nothing gained man.

Wacker

I work in a job where I have access to personal information all day long, and I encountered a girl through work once who lived near me and had common interests. I was interested, but I never followed up because to do so would be unethical. She hadn't sent her details in to be solicited, etc. I'm 95% sure that even if she weren't interested, she wouldn't have gotten me in trouble, but why take the chance?

This situation is different, as you encountered her details on Bebo, a publin page. You should absolutely contact her, and I wish you all the best in the endeavour.

geminilady

yeah do it ! tells us how u get on!

stovelid

The fact that she is friends with your friend makes it quite plausible that you chanced upon her bebo.

Do it.

Nothing to lose and lots to gain.

seraphimvc

be confident dude!!goooo!!!:D

p/s: i guess the mysterious interest would be....video gaming?:ptell me if i am right!

Jim

Did it before myself. Met a friend of a friend at a birthday party and got on well with her, regreted not asking for her number but didn't feel appropriate at the time. About a week later I thought "**** it" and mailed her over Bebo and then a few days later we met for coffee.

Aura

Seriously I wouldn't think this a bit weird and chances are if you got on well she's wondering about you too be it in a "kinda fancied him" way or even just a "cool guy" way.

Either way nothing to lose so go for it!

Love random encounters like that.

They're what make the world so interesting.

Best of luck.

A.

Megatron091

Definately do it absolutely nothing to lose.. Just keep it plain and simple in the initial mail though..

And if she didnt forget you it means you have passed through her thoughts since then and she will be definately interested..

halfinch

sure whats the worst that could happen

So she could think you are stalking her get the gardai involved and you could arrested for stalking

But what are the chances of that happen

Have a good time;)

LegacyUser

I so want to know if you asked her out. If you havent already you just soooooooo have to.

Similar thing is happening to me and he hasnt asked me out, very disappointed as this eye contact thing has been going on for ages, now i just avoid him as i dont think he is ever going to approach me. so be confident.

Victor

Rubypenny wrote: »

I so want to know if you asked her out. If you havent already you just soooooooo have to.

Stop being such a tourist.

Similar thing is happening to me and he hasnt asked me out, very disappointed as this eye contact thing has been going on for ages, now i just avoid him as i dont think he is ever going to approach me. so be confident.

Approach him. He'll like it ... and maybe you will too.