best friend that brags

half_life_man

hey guys, ok well i have this best friend and he's always bragging and boasting about things i do not have and he tries to show how much better of a life he has than me. this really pisses me off about him. He's always going on about how much money he has because he has a better job than me, how he has a girlfriend, how he lost his virginity and i havnt. (its not like im bad with girls but i've never gone far with a girl). He tries to put me down a lot and make me feel jealous of him. However he is a good friend tho i've known him nearly my whole life and he would do anything for me like, it's just sometime the bragging does get to my head! According to most girls in my class im better looking which is something to be happy about but i can never brag bout my good traits when he'll just slag me bout not havin a gf and a job. Anyone ever had to deal with a boasting friend or is it just me? I am just hoping its just an immature phase he'll grow out of

TheJoker

This fella obviously has self esteem issues, or is just extremely immature. Best just to ignore him. People have a tendency to see right through these people very quickly.

Ill put it to ya this way...If I was out with him and he was trying to make himself look better by belittling me to a group of girls it wouldn't be long before they would grow bored of his childish carry on. And thats when you can really come into your own...

If you think about it that way he is really doing you a favour!

Dr.Nightdub

I reckon you have a former best friend

estar

half_life_man wrote: »

hey guys, ok well i have this best friend and he's always bragging and boasting about things i do not have and he tries to show how much better of a life he has than me. this really pisses me off about him. He's always going on about how much money he has because he has a better job than me, how he has a girlfriend, how he lost his virginity and i havnt. (its not like im bad with girls but i've never gone far with a girl). He tries to put me down a lot and make me feel jealous of him. However he is a good friend tho i've known him nearly my whole life and he would do anything for me like, it's just sometime the bragging does get to my head! According to most girls in my class im better looking which is something to be happy about but i can never brag bout my good traits when he'll just slag me bout not havin a gf and a job. Anyone ever had to deal with a boasting friend or is it just me? I am just hoping its just an immature phase he'll grow out of

its really lame to go on about losing your virginity tbh. like who cares?
its not a competition. in this day and age losing your virginity is fairly
easy if you dont care who with, or who you go out with. the hard
thing is having standards and waiting for the right person and not
treating yourself casually. thats my opinion anyway.

people grow out of friendships all the time.

its part of life. make some new friends and distance yourself from him

ignore or feed back all smart comments to him = make them unenjoyable
to him by saying something smart back

if he doesnt learn what your boundaries are, move on and keep him as
an acquantaince.

Overheal

estar wrote: »

its really lame to go on about losing your virginity tbh. like who cares?
its not a competition. in this day and age losing your virginity is fairly
easy if you dont care who with, or who you go out with. the hard
thing is having standards and waiting for the right person and not
treating yourself casually. thats my opinion anyway.

if he doesnt learn what your boundaries are, move on and keep him as
an acquantaince.

+1. Let the last reason for losing your virginity be peer pressure.

He sounds like he has real esteem issues: like look at me, I have some esteem issues and yeah when I have something nice I love to brag: 'painted this brilliant looking model it took me 2 months' (in fairness - that tank is just fecking gorgeous); or about beating you at a game or having a better project or grade or for a month or two there it was by brand new laptop - too many times have I had second hand hardware: well this sh1t is brand new and I shamelessly compare it to my friends'.

Anyway from my perspective as a bragster, the best thing people seem to do is find something else to hold over them [me]: for me its usually money. rich bastards and their Grants! Its not my fault im Non-EU! Or the real kicker: brand new laptop = vista = sh1t = SO BRAND NEW that it wont run XP without the hardware having a fit oh god I hate it.

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In any rate OP if your friend didnt have these things to crutch himself up on there is little to keep him from being a sad bastard start to take away his crutch, eventually he'll realise, and then he'll learn to focus more on being a nice, decent individual if he wants people to care about him. fcuking works for me anyway

Colonel_McCoy

Deffo low self esteem. Knock him out

cowzerp

if he's a good friend then dont mind the above! we all have mates that feel the need to compete and sometimes try make themselves feel good, keep him as a mate but take this crap with a oinch of salt, its stupid and immature but not something to fall out with him over if apart from that he's there for you-he probably has issues that he hides behind with this behaviour, be a good friend and just dont mind the crap!!

Fysh

Heh, one of my friends was like that all through his teenage years. He eventually grew out of it but it took some time.

Given that just plain telling him to stop being a prat is unlikely to work, the options you've got are basically:

1) Ignore it, and avoid hanging out with him for a bit if he gets really bad at times.

2) Turn it around on him as suggested by Overheal.

I'd say 1) is your better option because, well, 2) can lead to a situation where you're both friends but constantly sniping at each other on a certain level. Chances are that in due course he'll grow up, so if your friendship is worth it then just ignore him. (In my case this happened around the time of heading off to college - I got into a substantially more "respected" college than the friend in question; after that and a couple of near-miss incidents in which he mouthed off and nearly got beaten up, he calmed down and stopped being so boastful).

pbsuxok1znja4r

Give him ironic praise over being so f*ing great because he has a job and got laid once.
"Having to work in your teenage years is so...working class."
At his age, having a girlfriend is lame, anyway. Tell him he's pathetic for being tied down like that. Afraid he wouldn't fare so well as a bachelor?

Eric Cartman

is his gf ugly or annoying because then its a bad thing for him

also what kind of job is there to be had and proud of at that age ?
does he work in a supermarket stacking shelves, i hear theres millions in that

also as an earier poster said, i guess your in the 16-18 range and sos your friend.
why the f*** would you want a girlfriend then, chances are you have your leaving cert to worry about anyway

if you want revenger get a casual sex partner then pimp slap him]

also Overheal do you by any chance go to NUIM , im sick of all those Access grant people bragging about it spending my taxes down the SU/roost (pubs)