what to do with college

LegacyUser

im a 19 year old girl in her first year of college, i should be having the time of my life....but im not. its really weird at home im a loud, outgoing sociable girl with loads of energy but up here i lose all my energy, i cant be bothered talking to many people, i couldnt be bothered going out (whereas at home i live in the pub and clubs) i also hate my course, its not what i thought it was going to be at all, im doing well in it but im not enjoying it. my parents noticed the change in my and asked me about it. they said theyd support me completely if i decided to drop out but id have to find something ls to do in college next year that i really want to do. trouble is i dont know what i want to do, i never really have, i just put down this course because it sounded cool. am i wasting my time dropping out...advice needed urently!!!!

AngryBadger

You might as well give it the year, sit your first exams and see how you feel after that. In the meantime you can go looking at alternative courses that might interest you more.

A little more info would be helpful here. Are you travelling to college? What's your timetable like? I know it can be awkward for people to go from secondary school where everything is pretty much mapped out for you to college where you're left almost entirely to your own devices. Maybe getting a part-time job if you don't have too many lectures would help focus your mind a bit? At least then you could look seriously at making plans for travelling, or whatever you want to do.

Alkers

AngryBadger wrote: »

You might as well give it the year, sit your first exams and see how you feel after that. In the meantime you can go looking at alternative courses that might interest you more.

A little more info would be helpful here. Are you travelling to college? What's your timetable like? I know it can be awkward for people to go from secondary school where everything is pretty much mapped out for you to college where you're left almost entirely to your own devices. Maybe getting a part-time job if you don't have too many lectures would help focus your mind a bit? At least then you could look seriously at making plans for travelling, or whatever you want to do.

Then again if you do that you will have to pay the full fee's for next year if you do the first year of another course. If you dropped out now, you have untill september to work/travel and will only have to pay 1/2 a years fee's when you next do first year.

Dr Lektroluv

Exactly, if you defer/leave now you will only be liable for 1/2 fees when you start your new degree in a course you want to do. It can be the difference between €2000 and €4000 if you do it now rather than January. I think it's a waste of time/money staying in a course you don't like for the sake of "completing the year". I know people who dropped out after 3 years for the same reasons, better 3 months than 3 years wasted in my opinion.

squishywishy

Id seriously advise you to stick the year out.
Im currently in my final year of my degree and in first year (roughly around this time of year) i hated it and wanted to drop out too. At the time i told nobody as i was worried my parents would be disappointed in me. Many courses change after christmas so stick it out til at least after the holidays.
Most people find first year difficult especially if they are away from home. I hated it and i was still living at home so i can only imagine how you feel.
My best advice to you would be stick it out a bit longer and try to get involved in nights out etc, the more you talk to people the more you will see that you are prob not the only one feeling like this.
If you need to talk PM me, Im the welfare officer in my college so i can give ya advice if ya need to find people to talk to in your college or if you do decide to drop out,
Best of Luck

froosh69

im a 19 year old student too but im in 2nd yr.
i went through what u are now.first year was crap to begin with, but then i started meetin loadsa sew friends. the course was pretty lame, but i stuck it out.

now im in 2nd year and havin the time of my life...

stick in there! things can only get better!

Senna

You might not like the course now, but would you like the job it would give you at the end. Although most people think not liking the course will mean you wont like the job, but thats not always the case.
i'd stick it out till the summer, a lot can change in a few months. best of luck.

AARRRGH

If you drop out make sure you go back to college in a year or two. You will regret not getting an education...

Kensington

Stick it out OP!!! I found myself in the same situation last year in first year. Picked the course because it sounded interesting and because I wanted the sort of job prospects on offer at the end of the course, but once I started found it very different to what I thought and was considering leaving. But after Christmas it began to change, and now in second year, I'm starting to enjoy it and it's starting to become more like I thought it would be (there's certain parts I still hate about the course, but overall I'm liking it!) College is a big jump and a huge change from primary school, so it will feel pretty weird. But I'd say stick it out, get to know a few of the people in your year and you could find yourself absolutely loving it in a few months.

Best of luck!