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  • 25-11-2007 5:45am
    #1
    avalanche
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 305 ✭✭


    hi, an awkward one for you. i have been having big problems with premature ejaculation over the past few years. i had been hoping it would sort itself out but it doesnt seem to be. the thing is that with oral sex etc everything is fine its just when we get down to it that my numbers want to come up quicker than they should. i can trace this problem back to when i was subjected to a near fatal attack in dublin several years ago. since then i have had problems in this department although this could just be coincedence. although my girlfriend says she doesnt mind, i know she does and so do i.i sometimes feel she is disappointed with me which only serves to pile on the pressure for the next time . any advice on what i can do?


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  • #2
    gamblitis
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,328 ✭✭✭gamblitis


    Well she says that she doesn't mind, and if she cares enough about you she wont mind!!so don't let that get on top of ya coz it does nothing to help at all.id have a couple of suggestions that you could try.

    1. If your girlfriend is coming over and you know things are gonna happen later in the night well have a "**** in the bank" so to speak.(maybe about 2/3 hours)It does work wonders as i had a problem with being premature myself so i know how ya feel.It will def make you hold out longer when the second big O comes up and more intense infact! ;)

    2. Use Durex Performa condoms.Now i know some people are against them saying whats the point if ya can feel nothing but i think they are a massive help.You can still feel pretty much everything thats going on in there just not as intensively as you might like.And they serve a dual purpose for protection too!Not saying your girlfriend has anything but just in case.You can never go wrong.

    3. Also, use the withdrawal method, say if you feel yourself going over the edge pull out and let it subside for a minute or two and try again.It mightn't last for that long but at least ya get a few extra minutes which is a help all the same.Or maybe take a break and ask her for oral for a bit if you can hold on which can lengthen the process considerably.

    Hope this helps, Best of luck and lucky you having it on tap!!I need a girlfriend!!lol :D


  • #3
    Seraphina
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,875 ✭✭✭Seraphina


    gamblitis wrote: »
    Well she says that she doesn't mind, and if she cares enough about you she wont mind!!

    lol
    i'm sorry, no matter how much you care about a guy, and how long you've been in the relationship, unless you just dont like sex or weren't enjoying yourself, premature ejaculation is always a disappointment.

    OP you say things have been like this since a near fatal attack a couple of years back. did you ever get counselling for it? it may seem a bit mad, but all sorts of things can affect our subconscious, and that would definitely be something to consider if you think they're connected.

    gamblitis has a few good ideas there to keep you going until you sort out the root of the problem. unfortunately i cant suggest much else, its not something i've ever experienced myself


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