Hate to love

LegacyUser

Hi, going unreg for this one

A close friend of mine, who lives abroad, threatened to stop seeing me, as she thinks I don't want to be anything more than friends, and she could not bare to talk to me knowing that we could never be together. In my selfishness I said that possibly I could have feelings in the future, and she has continued being in contact, but only if I was sure.

Now, I find myself falling for her. I have thought of stopping contact with her, but I cannot do that after asking her to stay in contact. I'm in love, she takes up every minute of my mind's day, and I find it stressful.
I am afraid to just let myself go and risk losing the friendship, but I can't stop as it would break her heart even further. Plus the distance would make it extremely difficult.

I'm not sure what I want, and not sure even if I want an answer. I just wanted to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening.

Storm_rages

am i missing a problem here? if you have fallen for her and she has fallen for you should you not start going out and get married and then have babies!!

cause when i am in love with some one i don't want to stop contacting them.. seems like a bad plan...

aidan_walsh

Are you sure you're actually falling for her, and not confusing feelings of fear of losing a close friend?

SarahSassy

There are very few opportunities like this in life.... She loves you and you her, do you sit on your bum and do nothing about this and let it go or do you take a leap of faith and give it a go? Only you can decide.....

Take time to decide on what the main 'issues' with regard having a relationship with her are... Then see how many of them are fixable. I think you are very lucky and tbh looking a gift horse in the mouth... If you decide not to proceed with this then you need, for her sake, to cut all ties with her and set her free to meet someone who loves her....

bronte

If you have feelings for her, tell her. It sounds like it's just what she wants to hear.

LegacyUser

aidan_walsh wrote: »

Are you sure you're actually falling for her, and not confusing feelings of fear of losing a close friend?

No I am falling for her.
But I have told her how I felt, and she was happy to hear it.

And the stress has gone.....

Thanks for listening everyone

Star Lord

Torn To Shreds wrote: »

No I am falling for her.
But I have told her how I felt, and she was happy to hear it.

And the stress has gone.....

Thanks for listening everyone

Excellent! Wish you every happiness and hope that things work out for you both

SarahSassy

Thats great news. Good luck with it and stay honest with her.

bronte

Brilliant, I'm so glad it worked out.
I hope you're happier now op.