hummm What do you think

Ur_Irish_Rose

hi

ive been online for over 5 years now and know that you can meet every kind of person from good ones to bad ones from true friends to back stabbers from love makers to heart breakers.

my story goes back to just over a year ago to when i met a guy online. hes from UK and of course im from ireland. We kicked it off on the right note. he was so nice it was as if HE WAS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE kind of guy. we had fun made oneanother laugh and i started feeling real strong towards him.

after a few months we decided to get together to meet face to face and i went to the UK to see him. On being there we both were so in love that it was a feeling i hav never felt in my entire life.

anyway cutting a long story kinda short. i returned home. as sad and upsetting as it was to of left.my heart was so broken leaving that i could hardly catch my breathe. weeks went buy of missing him madly but then things started feeling strange. things he said just were not adding up and things just didnt make sence to me. for instance we would be talking online then he would say his dad baught him a bike and when he got it he showed me a photo. said his brother took it of him. 1st glance i knew it was not him for starters this person was smaller. and the bike he was on was a racing bike so i go onto google and i found the real owner a guy that races bikes for a living in germany.

that was the first lie he told me that i realised. and it went on and on for weeks. he was telling me that he had a job in germany working with the army (i thaught u had to be a member of the army to work for them) he said he had a job in Canada and within 2 mins got flight booked and all then cancelled it. he told me he had a job in London but that never came true. then one night i got this BUZZ on Chat and it was his brother (well listen n ull hear more) while this person was telling me that he took an overdose the man in question was talking to my friend at the same time on the same chat. kinda weird huh

then i started getting these text messages saying if anything happens to him ur going to get the blame etc etc... emails poured in... going from bad to worse......

he got angry one day and for a solid 2 hours he called me everything that anyone can ever emagine to be called.

so i told him to go away and leave me alone. my heart broke shattered into bits, my world had ended right infront of my eyes. he was telling everyone online that i was a lier and that i was playing games with his heart when all i ever did was love the guy. for weeks i got emails calling me the worst of the worst. i changed phone numbers even changed address. my story is bigger than it seems but i want to know did i do the right thing by walking away?

my heart still hurts to this day i remember the feelings i had for him. i knwo it was him that lied and so does alot of other people. 100s more are involved and got sucked into his lies but thay fail to listen to the truth. some have seen him for who he is. he has pretended to be anyone emailing me messageing me texting me but at the end of the day it was him. calling me cruel and nasty things. to this day (4 months later) i still am getting alot of crap from him.

hes followed me all over the internet no matter where i am hes right there behind me. if i joined the planet zog forum hed be there. i changed my id several times. ive even left places he was a member of and he just might be a member of here (GOD ONLY KNOWS) he has more aliesias than billy the kid has. i have nmo privacy left.

he even starts bugging people that were on my old myspace if your a guy hed make sure your pc didnt work. Jealous and Obsessed he turned out to be. I gave him my heart and was about to give him my life when it turned nasty. To this day my online life on a daily basis will not go without him messaging me or finding me and him pretending it was not him. always saying its not him sending the messages but even when you spell the simple things wrong and grammer can give tons of things away. not everyone spells friends FREINDS or says BYE THE WAY and not by the way i have really seen the lies pour out since that day i found out about thew bike.

i was scared if he lied to me since i found out then what lies had he told me b4 that i didnt realise. i was so prepared to packing my life up here and going to him.

my best friend in the world said she thinks if we did get together that id of been living in hell not being able to go anywheer or do anything. he also hasnt worked a day in teh last 4 years but claims he works as a bus driver and a bouncer. funny jobs when he was online from 730 till way after 3am nxt morning as i knew from the offline messages he left me.

what are your thaughts on this. did i do right by walking away.

Carrigart Exile

are you saying that after you met up he started posting false pictures of himself

MayMay

:eek:Yes you did. Jesus what a psycho. You're lucky he didn't do anything to you that weekend you met him.

He'll forget about you eventually (hopefully), ignore him, don't ever reply or get in touch with him ever again and he'll go away. I hope.

davejones

I think you should give him another chance, what's the worst that can happen?

OK so he lied about his father buying him a bike, big deal.
He probably only wanted to impress you.

This might be your one and only chance of finding love, don't throw it away.

Rb

Wtf, how is he finding you on every site you join?Are you using the same alias or something?
Or do you join with a completely random alias, then accuse someone on the site of being him?Paranoid perhaps?

This does not add up.

Unless he has something like a trojan horse on your computer, there is no way he is tracking every site you join, what alias you use on the site and what threads/forums you post on.

Also, how the fck could walking away from such a person be the wrong thing?

My advice: Learn to be a better judge of character and learn to use a little more common sense and caution when dealing with strangers. Also, consider quitting the internet.


I call shenanigans

Ur_Irish_Rose

i have used same name where i joined...... why should i quit the interent i did nothing wrong ............ the net is my living i make my living online on an everyday basis so if i quit the net my job goes too.

the sites that i join are my friends sites he joins also but uses a different name then abuses the system n makes more i was a member of a forum for a year and for that year he made up 20 accounts all different names passing and abusing me . I was a global mod of this site and had duties and responsibilities to the admins that i promised that i would do what i was premoted to do

but i had to leave there all becasue of one guy

and did u ever notice that if you go into google and type irish forum that you are braught straight to Boards.ie ????? and not to mention if you google a username information of where that username is will appear on google ???

its not easy to hide from anyone online when you have told them alot about your life liek i said I FELL IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN and THAUGHT i was going to end up living with him i was honest from the beginning he wasnt so why should he get any second chances

MayMay

Don't walk away...run!!!!!

MagicMarker

Don't listen to Davejones, something tells me he won't be here long anyhow.

Also, you need to smarten up, if you're going to insist on using the same user name wherever you go then you're not helping the matter.

http://www.google.ie/search?hl=en&q=Ur_Irish_Rose&btnG=Search&meta=

Rb

And it didn't click that maybe, just maybe using the exact same alias on every site you joined, whilst having an internet stalker, might be a somewhat stupid idea?No?

It's piss easy to hide from someone online. New site, new alias, new email address, new AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger alias. Bada bing, you're a new "person" online. If you're spouting your own personal details on various internet sites, you're asking for trouble.

You were a "global mod" and even though you had the power to ban a user, you had to leave because of TWENTY accounts? Seriously?

Lol @ the googling Irish forum comment btw, well done.

Seriously, quit the internet. Go find a job offline and hang around with real people who you might be able to judge better as I can't really see online working out for you in the long run.

Ur_Irish_Rose

rb_ie wrote: »

And it didn't click that maybe, just maybe using the exact same alias on every site you joined, whilst having an internet stalker, might be a somewhat stupid idea?No?

It's piss easy to hide from someone online. New site, new alias, new email address, new AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger alias. Bada bing, you're a new "person" online. If you're spouting your own personal details on various internet sites, you're asking for trouble.

You were a "global mod" and even though you had the power to ban a user, you had to leave because of TWENTY accounts? Seriously?

Lol @ the googling Irish forum comment btw, well done.

Seriously, quit the internet. Go find a job offline and hang around with real people who you might be able to judge better as I can't really see online working out for you in the long run.

i have done that all of that ive had about 20 different names this guys a stalker and a physco he thrives on finding me even did a server search on my website to get my old adress and phone number i earn more money online than i would else where and the only reason im onlien working is because my sone disabled and i cant afford to pay a nurse to come and mind him so i do it myself

MagicMarker

Ok, WTF are you doing putting any of these details on any website in the first place?

Also, can you please start using correct spelling and punctuation, it's just easier to read and give advice if you do so.

Rb

Ur_Irish_Rose wrote:

i have used same name where i joined...... why should i quit the interent i did nothing wrong

Ur_Irish_Rose wrote: »

i have done that all of that ive had about 20 different names this guys a stalker and a physco he thrives on finding me

Umhmm, solid story alright.

I.P ban tbh.

davejones

MagicMarker wrote: »

Don't listen to Davejones, something tells me he won't be here long anyhow.

Also, you need to smarten up, if you're going to insist on using the same user name wherever you go then you're not helping the matter.

http://www.google.ie/search?hl=en&q=Ur_Irish_Rose&btnG=Search&meta=

My opinion is just as valid as yours MagicMarker don't dismiss me like that.
It was only my opinion and she doesn't have to take my advice-

Remember the old saying "the course of true love never runs smooth"

Ur_Irish_Rose

MagicMarker wrote: »

Ok, WTF are you doing putting any of these details on any website in the first place?

Also, can you please start using correct spelling and punctuation, it's just easier to read and give advice if you do so.

you have to put this information up when you own a server. I posted the main post so that other members can see that maybe they are not the only one this has happened to. When I join forums I use different names. he sits there for hours online looking for anyone that is 32 from ireland and thats female then starts deleteing the ones that he knows that are not me. if he got paid for doing this he would be a multi millionaire.

thank you all for your comments, I have ran away. and will keep running until he stops. It just isnt fair that I am the one doing the running away when i did nothing but tell the truth in the first place.

As I own my own website now and have it started It keeps me busy and keeps my mind off of him. You have to understand that I gave this man my heart, he chewed it up and spat it out.

Not a nice feeling to get from someone that says they worship the ground you walked on then treats you like a piece of crap.

Gyalist

you have to put this information up when you own a server.

Usually you own the domain name and not the server where it is hosted. Anyway, for a small fee you can pay to have your domain re-registered through a company that would hide all your personal details. I use this company but there are many others.

There's no point to changing your address if a simple WHOIS search would reveal all your contact details.

Ur_Irish_Rose

Gyalist wrote: »

Usually you own the domain name and not the server where it is hosted. Anyway, for a small fee you can pay to have your domain re-registered through a company that would hide all your personal details. I use this company but there are many others.

There's no point to changing your address if a simple WHOIS search would reveal all your contact details.

Wow Thanks for the link. Its greatly appreciated

Jack B. Badd

Ur_Irish_Rose wrote: »

he sits there for hours online looking for anyone that is 32 from ireland and thats female then starts deleteing the ones that he knows that are not me. if he got paid for doing this he would be a multi millionaire.

o.O
I reckon this is a troll. If not, then I think you need to get some professional help (i.e. go to your GP or find a counselling service to help you deal with your paranoia, OP). It's not really believable that someone is going to trawl the internet specificially to find you, and does find each and every online incarnation of you. At the very least the situation you portray sounds extremely egocentric, if not a paranoid delusion.

Talliesin

Gyalist wrote: »

There's no point to changing your address if a simple WHOIS search would reveal all your contact details.

Sure there is, just don't update the address in the registration.

I'm pretty easy to find info on, but whois on domains I own would just tell people where I lived years ago. Hardly ph33rsome.

OP. The only thing I would say you perhaps did wrong here is in being a bit too quick with your heart, but that's always easier said than done at the time.

Ur_Irish_Rose

Sorry Jack, but i'm not the paranoid one on this matter. HE IS. He has no idea that I own my own website and thank God for that.

As for what Talliesin said. You cant help it when fall in love. Its one of these things that just happen. Im just glad I found out the truth before it was too late.

Thanks for all your responces, I hope that this might help out someone else that thinks they might be in the same situation as i was.

Im not crazy or paraoid. Im a normal irish lass that likes romance and a bit of TLC that fell in love with a LOONEY / OBSESSED / PHYSCO etc. All I ever wanted was to be loved the same as I gave it.

I hold my head high and thank God that it went no further than it did.

Rb

Jack B. Badd wrote: »

At the very least the situation you portray sounds extremely egocentric, if not a paranoid delusion.

Fully agree.

Something very weird going on here, original post is horrible in terms of spelling and grammar, then suddenly it todays post is about 100% better.
Not to mention the extreme inconsistencies in the story and the backtracking.

As I said earlier, calling shenanigans on this one.

dcm

Get a new username and don't talk to that guy ever again.



"Originally Posted by Ur_Irish_Rose
i have used same name where i joined...... why should i quit the interent i did nothing wrong
Quote:
i have done that all of that ive had about 20 different names this guys a stalker and a physco he thrives on finding me"

rb_ie wrote: »

Umhmm, solid story alright.

I.P ban tbh.

Learn to read. I have used the same name != I only ever use the same name.


You sound like the paranoid one, rb_ie.

l3LoWnA

I think you WANT this guy to find you! If you truly didn't want him to fnid you then you wouldn't be using Ur_Irish_Rose as your username when you've already used it on plenty of other sites :rolleyes: I bet he even called you HIS Irish Rose did he?

I agree with DaveJones and think deep down you're crazy about this guy and should give him another chance if that's what you want!

You mentioned how heart-broken you were and how much you fell for this guy etc and to me, it sounds as if you're not over him. If it was bothering you that much you wouldn't be posting the whole story on here knowing he could possibly read your story and how much in love with him you once were?!? If you didn't chat to him so much online and personally quit anything to do with forums and the internet which doesn't SOLELY involve your job and if you made a rule only to contact this guy through emails/letters/phone and face-to-face would that not help the situation?!

You need to clarify though as I got a bit lost half-way through your story! You met this guy face to face, spent time with him and THEN he sent you a picture of himself and it wasn't him? Or did he post this picture on a pofile somewhere? Were YOU stalking HIM online first or was he blatently lying to you directly? Alot of people do alot of pretending online! Was he just taking the p*ss? I'm confused!

Jack B. Badd

Ur_Irish_Rose wrote: »

Sorry Jack, but i'm not the paranoid one on this matter. HE IS.

Definition of "paranoia": baseless or excessive suspicion of the motives of others

Nothing in your earlier posts indicates that your "stalker" is paranoid and him being paranoid makes no sense in the situation you're describing. The above statement sounds like a knee-jerk reaction to me. Next you'll be posting "Yore a knee-jerk reaction!" :rolleyes:

MagicMarker

Regarding him sending you the wrong picture...

It's possible that he may have been stringing along multiple women and just lost track of who he'd met and who he hadn't... It wouldn't surprise me tbh.

DublinWriter

Ur_Irish_Rose wrote: »

what are your thaughts on this. did i do right by walking away.

Walk, don't run.

While lots of people meet on-line and go on to have happy, healthy relationships, the Internet is a happy hunting ground for the type of psycho Walter Mitty type characters you got involved with.

I'll relay the following event to you.

Earlier this year I got a call from my young female cousin who lives in Manchester. I was initially delighted as I hadn't heard from her in over a year. Then she starts getting frantic and tells me that she was stuck somewhere in Northern Ireland. She had travelled over with a girlfriend who met a guy online from Dublin. They were having a few drinks in his hotel room, when suddenly out of the blue he grabs her friend's throat and proceeds to throttle her for no reason.

I asked her had her friend said anything to him, or were there excessive drinks/drugs taken that could have triggered it and she said no. She said she was calling 999 as her friend was being throttled before her.

The PSNI arrive in no-time and chummy gets to cool his heels in a cell for the night. Her friend didn't want to press charges and both wanted to fly back home as soon as possible.

The guy spends the next few weeks on a charm offensive, letting her know that she means everything, etc etc.

A month later her friend traveled over to Dublin by herself. After a few days he starts getting violent and abusive, smashes up her mobile phone and then proceeds to make her a virtual prisoner by locking her in his house during the day. She managed to make contact with one of his neighbours and the guards were called. They didn't break in, but made the guy come back from work to unlock the door and they stayed with her while she gathered up her stuff.

They brought her to the local station, but again she refused to press charges and she flew back home that day.

I also know of another incident involving a friend of a friend who traveled over to the UK to meet a guy who later on made an attempt on her life. As far as I know, he is due to be up in court over this later on, so I won't discuss the details.

K_P

OP, what's the point of this thread exactly? You ask if you did the right thing in walking away and then straight away answer your own question by saying he's a psycho and it's not fair you should have to do all the running.

Still a wee bit obsessed with him perhaps?

Ur_Irish_Rose

rb_ie wrote: »

Fully agree.

Something very weird going on here, original post is horrible in terms of spelling and grammar, then suddenly it todays post is about 100% better.
Not to mention the extreme inconsistencies in the story and the backtracking.

As I said earlier, calling shenanigans on this one.

Never mind my grammer or my spelling. Its what the post was about that matters most and you all did get the jist of it. Besides if i was to have the correct GRAMMER I would of been here till next year typing the full story.

Ur_Irish_Rose

rb_ie wrote: »

Fully agree.

Something very weird going on here, original post is horrible in terms of spelling and grammar, then suddenly it todays post is about 100% better.
Not to mention the extreme inconsistencies in the story and the backtracking.

As I said earlier, calling shenanigans on this one.

Dublin Righter thanks for the post you left. as for rb_ie the grammer and spelling dont really matter when your story can be explained and many can understand hat you are saying

spinandscribble

this threads all about attention seeking. if you wanted advice on not letting him find you on the net set up a male account somewhere asking for internet advise.

why always be 32, ire, female? change it for petes sake if thats the only way he's been finding you. you're nearly encouraging him to spot you on the net by not changing your details. go off be a 31, female, scotland ect instead.

Uk_Andy

ok im the guy urirish rose is talking about.

let me first start of bye saying i apologize to boards ie for the lies u have had to read !

i met sharon online we got talking and fell for each other.

we met fell in love even more.

then her lies started about her x husband beating her up, and all the exscuses started aboutwhy we couldnt move intogther yet.

this went on for months and months lies about accidents, renting houses, looking for us ahouse but there was allways an exscuse why she couldnt at the moment.

then the lies started we planned on meeting again, so i get ready all excited about meeting i suddenly get a phone call she couldnt fly as her bruised face didnt match her passport.

they wouldnt let her fly !

ok fair enough i was upset........then i find she had lied come to england to see a girl her fellow admin on her forum bye ferry........she told me she wasnt coming then came bye ferry.

then we broke up after arguments after arguments, but she would allways yahoo me or something saying she was still in love with me.

we got back togther but things were different, she even stole programs of my forum to post on her own website.

anyway we broke up and shortly after we did she moved a guy from birmingham in with her started a relationship with him.....but all the time contacting me saying she loved me and still had feelings for me !

anyway i could go on and on about this but im not the phsycho sharon YOU ARE !

u lead me down the garden path for a year and a half and i didnt follow u every were at all !

it was only last week u added me to msn and said us till loved me !

so i just wanted to set the matter straight im not the liar and one with multiple personalities u are !

i will say no more on the matter but state she used me to get through her divorce then once she got it she tossed me asside like a peice of **** !

sorry boards ie for this post but i felt that i must put my side and if im a stalker and a psycho why are us till contacting me saying u LOVE me and still have feelings for me.

anyway have a nice day all and great forum by the way bye bye every 1 take care.


SHARON U NO THE TRUTH U ARE A PLAYER AND PLAYED WITH MY HART U BROKE ME FOR CLOSE TO 8 MONTHS WITH YOUR LIES AND PLAYED MIND GAMES IM OVER YOU NOW AND MET A REALLY NICE GIRL WITH KIDS WE ARE VERY HAPPY.

u are the phsycho and have serious mental issues.

have a great day all on boards ie take care and bye bye


AND THE WORST THING IS I GENUINELY LOVED THAT GIRL WITH ALL MY HART AND WOULD OF DONE ANYTHING FOR HER.........STUPID ME ANYWAY GOODBYE

Silverfish

Two years later.

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