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Guy in need of relationship advice

  • 20-11-2007 9:29am
    #1
    fluke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,727 ✭✭✭


    Hi there,

    I think I need someone's advice, maybe everyone's advice that reads this thread, I just want some feedback, and conclusively something positive.

    I'm in a relationship with a girl for over 2 years. Things have hit a few rocky patches lately (all relationships do) and we've both talked and resolved the things we want out of it. At least I hope we have.

    I love this girl, I really do. We’ve stuck it out with each other and there is a genuine care for each other.

    There has been some hurt we have caused each other recently and while it's continuing it's healing I've started to seriously weigh up my options - be it traveling, moving elsewhere, or another relationship (okay so it may be way too early to call that one but I have seriously been looking at other women and just really wanting to get to know them better, particularly a girl in work).

    I'm wake up lately most mornings flummoxed on this and just cursing to myself thinking 'why do I bother'. I especially find myself saying this when things just don't seem to be going the way I hope they'd go.


    Any help, advice, or general feedback?


Comments

  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    You don't give your age.
    I'm going to guess you are youngish, early to mid 20s?
    If so, then it sounds to me like you are restless and in the need for change. Normal at that age I would say. You can care deeply for someone and still know that in the end it's not meant to be.
    Answer this question, do you see yourself married to this woman and happy to spend the rest of your life with her, no regrets?


  • #3
    IRISH RAIL
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,097 ✭✭✭IRISH RAIL


    Been there done that and its not a pretty picture
    I stayed around for a long time like that and things just got worse now im free and although there are still a few complications (such as owning a house together ) Im much happier ive even met this girl who takes my breath away
    if you love her get to a counseller and try if you dont you wont know what could have been


  • #4
    fluke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,727 ✭✭✭fluke


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    You don't give your age.
    I'm going to guess you are youngish, early to mid 20s?
    If so, then it sounds to me like you are restless and in the need for change. Normal at that age I would say. You can care deeply for someone and still know that in the end it's not meant to be.
    Answer this question, do you see yourself married to this woman and happy to spend the rest of your life with her, no regrets?

    I'm in my mid-20's
    Actually the thing is I do see myself willing to marry this girl and spend the rest of my life with her, I think it's just a patch I’m going through at the moment. We aren't seeing each other a whole lot lately. I've tried to get her to listen to the things I want, it's not that I think she doesn't want to listen, I think it's just hat sometimes her mind can be thinking a million different things at once!


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