Female Libido Enhancers

Nelopee

I have a personal issue with having no sex drive...
My boyfriend is getting pretty upset now because I never want sex...
What enhancers are available OTC in Ireland?
Has anyone tried them?
How effective are they?

Marksie

what makes you think that enhancers would help? Do you have any idea of why your sex drive has decreased?

cudman

I cant help you but I am replying to point out to the mod that closed your last thread that you are a woman (therefore it is a PI)

Nelopee

Marksie wrote: »

what makes you think that enhancers would help? Do you have any idea of why your sex drive has decreased?

I never really had much of a drive...
I just did it to see what all the fuss was about and to make my boyfriend happy...

pretty*monster

I feel quite strongly that taking drugs to make you want to do something you don't want to do is a bad route to be taking.
Have you considered some kind of couples therapy?

Marksie

Nelopee: I really am not sure that enhancers would help, or at least only be a limited stopgap. The underlying issue will remain until you look at why your drive is low then it really isnt going to go away.

Exercise helps, releasing endorphins. but sometimes getting in the mood is exactly that Nelopee. You and your partner moving together towards forming that connection that opens you up to your sexual self.
from what you have said you did it to please your b/friend not from any great desire.
May I ask, has he been supportive or willing to try and set mood or juts been wanting his pleasure?

Cudman; please read the charter as regards off topic unhelpful posting

dudara

Nelopee wrote: »

I never really had much of a drive...
I just did it to see what all the fuss was about and to make my boyfriend happy...

Now I suspect that this is where your problem lies. Looking for OTC remedies will only act to cover or hide the true cause of your lack of sex drive. You might want to consider looking at yourself in more depth to try to figure out what is going on here.

Plus, are you looking for OTC remedies because your boyfriend wants more sex? In other words are you doing this just to please him?

SarahSassy

Do you fancy him? Is there chemistry and is he good at foreplay / sex?

spurious

A visit to the doctor might help to rule out thyroid and other hormonal issues that can affect libido.

ApeXaviour

As others have said, it is important that you are doing this for yourself. If so, and it's something you want to sort out then mention it to your GP.

In the interim...

Sexual dysfunction is fairly common and can be due to any number of external factors. But is caused by one root thing, hormones. What can cause a change in these and lower one's libido? Depression is one. Diet is certainly another! Lets assume for now the former is not the case since it's not a short term thing for you.

Make sure you get a decent amount of protein (fish, lean meat, eggs etc.), vitamins and minerals will help too (so vegetables). Zinc is especially important in your case... Get yourself a good zinc supplement from a health store. Magnesium will help too, most people are actually somewhat deficient in this. Get a chelated magnesium supplement, easier on the stomach. It will also help you sleep well (something else that's very important). Some exercise too, not marathon-esque hours of running, but short relatively-intense stints, 10-20 mins here and there. All these will
If you're really interested, google the Zone Diet. It's focused on hormonal balance and IMO is one of the healthiest diets out there.

A bit of romance and lots and lots of foreplay is necessary to get you in the mood. Tell your bf this, talk to him about it. Eat some chocolate before or as part of your foreplay, supposedly helps.

For some further reading:
http://www.risingwomen.com/Jan%202005%20health%20burton.htm

biko

Alcohol is the strongest libido enhancer OCT in Ireland, in my experience.
In your case you may want to try different romantic things to get you in the mood. What works best for you? What is your sex rate atm? Weekly/monthly?

Owen

Are you using any contraception? We've tried everything from patches, to pills, to the Nuvaring, and all killed my partner's libido.

Paddy20

Go and talk openly to your G.P. I feel sure you will find the answer to your problem .
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