Would it be any good...

Teddi

If one was having suicidal thoughts and telling someone who wouldnt be very close to you (I have no close friends)....but just to get it off your chest...the reasoning being not wanting to tell someone close to you (i.e family) as not to worry them?

The not so close friend being a person in my class who seems quite trust worthy..

thanks.

How Strange

Ring Aware and speak to someone who will listen to you.

How will you feel if this classmate doesn't handle this information sensitively?

Lila

Maybe call the Samaritans - 1850 60 90 90.

Advice on any issue from a stranger can be hit and miss. This is so important for you it's best to talk to someone with experience who can really help you out. Nothing will freak them out and that's what you need right now - calm, honest advice. Good luck.

K_P

Call the Samaritans on 1850 60 90 90. They're a fantastic organisation - no unwanted advice, no judgment, they just listen.

ian_m

Talk to someone. Its your family who love you very much, no matter what. If you feel you can't talk to them do talk to your friend. It's unfair on everyone if you keep thoughts like that inside. Most notably you!

Theres always these guys... http://www.samaritans.org/talk_to_someone.aspx if you don't know who to talk to.

You may not feel it but someone somewhere really cares about you. Do talk to someone.

Cathmandooo

I had read your topic earlier before you deleted it, it really sounds like you should go to the professionals, that's what they're there for and they wont judge you. Hope it helps and that you feel better soon

Whispered

Teddi,

I agree, call aware or the samaratians. I promise you, I know what I'm talking about here. Your post really affected me as it's a situtation I'm all too familiar with. It is a huge responsibility to be told something like this and it may seem like I'm concerned about the wrong person here but if you tell someone, and go on to harm yourself, they will spend the rest of their lives wondering what they could have done. It seems irrational but thats what happens, when a friend did it, I almost went after him as the guilt was massive. I know now I could have done nothing more than I did but I still live with the guilt every day. Suicide can seem like the easy way out but really it's not, your family and friends have to live with the consequences of what you do. The fact you want to get it off your chest is fantastic, please talk to someone who is trained to help you.

Teddi

thanks for the replies guys..

I know it seems like an easy way out of things...even my aspirations in life are no competition to how I feel at the moment. Not having an close friends to confide in makes me sad as I know that being in a situation like that would help.

The funny thing is, It would come to HUGE shock to anyone who knows me as I dont ever show any signs of how I feel at the moment. Thinking about it now, If I told someone who doesnt know me very well would put them in a horrible position as the only thing that they can do is tell me (beg) me not to make any rash decisions...

Whispered

Teddi wrote: »

The funny thing is, It would come to HUGE shock to anyone who knows me as I dont ever show any signs of how I feel at the moment.

Thats the way it usually is!! You would be so suprised at the people who suffer depression. Think of some of the happiest, most popular people you know. Chances are at least one of them feel it too!
I LOVE the way you say "at the moment" you realise that feeling like this does not last forever, it's so bloody hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel but it is there. Think of what some people live through and go on to be happy again. It's so hard but it can be done. Please get help, dont go through this alone. The amount of people who feel like you is phenomenol!

You know when people suffer depression they subconsciously push people away? To keep their "secret", it's easier to pretend not to be interested then to risk someone finding out how you feel. This could be why you feel isolated.

You mention your aspirations, what are they? How old are you? Have you brothers or sisters?

Mullah

I was at the funeral of someone I know who comitted suicide.

After the ceremony, a friend turned to me and said "you know, if x could see all of these people and how much they miss him he wouldn't have done it in a million years".

Just a thought.

Drift

Hey Teddi, I'd tell someone close to you. Maybe pick a family member who you can see is fairly solid and doesn't get carried away with stuff. Someone with a cool head. The reason I think its important is because if you want to get it off your chest I think this is a sign you would like to deal with it. Your family members who love you most are the ones who will want to be there to help you out.

Having said this if you find it too hard to tell a family member then obviously telling someone is MUCH better than telling no-one. If you look at the charter at the top of the PI board it has lots of links for email addresses and phone numbers of people who are trained to help out. People who have experience understanding the thoughts you are having. Like everything in life experience is unbeatable so its great to talk to someone who has seen it before. I've heard very good things about the Samaritans but there's other services available too one of which may suit you better.

The ideal situation of course would be for you to confide in a strong family member and ask them to help you organise some councilling. That way you get the benefit of family support and professional help.

The fact that you posted here looking for a way of going about telling someone indicates that you want to find a way out of your bad feelings. So the next small step is to pick someone in the "real world" to tell in person.

Then its only a series of small steps before you're in a threesome with 2 former miss worlds on a bed made of cash in your 40 bedroom mansion on the moon. (OK maybe they're not quite your aspirations but you know what I mean .... wouldn't want to give up now and miss out on 2 miss world's!)

Surion

A lot of very positive messages there, I think you can safely know that talking to someone is totally the best thing to do and absolutely nothing wrong with reaching out and asking for some help - even just 'listening' help.

Don't wait another minute and make a few calls ASAP - then let us know how you're doing.

Other options are some counsellors, perhaps youth groups, depending on where you live. But the Samaritans or Aware are free or lo-call numbers and they will help point you in a direction too. See loads of help out there and in here too!!!!!

Kaldorn

there will always be a better day,imagine blackness..nothingness..death...why would anyone want that???
i know life is really hard sometimes but not living is just plain boring...
I cant for the life of think of one reason to end life unless you are terminally ill which you are not,I could be the fattest ugliest mother in dublin..still wouldnt do it..what about the joy of a smmers day,the beach,the mountains,goin to the boozer and gettin locked with your mates,playing games,playing with your kids,listening to savage rock music...or death,if you are catholic,you will be punished,if you are athiest then,its permanent sleep...sorry just cant relate.

Whispered

Hi, I was just wondering how you'r feeling? Have you thought about speaking to anyone?