unfaithfull tendencies

LegacyUser

hello,
29 male engaged with a 4 year old daughter and a mortgage with my fiance,
my problem is my lust,we have been with each other for 5.5 years and i think i have done the dirt 5 or 6 times,(only kisses)I shagged one girl 18 months ago and that was the only one..i do love my fiance and i do want to marry her but i know for a fact if i am alone ina club or out with some friends i would defo be with and sleep with another girl,its only a matter of time before i meet a girl who will succumb to my charms.

i think that every bloke is the same,maybe i am wrong but i think that given half the chance and if there was no chance of fiance finding out we all would do it.. admit it.anyway the main point is.are males all like me? and i have no intention of leaving her and the sex is good but i constantly want to have sex with good looking strangers,i think about this every day without fail..walking to work..on the train..everywhere i see sexy ladies..i want them all.

cance

not every bloke, learn some self control.

Mr. Incognito

I'm the same. i think different people have stronger urges than others. You do come across sounding like a bit of a plod but hey, I'm also a plod so you'll have no stone casting from me.

Cathmandooo

Every bloke isnt the same.

How would you feel if your fiance was doing what you're doing? And dont you think it would tear her to pieces if she found out? If you love her you wouldn't do something to hurt her, I dont care how strong your urges are. Unless she's in agreement to have an open relationship then learn to control yourself! And you're putting her health at risk by cheating on her with some randomer who could have anything!

BlanDAWG

BlanDAWG wrote: »

hello,
29 male engaged with a 4 year old daughter and a mortgage with my fiance,
my problem is my lust,we have been with each other for 5.5 years and i think i have done the dirt 5 or 6 times,(only kisses)I shagged one girl 18 months ago and that was the only one..i do love my fiance and i do want to marry her but i know for a fact if i am alone ina club or out with some friends i would defo be with and sleep with another girl,its only a matter of time before i meet a girl who will succumb to my charms.

i think that every bloke is the same,maybe i am wrong but i think that given half the chance and if there was no chance of fiance finding out we all would do it.. admit it.anyway the main point is.are males all like me? and i have no intention of leaving her and the sex is good but i constantly want to have sex with good looking strangers,i think about this every day without fail..walking to work..on the train..everywhere i see sexy ladies..i want them all.

Well I guess you'll have no problem with her doing the same so if she agrees to an open relationship, you're set

alternatively learn some bloody self control and stop trying to justify it to yourself with "everyone else does it"
grow up

Bricriu

We're not responsible for our feelings; BUT we are responsible for what we do with them!

Vegeta

I'm sorry to say dude not everyone has as little self control or will power as you.

Every guy is not the same

Saruman

No every guy is not the same... I would say a majority might have an urge yes. Its natural, however most humans have self control and do not give in to animal urges and instincts. It is what seperates us from the animal kingdom.

Blackpitts

well girls,
this guy has just given you one of the possible answers to the usual question here in PI "i met a guy in a club, he took my number but he never rang me back, why?"

OP, I think you need to control yourself, otherwise you can lose everything good you have in your life for a stupid one night stand.

Iago

every bloke is the same, the only difference is that some have more control and discipline.

What it comes down to is this, who is more important to you, is it your fianceé and child or yourself?

When you put them first you'll stop cheating, if you can't put them first then maybe you should find someone you do feel is more important than yourself. If they aren't more important than your urges, then you're doing nobody any favours by staying in the relationship.

Poppers1888

I cant believe your 29??? you sound like a 16 year old. If you want to be like that I think you should break up with your fiance or act like a proper fiance. People like you make my blood boil, imagine if your fiance found out, youd be destroying her .

GROW UP

prendy

i agree with OP in that i think most guys would admit to thinking about it....but control is the key.as a previous poster has said...how would you like it if she does the same...does she ever go out with her friends?? next time you get that urge think about it.

LegacyUser

i knew there were afew out there,looks like i will need to control my urges or just get very good at lieing,ill try the first,and yes i do sound 16 because i am immature.i act like a spoilt brat alot.maybe when i am 30 ill grow up

Gillo

TBH everyone has urges, I've found a fair few times I've been tempted to act on them.

The easiest way OP to help control those urges is to cut down on the amount you drink, with out wanting to state the obvious but teh more you drink the more you're likely to take action.

dudara

blandawg wrote: »

i act like a spoilt brat alot.maybe when i am 30 ill grow up

You won't suddenly grow up when you turn 30. Life and experience and learning from your lessons is what makes an individual mature. Mature people are those who look at events in their life, accept their actions and make better decisions going forward.

You are refusing to take responsibility for your actions, and until you do so you will never grow up.

Beruthiel

BlanDAWG wrote: »

i constantly want to have sex with good looking strangers,i think about this every day without fail..walking to work..on the train..everywhere i see sexy ladies..i want them all.

Seriously, get a grip. Fantasy is one thing, acting on it is quite another. Yes, some men are just like you, only think of themselves and never about the people they love and who they will destroy if and when they are caught.
There are however, many men out there who can actually control themselves and realise how lucky they are to have the partner they've got.

How would your fiancé feel if she knew? Do you care? What consideration have you given your daughter in all this? Are you prepared for your g/f dumping you like a hot coal when she does find out?
If you actually wish to keep your family together then remove yourself from the situations which cause you to cheat.
You're nearly 30, time to teach yourself some self control, it doesn't come by magic.

Snarler

Nearly every man is the same. I was shocked when I hit about 19/20 and realised what all the older men were up to. All the men I know of do the same now. Its a bit depressing but I suppose its natural.

Lawless_Samurai

Everyone has thoughts and urges, male and female. Lads can be bad with cheating and that, I know a few but I know a few women who are the exact same.

Bricriu wrote: »

We're not responsible for our feelings; BUT we are responsible for what we do with them!

Second that Bricriu

Ishindar

its about self development imho. some people stop developing various aspects of their being in their teenage years. They remain like teenagers in these areas and become underdeveloped adults who will never reach their potential in life.

Placebo

speak for yourself mate

jackdaw

I know how you feel .. but you need to learn self control...
nothing wrong with fantasy ...

you just need to get yourself out of situations where you can be tempted ..
go out drinking with your mates of course, but keep the drink under control
and stay out of nightclubs...

I get the same feelings ! and I live in Spain !! you can imagine the summer here !!!
but it can be controlled , keep busy with hobbies .. have plenty of the sex with the GF to keep yourself level and when shes not around .. well nothing better then a good pr0n0 ..