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Women Trouble- Help Please

  • 14-11-2007 4:53pm
    #1
    THE BISCH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭


    I have a little problem. Known this girl for about 7 years. About Two years I began to have feelings for her and she did for me but she was with somebody. Then she broke up with him but I started going out with someone else, then I broke up with this other girl but in the meantime she started dating somebody else then in June she broke up with him after a holiday they had went wrong. He was a bit of an ass and was a control freak. In August we got it together and went out once but after a few days she told me she wasnt ready for a realtionship with me. She felt that she needed time to heal because she would ruin it if she got involved too early.

    I know she has feeling for me. We have been out in company a few times since and she always holds my hand under the table and gives me a kiss when nobody is looking but she doesnt seem to be looking to start a realationship or even date. She is not the sort of girl to mess guys around...

    I just want to know when she will be ready to date me?? Its quite frustrating ya know....

    A cousin of hers thinks that we are like school children.


    Anyone have ideas what I should do??

    Should I write here a love letter or something??

    Buy her perfume??

    Any ideas??


Comments

  • #2
    Beetlebum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 837 ✭✭✭Beetlebum


    As frustrating as it is, I wouldn't do anything at all. She has told you that she's not ready for a relationship yet and you have to respect that. It's not like it's never gonna happen, in fact it looks like it will definetly be on the cards in the future so just have patience! It'll be all the more sweet when you do get together. Just give her some time. As you said, she's not the type to mess guys around so it's genuinely not an excuse. She came out of a relationship with a controlling guy and wants her head to be in the right place before diving into another relationship so soon.
    Patience is a virtue..


  • #3
    Sandy2004
    Closed Accounts Posts: 120 ✭✭Sandy2004


    She loves you as a friend? Not as a potential partner? Afraid of loosing your friendship? Keeping you as a backup option? Maybe youre too safe - not a treat them mean keep them keen type?

    Not ready as she says? She would be ready if she had a major physical attraction - not kissing in public may be a sign that there isnt one....

    I could be totally wrong.. she maybe just not ready as she says...


  • #4
    THE BISCH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭THE BISCH


    Sandy2004 wrote: »
    She loves you as a friend? Not as a potential partner? Afraid of loosing your friendship? Keeping you as a backup option? Maybe youre too safe - not a treat them mean keep them keen type?

    Not ready as she says? She would be ready if she had a major physical attraction - not kissing in public may be a sign that there isnt one....

    I could be totally wrong.. she maybe just not ready as she says...


    We where never great friends anyway. I am friends with her brother and Dad. I dont think I am a backup option.

    We have kissed in Public just not around her Parents or brother.

    I know she likes me a lot, she has told me.

    I just dont understand women I suppose..


  • #5
    milli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 219 ✭✭milli


    THE BISCH wrote: »

    I just dont understand women I suppose..

    eh, there are times we don't understand ourselves so I wouldn't hold that against you!

    I would say though that you don't deserve to be messed around. The whole holding hands under the table, kissing only when noone is looking - I'd be careful not to let yourself get walked over just because you like this girl. Maybe give her some space and don't encourage physical contact until she knows what she wants. I know it will be frustrating but could it be worse than whats happening at the moment? Hope this helps!


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