one of those inevitable little problems

Zola_Queen

So I was out the other night with some friends as one does, and I met this really nice guy. We kissed and whatnot, nothing too serious or advanced. Now he asked for my number and I gave it to him thinking he would probably never call/text me. However about a half hour after our taxi dropped me home he texted me which I thought was really quite sweet. So we we've been texting on and off for the past day or so, his replies sound genuine but he can take up to about half a day to text back. Now im not a really impatient or demanding person and I know life can get really busy but I usually text him back quite speedily. Im reading this again and Im probably coming across as quite picky but im really not!
So im just wondering is he really interested in me or is he just playing around? I wouldnt usually care too much about this kind of thing but he was just such a dateable/date-able (is that a word?) person and we clicked quite well and I find those kind of people quite hard to find at the moment. would really like to see him again but Im guessing at this stage that he wouldnt agree? As I said i just really like this guy so I dont want him to scare him off or anything.
your thoughts shall be oh so appreciated!
Thanks

Bottle_of_Smoke

I often take ages to text back girls even if I like them, mix of not being sure what to say & laziness.

DawnMc

I think if you text back too speedily, he subconsciously doesn't think he needs to 'impress' you. Try not texting him for a full day (sounds impossible I know) and he'll most likely text ya

rymus

Some people walk around with their phones in their pockets all day. When I get into work in the morning, it sits underneath some paper on my desk for most of the day. I could get a text at 9:15am and not see it until 4pm.

It's either something like that, or he doesn't want to come off as completely desperate. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it or read too much into any delay in getting back to you. Best of luck!

lilmizzme

It's only been a day!! Take a deep breath!! First of all, the fact that he text you that night is a bit worrying, have you never heard of the two day rule??

Secondly, boys, in general, are a tad slow....and they get distracted easily, god love them. I wouldnt worry about the textig thing, he might be in work, or watching telly, or eating, or playing football, or may have just forgotton to write back (it does happen!)

What ever you do, don't text him then text him again 5 mins later saying "why aren't you writing back" Thats highly annoying! If he is taking ages writing back, take your time writing back to him!! Also, if you text him first, wait for him to start the next conversation!!

But seriously, it sounds like hes just being a boy, dont go all bunny-boiler on him!

biko

Don't fall into games. Text at the speed you like.
My gf can be very slow to text back sometimes but I know she's not doing it to play games, she just likes to take her time and think about what to say. Can be frustrating sometimes alright.

TheJoker

I was texting these two girls before, not at the same time.

Girl 1 would take on average 4 hours to write back.

Girl 2 would take on average of two to three days.

Needless to say this was VERY frustrating as it was very hard to have any kind of coherant conversation with them. When I did get a reply I would often have forgotten what I said to them in the first place, and have to look back over my sent messages.:o

Firetrap

You're reading too much into it. I tend to text my friends back quickly but that's just the way I am. If I don't text or email back quickly, they think there's something wrong with me! On the other hand, I have friends who are much slower at texting back. It doesn't bother me because that's just the way they are.

It's a good sign that he's texting back. If he wasn't interested, you wouldn't be getting any texts at all.

RoryW

an old idea......dial his number, ring him and TALK to him

Overheal

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

I often take ages to text back girls even if I like them, mix of not being sure what to say & laziness.

I find texting them shortly after, even just to ask if they got home OK, goes a long way. Last time I did that though it was more about asking if she wanted to turn around and meet me at the river bank :rolleyes:

But thats just me: I either dont have the stomach to wait that long or im super sweet; take your view