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How to gain trust

  • 10-11-2007 9:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Dumped my gf on Thursday due to someone in my family having cancer. Loved her to bits but she didnt love me. She found it hard to trust me as well. I left her because i wanted to spend more time with this person as the cancer is serious... I now miss her so much and have asked her back out but she says I need to regain her trust because I hurt her a lot?? She also said I deserve better than her but i think thats just an excuse....

    What can I do?? PS I know it sounds very childish but I need help I miss her..


Comments

  • #2
    Loopy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,220 ✭✭✭✭Loopy


    mad4her wrote: »
    Loved her to bits but she didnt love me

    Sorry to hear a family member has cancer, it can be very draining being supportive and not knowing what the outcome will be.

    Don't really understand the relationship you had with your gf...Was it one-sided?

    If you do get back are you hoping she will grow to love you? I just wouldn't want to be with someone i knew didn't love me...


  • #3
    Froot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 546 ✭✭✭Froot


    You dumped her.

    You can't just pick it up again.

    You obviously see some issue with the relationship and as such unless you discuss it with her there is no point in getting back together.

    Also isnt this defusing a bomb after it has exploded? Why not sort out the problem before dumping her so you feel as though it is justified...


  • #4
    AngryBadger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,251 ✭✭✭AngryBadger


    Your ex is ou of line. Someone close to you is dying, because of that you amde a mistake and broke up with her. I understand that she was hurt, but whatever she's going through can't compare to what you're going through waching someone you love die.

    If she can't get over herself at this time when you need her most then she's not worth trying to win back.


  • #5
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    TBH it sounds like there is a lot of information missing from your post. Of course your girlfriend feels hurt because you broke up with her, but why is she saying that you deserve someone better?


  • #6
    metrovelvet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,376 ✭✭✭metrovelvet


    AngryBadger wrote: »
    Your ex is ou of line. Someone close to you is dying, because of that you amde a mistake and broke up with her. I understand that she was hurt, but whatever she's going through can't compare to what you're going through waching someone you love die.

    If she can't get over herself at this time when you need her most then she's not worth trying to win back.

    Yep. ANd being with someone you know doesnt love you is just going to hurt you more. Your headed for a doubleheaded loss;death and heartbreak.


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  • #7
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    Why do you want to get back with her if she doesn't love you?


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