I still love her

LegacyUser

Im 22 and I was with an engaged woman(also 22) for the last 2 years-She promised to leave her Fiance but never did.She decided to end it she told me she would never leave him and that it wasnt fair on me.

I thought i was over her but on my lunch hour today I saw her for the 1st time since we broke up(been about 2 months)-She had put up a little weight but carried it well and looked amazing.She was alone and didnt see me(Or so i thought)

When i got back to work she texted me saying this, "I saw you today in town-I know you saw me and I think that after all we have been through it was very rude to ignore me, A hello wouldnt have killed you"

I dont know weather to answer her back-I know I still love her-When i saw her my heart jumped. Im scared that If i answer her Ill beg her to take me back(i know what im like) and she will reject me again.

Then again For all i know shes single now(she wasnt wearing her engagment ring) and I am supposed to contact her back and I will finally have her to myself

Any thoughts?

LouOB

Protect yourself and ignore text.

Dizzyblonde

LouOB wrote: »

Protect yourself and ignore text.

Exactly - don't go there.

Jeapy

ooooh thats such a toughie! you should probably ignore the text, i think its rude to string somebody along for 2 years. why didnt she say hello if she saw you...a wave wouldnt have killed her either!

Dragan

No offence mate, but you were never going out with her. You were a distraction to a bored chick who was doubting if she should have been getting married or not.

Leave her alone, make her leave you alone and move on bro.

star-pants

Valid points made
-- she strung you along for so long
-- she could have waved/said hi - why was it up to you?

It's horrible pet - but you need to walk away for your own sake- protect yourself as others have said. *hug*

biko

Text back - please only contact me if you're ready for proper commitment. I don;t want my heart broken again.

LegacyUser

i text her and told her i didnt know weather or not to say hi

The reason she looked heavier is shes pregnant

And the reason she wasnt wearing her ring is Because he left her

LouOB

You were looking for touble and now you have found it

You head is about to get more ****ed

iloveher

iloveher wrote: »

When i got back to work she texted me saying this, "I saw you today in town-I know you saw me and I think that after all we have been through it was very rude to ignore me, A hello wouldnt have killed you"

text back saying "a hello wouldn't have killed you either. goodbye".
Ignore any further texts.

edit: Ah, I'm too late.
Ignore her anyway, you never meant much to her in the first place.

spinandscribble

iloveher wrote: »

i text her and told her i didnt know weather or not to say hi

The reason she looked heavier is shes pregnant

And the reason she wasnt wearing her ring is Because he left her

i'd says aiming for you to ask her back. dont.

couldnt it be yours?

Dragan

Dollars to donuts says she is now looking for a daddy for the child.

No offence mate, but i simply don't understand the mindset of someone who would get into a "relationship" with someone who is already engaged?

People who stray tend to stray all the time in my experience.

Steer clear matey.

padser

iloveher wrote: »

i text her and told her i didnt know weather or not to say hi

The reason she looked heavier is shes pregnant

And the reason she wasnt wearing her ring is Because he left her

well at least she got what she deserved.

Now maybe its time to forget about her!!!!

LegacyUser

iloveher wrote: »

i text her and told her i didnt know weather or not to say hi

The reason she looked heavier is shes pregnant

And the reason she wasnt wearing her ring is Because he left her

OP Is the kid the other guys or who's is it? Did she say?

l3LoWnA

Try and forget her now! Change your number if you have to! She'll only hurt you twice as bad the next time!

LegacyUser

spinandscribble wrote: »

couldnt it be yours?

i think its is, her fiances in the army and he was away overseas the last few months so unless she concieved when he came back for a visit then its definatly mine

ive asked her why they broke up + she said that he had met someone else

star-pants

Not to sound like a b**ch -- but if you are thinking about trying to be friends etc with her I think it's a bad idea. Remember she chose her fiance over you every time. She wouldn't be with you. IF she attempts to be with you now -- then it's only because her fiance left her.
Assuming the baby is his -- she's chosen her life path thus far. I'd leave her to it.

Sounds really cold - but she didn't care enough about you or her fiance - she kept both going. And then when *you* didn't say hi she snapped at you for not making the move?

I'm sorry - I do sympathise that she's now with child and single but for your own sake, I think it'd be a bad idea to get sucked in.
(I know you've not said that you are but just giving my thoughts hun)

Jeapy

Pregnant? I think you should DEF stay clear of her. i suppose karma just bit her in the a$$!

And good luck by the way!

dudara

Stay well clear. This has messiness written all over it.

You were a bit on the side to her, do you think that she stopped sleeping with her fiance while seeing you? Be realistic here, she appears to be trouble.

pepper

iloveher wrote: »

i think its is, her fiances in the army and he was away overseas the last few months so unless she concieved when he came back for a visit then its definatly mine

ive asked her why they broke up + she said that he had met someone else

so the baby could be yours?

padser

iloveher wrote: »

i think its is,

Oh, kick in the balls mate. I feel for ya

AngryBadger

She played you while she was engaged, if the guy has left her and she happends to be pregnant I'd wonder if the baby is the reason he left? (i.e. it's someone else's baby)

She's undoubtedly looking for a daddy now. Leave her alone.

To be frank you're a fool if you go near this woman.

Mountjoy Mugger

pepper wrote: »

so the baby could be yours?

If she was playing the OP along, it could easily be someone else's as well. Keep well clear of her!

humanji

She was cheating on her fiance with you, but she wouldn't leave him for you. Then she left her fiance for someone else. You mean very little to her. And if she was cheating on the fiance with you, she could very easily be cheating on him with others too. She's no good and will only make your life a living hell (but luckily it'll only be for a while, since she'll quickly leave you once she finds someone else).

star-pants

If the baby is yours OP -- you can still be a father to it without having to be with her.
I think that's the next thing you need to find out - if it's yours or not. IF not -- then walk away now. IF it is... the be supportive but don't go there regarding the relationship -you'll only be hurt.

Kurumba

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say ask her out straight who the father is, there is a real chance the OP is the daddy but also a chance he is not. I think he's entitled to know if he is. OP said they broke up 2 months ago so he was presumably sleeping with her before that. She wouldn't be showing after 2 months so she must be longer gone than that.
There is always DNA tests to confirm if she tells you you are the father.
IMO you should ask her who the father is out straight.

Be strong though and don't fall into any traps and ask her back or anything like that.

Best of luck.

pepper

humanji wrote: »

Then she left her fiance for someone else.

the op didnt say that

HER fiance left HER for someone else

LegacyUser

i have asked her am i the dad she said no and then when i called her she cut me off and now her phones turned off

Shes acting weird

l3LoWnA

I wouldn't trust this girl ONE bit. Even if you DO ask her and she says the child isn't your, or is, she could be lying!

I would contact her once more, tell her you want a DNA test after the child is born.....regardless of whether she says the child is/isn't yours, tell her you want a DNA test. Ask her when she is due and tell her she'll hear from you after that! Then don't contact her until May or whenever the child is born. You owe her nothing.

If it IS your child you have a responsibility to the child, but not to her! She is bad for you, she used you and deceived her FIANCE - she'll do it again too, you can be sure of that!

biko

iloveher wrote: »

i have asked her am i the dad she said no and then when i called her she cut me off and now her phones turned off

Shes acting weird

Delete her number mate* This can get very messy indeed.

*easy to say over the internet

humanji

pepper wrote: »

the op didnt say that

HER fiance left HER for someone else

Ah, I miss read that part. Still, it changes little. Be shot of her.

sammy2409

hey, trust me u dont want to txt her back.ur better than that and there are plenty of women out there that would love to met a guy like u.she cheated on her fiancee so she may do it to u aswell. dont do it you will get hurt in the long run trust me i no.

*Lees*

I know it's easier said than done but this woman is bad news and you should keep as far away from her as possible!! Find out when the baby is going to be born and demand a DNA test, if it's not yours then get her out of your life for good!! If she was cheating with you then there is a possibility there could have been others!!

*Page*

iloveher wrote: »

i think its is, her fiances in the army and he was away overseas the last few months so unless she concieved when he came back for a visit then its definatly mine

ive asked her why they broke up + she said that he had met someone else

if she was cheating on her partner with you she could have been cheating on you with someone else.(he probably knew about you)



also the baby could be his or someone else's. with out a perternity test you can't be sure.


She left you for him, no he's left her. What if he wants her back agian, she'll probably leave you again for him.

Your best bet is to tell her to leave you alone and ask her for a perternity test of the baby.


She may not want you to be the daddy which is probably why she's telling you your not the dad.

get the test regardless, you dont want a court order in the post in a few years after she finds out the hard way.

jenizzle

iloveher wrote: »

i have asked her am i the dad she said no and then when i called her she cut me off and now her phones turned off

Shes acting weird

I think thats a hint. Leave her alone. She text you, and now her phone is off? Headfcuk if ever I came across one.

k-a-t-e

Hi

just read this thread in one go. My thoughts:

stay clear of this lady, you sound like a decent guy and no doubt can do better than this person. Wait for someone to come along who wants you and only you and for all the right reasons. There are plenty of single, good looking, fun, intelligent women out there who are looking for someone similar. Dont give your power to someone else.

Kate xxxxx

twanda

DO NOT GO NEAR HER - avoid at all costs. She is trouble.