Break up imminent - urgent advice needed please

LegacyUser

I’ve been dating a girl for six months now. Things were really good, up until last week. We had a strong relationship, met up with each other 3/4 times a week, very close to each other and could talk about anything, we’d call and text each other regularly .She knows I'm crazy about her and has often said she feels the same. I am currently studying for a degree part time (31 year old and need the qualification for work) , so I have changed my work shifts to evenings because it’s easier to get study done. She was very supportive of this and encouraged me to go for it also. Since I moved onto the evenings, she hasn‘t called or text me. I have initiated contact for the last two weeks and even at that, it’s a very short chat.
We met up last weekend for one night and things seemed to be normal enough but after the weekend - no contact unless I did it - she will respond immediately but it’s like pulling teeth to get a conversation going.

I had every intention of asking her to move in with me soon, that way we could see more of each other and also because I thought she wanted it as she has hinted at it before.
Tonight, I called to see if she wanted to go out but she said no because she is with her mates. There was no mention of this before tonight which is odd because we usually keep our weekends free - time to spend with each other. Something we both agreed on.
I asked her outright if anything was wrong, she said no, she’ll catch up with me at some stage over the weekend. this is the part that gets to me - she just assumes I will be there when she feels like talking.

Am I being led up the garden path or just over reacting? I feel depressed at the moment because I think a break up is on the cards. My head is wrecked because of the situation and I’m finding it hard to focus on anything.
Any advice appreciated - thanks

Ishindar

next time u meet up, chose a relaxed moment and say u have been wondering a little over the last couple of weeks, u feel that she doesnt act quite as interseted in you recently. dont prompt her with possabilities let her speek and see what she comes up with. take your time to mull over what she says and draw your conclusions for better or worse.

in the meantime keep your self busy with stuff u like to do and treat yourself. try keep your mood upbeat.

flogen

Rather than ask her if everything is alright and leave it at that, why not ask her if everything is alright and when says no say "it's just that you've seemed a bit distant lately etc. etc."

Explain to her what vibes you're getting and how you're concerned - but do it in a calm way and without an accusational tone. Make it clear that you're geniunely concerned, you're not accusing her of anything but just let your feelings be known.

She could just be having a rough time of things for one reason or another, there could be something going on in her life that she can't talk to you about at the moment or maybe she's getting some committment jitters - only one way to find out but do it in a calm fashion.

Rockstar*

Im in a similar postion whereby I do college in the evenings and also football train - dont see very much of each other during the week and she has been very supportive although I sometimes sense a bit of frustration - We'd usually do something at the weekend together (maybe 2 days) but remember this is also probably the only time she gets to go out with her friends aswell so there needs to be a balance there.

There is currently a strain on our relationship but its for other reasons. If you are goinf to be working and studying for most of the week you need to expect that until college is over and more time is freed up you are going to have to accept not getting to see as much of each other as before.

As for not calling you - no excuse. I find some women are like that and she may in fact be doing it on purpose who knows. Speak to her about this and see what she has to say

Best of Luck

LegacyUser

She is playing you...with her behaviour towards you, you are already dumped before you even know it.

You are better off without this kind of person in your life.

If you think I'm jumping to assumptions, then test the water...

Don't contact her unless she contacts you...

padser

cheesedude wrote: »

She is playing you...with her behaviour towards you, you are already dumped before you even know it.

You are better off without this kind of person in your life.

If you think I'm jumping to assumptions, then test the water...

Don't contact her unless she contacts you...

Good advice.

Call her bluff. Don't contact her again.

She doesn't sound worth the effort to be honest. Also you don't wanna seem like your chasing her around the place.