Should i ring him?

LegacyUser

Opinions please? Positive or negative

I met this guy on saturday through my cousin and i really fancy the pants off him, i know he likes me. The thing is he lives in the UK and works there, i live in dublin and work here
1st problem-distance
2nd problem-last night we were talking for hours and all sorts came into the conversation, and i was prepared to shell out a small fortune, ring in sick just to go see him-CRAZY!!Sending text and emails and he goes so when can you come over, the first free weekend i have is the 23rd of Nov and i say this the thing is he has strong commitments and cant hang out with me on sunday... I go just this one sunday, i could fly in on friday and leave on sunday and he goes i can only spend fri night and sat with you. Every sunday he helps at the church near him and is occupied for nearly 5 hours, he's 24 and i dont understand the dedication but i respect him for it. He then replies and says i keep going on about his dedication and it's something he took upon himself and he needs to work at it, i apologise and he doesn't mail me again... After two texts from me he replies "nah am cool really" and i go "it seems you are busy, chat later" the thing is since then no form of communication from him and it's doing my head in.. He would normally text me but no tests!!! Do i call, text or just ignore him
I know he likes me but the silence or has he changed his mind...........

Latchy

I can understand how you fell OP , it's the deafening silence that's so annoying ,if i can say without going into detail, i was recently in a similar situation except she was in ireland and i was /am in uk ,and the waiting for the pms and texts to be answered was agonising to say the least, so i can understand your frustration quite well.You could text him and explain how you feel and if after several attempts ,he has not replied ,give it a few day's to and see how he responds.Hope it works ok for you , in my case sadly for various reasons it didn't

kind regards

How Strange

OP, two red lights flashing from your post - his reluctance to give up one Sunday for you when you are over to visit and his defensiveness about spending his Sunday's with his local church.

Surely, he could make an exception on the Sunday you were planning to be over.

Anyway, mail him if it makes you feel better but be prepared for a no reply. It's really awful when you click with someone, are in constant contact which becomes intense in itself, and then nothing. I remember the pain of that.

LegacyUser

Thanks guys for the reply... It's the silence that is killing me, if he told me "I am not interested" i would be fine and move on it's just the no communication. Since saturday i have spent €40 on call credit to text him... And like there is nothing today, my heart says to text but my mind says to leave him to chase after me
The reluctance, i dont understand.. he's single and all, and when he met me he thought i was really rude but hot and was interested in me.. And now that i want to give it a go he's incommunicado, i am in limbo over this

Latchy

Quote - How Strange

It's really awful when you click with someone, are in constant contact which becomes intense in itself, and then nothing. I remember the pain of that.

Well put, me to ...

400 texts you have sent since saturday not counting today? to one person that you met on saturday for the first time-thats 4 days ago?

I don't think you should be worrying about it OP.
Ring him and go over next friday night if you want and get that part over with.
You'll know more after spending 48 hrs with him than you know after 400 texts.
I suppose you could invest that much into investigating further what it is you are feeling.


Mind you I have to say I do find it a tad strange that in that short space of time you have your mind made up to head over just like that.
If you are going to do that,then go the whole hog and go over next weekend and spend friday and saturday with him.

Have you asked your cousin who introduced ye for a little more background on the chap?

LegacyUser

Thanks guys, last night and today were the worst days ever.. he didn't contact me so after a i sent him a text after deleting all the texts, mails and his number(didn't delete the log) and he replied. He left his phone at home, he's at a work function...but its an improvement. As for meeting someone on saturday and having feelings already, it's not the first time. I had that with my ex and we dated for 6 yrs, i hate the game playing.. if i like you and you like me = happiness!! But this case he's in England.
My cuz, says he would never discuss me with her! And so far he hasn't anything she knows is from my big mouth!
The next weekend available for me to see him is the 23rd, am away for 2weeks!
Thanks guys, i would keep you updated