I'm a bit scared

LegacyUser

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and i love him to absolute pieces and I really couldn't be happier with him. We live together and rarely fight, when we do it tends to be over something stupid and also if one of us is stressed out etc. We're both quite young (20/21) so lately I've been getting a bit scared of how long we've been together. I don't want to break up with him or anything, its just weird! I don't know how to explain it, I'd never want to be without him yet I'm afraid of being with him forever, I'm afraid I'm going to miss out on something but I don't feel I'm missing out on anything at the same time. Its so strange, at times I have that feeling like i never want to be without him and I'm so lucky etc yet other times i feel i should not be doing this so young. Someone sort out my head pleeease!!

Carrigart Exile

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I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and i love him to absolute pieces and I really couldn't be happier with him. We live together and rarely fight, when we do it tends to be over something stupid and also if one of us is stressed out etc. We're both quite young (20/21) so lately I've been getting a bit scared of how long we've been together. I don't want to break up with him or anything, its just weird! I don't know how to explain it, I'd never want to be without him yet I'm afraid of being with him forever, I'm afraid I'm going to miss out on something but I don't feel I'm missing out on anything at the same time. Its so strange, at times I have that feeling like i never want to be without him and I'm so lucky etc yet other times i feel i should not be doing this so young. Someone sort out my head pleeease!!

The grass always appears greener on the other side. Do you miss the thrill of the chase and the new love crush that gets us all? Has your relationship settled into the next stage which is more about trust and real love than heart stopping moments

Gaz

Maybe take sometime apart and travel ? Not to break up and shag everything that moves but to get out there and have a life expierience of your own.

Dinxminx

I know what you're feeling and trust me, it'll pass! I have those moments (with my boyf three years now) but it goes away after a bit. It's like a mini-trapped-panic-attack, right? Whenever it happens to me I just look at my boyf and think of all the reasons I love him and why the grass is greener on THIS side.



Good luck!

LegacyUser

Go traveling with him, then you won't be missing anything.

I'm nearly 24 and i spent the 19 to 23ish age single. All i did was drink my mickey off and sleep with randomers.

I'm currently looking forward to settling down with my girlfriend for awhile and eventually go traveling with her.

LegacyUser

I wouldn't want time apart from him, its not like that way! Like when we're apart for more than 2 days we get really excited to see each other and stuff. I dunno its just the odd time I get scared but your right when i think about how much i love him and why i;m so happy with him I just forget the fear straight away!

LegacyUser

No i wouldn't want to spend time apart or anything, and I'm not the type of person to sleep with around with people either. Like if we're apart for more than 2 days we get excited to see each otehr again and things like that. Your right though, when i get scared and then think about him and how much i love him it does go away, i'm probably just being stupid!

I went out with a girl from 18 till I was 21 and Im nearly 23 now and I used to think like that a lot. Thats not solely why myself and her broke up but it was a part of it cos I wanna travel and I mean properly, for a few years an not just the year off in Oz while she was a homebird. Honestly we broke up for a lot more than that but I had a feelin it was gonna become a problem eventually.


However I always said if we were on the same wavelength as to the things we wanted to do with our lives, particularly travelling, then I would have seen no reason for us to not be together.


talk to him and tell him the things u wanna do and also tell him u want him to be a part of it. Then ur doing it all with him and not missing anything.

Cathmandooo

I wish I had your problem :rolleyes: not that I'm in a pit of depression or anything but think how lonely it can get when you're on your own. If you get excited seeing each other when you're apart for two days then you're a very very lucky person! You're not too young, dont try to fix something thats not broken, just appreciate it.

spinandscribble

its normal op. it would be less normal if you were so blinded by love that you couldnt think straight. dont worry but its best not to tell your bf. he probably feels the same but its not a nice thing to hear.