Feel so weird

LegacyUser

I'm on Erasmus at the mo so I'm living in a different country from my boyfriend. I miss him like mad and I can't wait to get home to him, and he feels the same.

All my friends in this country are female, but at home all my friends at home are male. In the last couple of weeks I've found myself really missing male companionship. I must stress that's it in a friendship way, not a romantic way. There's a guy in most of my classes in college who is also on Erasmus and we get along very well, we sit beside each other, I help him study, and we just generally get along. There's also a guy from work who I get along really well with. We share all the same interests, music tastes, sense of humour, everything. We live almost beside each other and I used to see him a lot. The other night we were at a party and when we got back he walked me upstairs to make sure I got in to my flat ok. He ended up coming in and we stayed up all night talking. There was no flirtation going on or anything.

Now I've started feeling really guilty. I'm not attracted to these guys in any way. I am so in love with my boyfriend that I haven't been attracted to or found any guy attractive since I met him! Soppy I know. But when I spend time with these guys I feel horrible afterwards, like I'm cheating on my boyfriend just because I enjoy their company. I have purposely stopped contacting them and all that. But I still feel guilty cause I miss their company now too and miss talking to them and this makes me feel even worse because I feel like I'm cheating again. I never feel like this with my friends back at home so I don't get it.

Am I being stupid or is this natural? I just feel so weird right now.

LegacyUser

Anyone?

LegacyUser

There is no problem. It's perfectly normal. As long as it's not "intimate" who cares? I doubt even if your boyfriend would, if he read this post, he'd probably be impressed.

Dinxminx

Don't worry about it. You should be able to have guy friends without worrying that you're "cheating"!!

If your boyfriend's okay with you having male friends at home, why should it be any different away?

biko

As long as these guys know you have a boyfriend and aren't interested in anything other than friendship I see no reason whatsoever to break the friendship with them. Work away loike. Soon enough you'll be back here again.