Getting Married?

January

Hi All,
This may sound stupid but, me and my boyfriend have been talking about getting married quite a lot recently and we have been researching it a lot. I was just wondering for a registry office wedding (neither of us are religious), do you just ring up the registry office (in dublin?) get a date and then post bans three months before that?

Thanks
Adrieanne

ian_m

adrieanne__x wrote: »

Hi All,
This may sound stupid but,

these words alone make me think you should wait

January

The fact that we've been talking about it for months and we're only asking for information on getting married makes me think we're making an informed decision and not jumping into it. We're not planning on getting married for a while, so we're trying to find out the facts now.

Talliesin

adrieanne__x wrote: »

I was just wondering for a registry office wedding (neither of us are religious), do you just ring up the registry office (in dublin?) get a date and then post bans three months before that?

Pretty much.

There are requirements as to residency, validity, proof of identification etc. etc. etc. but you can get good information on that from the registry office itself.

ian_m wrote: »

these words alone make me think you should wait

A lack of knowledge of Irish bureaucracy makes you think they should wait?

That has to be the weirdest reason I've heard for not getting married, ever.

January

Well we're both Irish citizens and lived here all our lives, so it should be pretty straight forward? Neither of us have been married before and it will only be a very small wedding because we don't have much family.

ian_m

Talliesin wrote: »

Pretty much.

There are requirements as to residency, validity, proof of identification etc. etc. etc. but you can get good information on that from the registry office itself.
A lack of knowledge of Irish bureaucracy makes you think they should wait?

That has to be the weirdest reason I've heard for not getting married, ever.

As long as people are aware of the right reasons for getting married, not the reasons for not getting married.

Talliesin

ian_m, are you reading the same thread that you're posting in?

adrieanne__x, yes pretty straight-forward. You'll want to use the registry office that is local to where at least one of you is resident.

BoB the 7th

adrieanne__x wrote: »

Hi All,
This may sound stupid but, me and my boyfriend have been talking about getting married quite a lot recently and we have been researching it a lot. I was just wondering for a registry office wedding (neither of us are religious), do you just ring up the registry office (in dublin?) get a date and then post bans three months before that?

Thanks
Adrieanne

I wish u all the best with ur wedding. I hv a suggestion why bother getting married in Ireland. Do what my wife and i did go 2 Las Vegas... Grt craic. Lovely weather. And not a doubting PADDY in sight. Good Luck and Have Fun.

donutheadhomer

Why do you attack this girl? Cynic!
Getting married is one of the best things and the most special things you'll ever do.

ian_m

EurasianBadger wrote: »

Why do you attack this girl? Cynic!
Getting married is one of the best things and the most special things you'll ever do.

Not everyone would feel the same.

CathyMoran

You just contact the registry office and get a date and time from them then contact the GRO (General Registry Office) and fill out another form with your intention to marry.
http://www.gro.ie/getting_married.htm

It has to be done at least 3 months before you intend to marry unless there are extenuating circumstances (eg. one partner is seriously ill) then you have to get a court order to get it in a shorter time. Good luck with your wedding - it is a great day no matter how few people are there - there were only 15 people at our wedding and it was a wonderful day.

iguana

ian_m keep it on topic and think before you post. Not knowing about the legal requirements for a civil service is no indication of a couples readiness to get married and to suggest so seems deliberately provocative.

Adrienne_x it doesn't seem stupid to ask your questions, the purpose for the board is to be somewhere where we can ask these things without having to feel stupid.:)

Murryfinge

ian_m wrote: »

As long as people are aware of the right reasons for getting married, not the reasons for not getting married.

You should not judge others. That was not very nice.

Murryfinge

CathyMoran wrote: »

You just contact the registry office and get a date and time from them then contact the GRO (General Registry Office) and fill out another form with your intention to marry.
http://www.gro.ie/getting_married.htm

It has to be done at least 3 months before you intend to marry unless there are extenuating circumstances (eg. one partner is seriously ill) then you have to get a court order to get it in a shorter time. Good luck with your wedding - it is a great day no matter how few people are there - there were only 15 people at our wedding and it was a wonderful day.

Hi Kathy. I remember you from another great internet website on the internet.

ian_m

Murryfinge wrote: »

You should not judge others. That was not very nice.

If people have to come to Boards to look for advice regarding marriage then I believe there are deeper questions to be asked. This is not the place.

Kenny_D

ian_m wrote: »

If people have to come to Boards to look for advice regarding marriage then I believe there are deeper questions to be asked. This is not the place.

She's looking for factual information. She's not asking a question on her readiness to marry. If you've nothing useful to say then say nothing. This is in fact the perfect place (Weddings forum?) to ask a simple straight forward question like this.

Adrieanne, first of all congratulations on your decision. I wish you all the best and it's clear you're not jumping into this so don't worry about this guy. You may find some useful information here:

http://www.groireland.ie/getting_married.htm

iguana

ian_m wrote: »

If people have to come to Boards to look for advice regarding marriage then I believe there are deeper questions to be asked. This is not the place.

ian_m I have warned you already about this.