sex issue??

LegacyUser

Just a quick question, prob for the females out there, going out with a girl for a little over a year now.When iam about to enter her she is extremely tight, but then once we get going its fine, is this because she's not turned on enough,not enough 4 play ?? Not too sure??.Then i feel kind of awkward as i feel its my fault. Any information would be great...

bronte

If you can get her to orgasm before any penetration at all, she'll be much more relaxed.

Mr. Incognito

Give that girl some head.

Mr. Incognito

Give that girl some head.

oh, by the way, shouldn't you be asking HER about this?

ats

Unrejj72 wrote: »

When iam about to enter her she is extremely tight, but then once we get going its fine, is this because she's not turned on enough,not enough 4 play ?? Not too sure??.

where you her first? this could be part of that she's not so well "stretched out" if you know what i mean. an ex of mine was like that.

it could also be that she's not turned on enough as you said or maybe she's not relaxed enough, maybe she's apprehensive or has some "hang ups". ya know good old catholic Ireland and sex before marriage will send you burning to the fires of hell sort of stuff.

sit with her and have a talk to her, also as you suggested yourself try more foreplay

LegacyUser

She's just not ready.
Nothing to do with her being inexperienced & therefore not 'stretched-out' enough!!

Are you quick to get aroused?

My bf used to think it was a simple case of passionate kissing, maybe a quick rub of the boob & hey presto, I'd be ready cos he was.

Absolutely not!!!

Best way to get her ready is to play with her down there.
Tease her with your fingers so that she's dying for the real thing.
You'll find then that you'll slide in easily & she'll be a lot more enthusiastic about the whole thing also!!!

strawberrybox

hey i wouldnt worry about it, no matter how turned on i am it is still a little sore going in and i am a bit tight but once we get going its fine and i am with my partner 12 years!- you should be glad of this problem instead of the other way where its like trowing sausages up oconnell street and you cant feel anything at all!!!

Kintarō Hattori

Don't worry OP, this isn't an uncommon issue. As other's have said, use your fingers or tongue to good effect before penetration and it'll be a better experiance for all.

Dinxminx

What strawberrybox said!

Storm_rages

x3 strawberrybox is wise!!

Auldloon

Is normal, some girls are just built like that. Enjoy it.

McGinty

Hi Op

It could be that she is not ready, is she very dry, and how intimate are you with her? I mean do you grab at her for a few minutes and go for it? Or is it more sensual? There are many ways to relax your girlfriend maybe a bath together, some nice music, candles, fussing her from head to foot or giving her a gift of flowers and feeding her some small chocolates, all of that will enhance things for both of you. Or it could be she is tight naturally but for me in my experience I have often had sex where i wasn't fully ready at the beginning but like your girlfriend I got going through penetration, however, it takes me much longer to orgasm when that occurs. Good luck,

Pythia

Some KY will make things easier.

Ickle Magoo

Take it slowly & use lube as well as getting her aroused before penetration if it is painful.

It's perfectly usual for a woman to be tight when you first enter her & then the vaginal muscles relax further to accommodate whatever size of man she is having sex with - contrary to some beliefs most women do not walk around with vaginal passages the size of their biggest partner or wider if they have had more partners. A virgin may have their hymen torn when they first have sex but after that it is all down to psychology & confidence..ie being able to relax. hth