Kissing & stiffys

LegacyUser

I'm 20yo and I've been on a couple of dates with this girl, on the second date she kissed me but I made it brief as possible as my small friend decided to pop up and say hello. Now I haven't kissed a girl since my girlfriend when I was 17. Again I had little 'control' wasn't an issue when we were alone of course but could be a little bit awkward when we were out.

My question is simply: Is it normal for one's friend to 'pop up and say hello' when just kissing? If not what can I do besides going out with a cod-piece on??

I got another date this weekend so please help me!!

Marksie

Oh its absolutely normal! It happens even thinking about it.

LegacyUser

Oh it's totally normal! Happens to my boyfriend all the time and even though he's quitebig he tends to wear baggy trousers so it isn't too noticable.

Lots of fun in places like the cinema though

Gyalist

In fact you should make sure that she notices it.

The Queen

Gyalist wrote: »

In fact you should make sure that she notices it.

Definitely! hot stuff all together

Im pretty sure its very, very normal!

GrumPy

I'd be worried if kissing my girlfriend didnt result in mini-grump popping out to say hello every now and again!

syklops

i'm getting one now just thinking about kissing.

Seriously. Truly normal.

Knockoff Nige

I wonder why its still such an embarassing issue. Why dont girls get embarassed when their nipples get hard or when their pupils dialate? These are obvious signs of affection too. But when mr. mindofitsown pops up, its awkward. Maybe its because of the silly walks we invent to cover it up.

Cathmandooo

I can understand it being embarrassing. As a girl, if i see a guy in a pub / club walking around with one I would be a bit shocked. However if I'm the girl kissing him and he has one I actually find it quite complimentary, its a sure sign you're doing something right and he's enjoying himself!! altho after reading earlier posts here maybe it just happens anyway and isnt a sign of doing it right :eek: but yes it's completely normal!

Knockoff Nige

Cathooo wrote: »

I can understand it being embarrassing. As a girl, if i see a guy in a pub / club walking around with one I would be a bit shocked. However if I'm the girl kissing him and he has one I actually find it quite complimentary, its a sure sign you're doing something right and he's enjoying himself!! altho after reading earlier posts here maybe it just happens anyway and isnt a sign of doing it right :eek: but yes it's completely normal!

So, what if you were just talking to a guy and you noticed he had an erection?

Cathmandooo

Knockoff Nige wrote: »

So, what if you were just talking to a guy and you noticed he had an erection?

I wouldnt particularly like to see that no, I'd get away asap

Reku

Knockoff Nige wrote: »

Why dont girls get embarassed when their nipples get hard ... These are obvious signs of affection too.

Think that can happen for other reasons too, otherwise a lot of the women I work with must really dig all the lads in the office.

OP, don't worry too much about it, as you become more comfortable with the girl you'll find that it'll happen less often just from kissing and also you won't really care if it does happen as it's not like she never saw it happen you before. As long as you don't start rubbing against her, without any kind of lead in to such from her, I doubt she'll really mind.

syklops

Im with my gf for 2 years, and it still happens from kissing. Not as often but it still happens.

Seriously, dont worry about it.

Hagar

Wear snug underpants.

strawberrybox

what you can do is tuck it under your belt or your waistband of your trs to kinda hold it in place just do a quick adjustment when she is not looking, but its nothing to worry about women actually find this quite complimentary we like to think we are that hot! we know it happens itself but we like to think it was us that caused it and especially from just kissing

sunnyjim

Happens us all most of the time man. Tis nothing to worry about. Just don't go grinding it into her and its all gravy.

Thats not to say you should poke your arse out so your crotch doesn't make any contact at all!

seamus

I've always found the "tuck it under your belt" comment quite odd. For a start, it's uncomfortable. Secondly, there's a good chance of him popping out to say hello.

Just aim it down the leg of your trousers. It won't stop it sticking out, but it won't be like a pitched tent.

I'm going out with my other half nearly 8 years and it still happens to me. Laugh about it.

Knockoff Nige

or, you could try the Billy Connolly approach to avoid embarassment and shout out 'oh my giod, I'm about to get an enormous erection...' Everyone else gets embarassed, you get to let it happen.

Bottle_of_Smoke

seamus wrote: »

I've always found the "tuck it under your belt" comment quite odd. For a start, it's uncomfortable. Secondly, there's a good chance of him popping out to say hello.

Just aim it down the leg of your trousers. It won't stop it sticking out, but it won't be like a pitched tent.

I'm going out with my other half nearly 8 years and it still happens to me. Laugh about it.

You put your boxers over it & then your t-shirt over that.

Down the leg of the trousers can really hurt, especially if your foreskin rolls back.

sunny2004

Un8r8egi8stered wrote: »

Is it normal for one's friend to 'pop up and say hello' when just kissing?
I got another date this weekend so please help me!!

have you approached a circus ?

Its normal...

Laslo

Pull it out and ask if anyone needs to hang their coat up?

randylonghorn

Un8r8egi8stered wrote: »

I'm 20yo ... My question is simply: Is it normal for one's friend to 'pop up and say hello' when just kissing?

Yes ... or when just looking ... or when she laughs ... or just because he feels like a stretch ...

Un8r8egi8stered wrote: »

If not what can I do besides going out with a cod-piece on??

Do nothing. More you think about it, more likely that he will stand up and take notice.

Un8r8egi8stered wrote: »

... as my small friend ...

Never call him that, even in jest; he might get a complex!

gal_anonim

completely normal (even for the guys several yrs older) and sooo sweeeet
it's one of the best compliements for a girl

Gobán Saor

Just tuck it into your sock. Works for me:D:D:D:D:D

Marksie

Laslo and goban saor: Please read the charter on off topic and unhelpful; posting.

Any more "wise"cracks will result in bans folks. Stick to the issue

azezil

Oh hell yeah it is, if I don't feel a rumble I don't bother meeting the person again!

Victor

seamus wrote: »

Just aim it down the leg of your trousers. It won't stop it sticking out, but it won't be like a pitched tent.

Be careful of that. It wants to go up and its trapped pointing done. Pleasure and pain at the same time. :eek:

hdal

When i snog a guy in a club i usually feel it pressing against me! I think it's cute & take it as a compliment!! x