Afraid to lose her...

LegacyUser

Right guys heres my situation... Me and the gf broke up before xmas.. nasty break up and didn't really get back into the dating scene until the start of summer. So was out having a laugh with the lads when I met this lovely girl who as it turned out had broken up with her bf sometime around xmas aswel.

Anywho we got together, had a couple of dates and really hit it off but we both made it clear to each other that we didn't want anything too serious, at the time I didn't, I just wanted to have some fun with my mates etc after finally getting rid of the ex. From when we met we've continued dating and have been out together in town (mutal friends) And have been really getting on great.. we txt during the wk and have great craic together.

The only thing is... yep you've guessed it... I've fallen her! I would love to make things more serious and am constantly thinking bout her being with other fellas! But shes never mentioned it and seems quite content to leave things casual. I'm afraid if I bring up things getting more serious I'll scare her off as she might think its too soon after her ex etc

Basically I am really just looking for opinions... should I just be content with the way things are now or should I try take things to the next stage of a relationship? I really dont wanna lose this girl.

Many thanks

ILTS

I think you should tell her how you are feeling. She may surprise you and feel the same way, and is also reluctant about changing the status quo. Go for it, you'll tie yourself up in knots otherwise.

biko

Suggest going away together for a weekend. You'll find out a bit more about her then.
Take the bus to Cork and back, unless of course you already are there.

Lazers pew pew

HAVE you done the deed yet?
a frivolous question but it could be the clincher

LegacyUser

'tough one dude......dont be thinkin about her being with other guys....shes prolly thinkin the sam about you being with other chicks!

invite her for dinner at your place...have a bottle of wine or two and she how she reacts.....she wont be long getting the hint that ur sound and that you respect her and like being in her company... and at the end either be the gent and call her a taxi or else ....have another bottle of ride and give her "a shot at the title"!!!

best o luck'

LegacyUser

Always remember that girls know intuitively how much you actually like them because it is always obvious with guys...

limklad

Take her out for dinner or somewhere quite and talk to her about how you feel, it is now time tell her, she wil eventually notice it.

bostonian

cheesedude wrote:

Always remember that girls know intuitively how much you actually like them because it is always obvious with guys...

good point, we get noticeably retarded once we fall.

LegacyUser

'HAVE you done the deed yet?
a frivolous question but it could be the clincher

Yea we have a few times I am just so confused.. she has never given me any hint she wants to make things more serious.. I dont want to wreck what we have now!

I think I will ask her over and have a proper chat..

Thanks guys !'