Age difference?

LegacyUser

Simply put is a 20-17 relationship ok in most of your eyes?

Black Swan

20-17 doesn't seem to be much of an age gap. Really depends upon the maturity of the two people.

togster

Unreg2017 wrote:

Simply put is a 20-17 relationship ok in most of your eyes?

Is it ok in your eyes? Because why does it matter what we or anyone else thinks!

DD

lol. Are u considering this an age difference. Well, of course if the 17 years old person is a kid could be, but i know ppl at 30's that are still kids and ppl at 20's that are very mature.

Unreg2017 wrote:

Simply put is a 20-17 relationship ok in most of your eyes?

biko

Is he just about 18 or just turned 17? Anyway, no it's not a big deal.

Doctor DooM

Its fine to me. Went out with an 18 year old when I was 21 and it was great crack. As long as the 17 year old has a little bit of wherewithal.

strawberrybox

yeah i dont see a problem with this at all, if you both get on and have things in common just go with it, its not that big a gap at all age wise, I went out with a 24 year old when i was 18 and it was fine.

Dord

Seems fine, I went out with a 17year old when I was 20. No problems there. It would be odd if she was still in school. The girl I went out with was in college.

azezil

I see no problem with it, i dated a 17yr old when I was 26... granted it only lasted about 5 weeks, but I was willing to try never the less.

aoife2k

Unreg2017 wrote:

Simply put is a 20-17 relationship ok in most of your eyes?

I've dated men more than twice my age and I'm 22.... 3 years is more than acceptable...don't worry about what people might think, you can't help who you're attracted to. Enjoying the relationship is the most important thing

davyjose

It's not an age gap - honestly, I'm not belittling it, but nothing about it strikes me as being ANY way out of the ordinary. Good luck!

Lazers pew pew

i'm 27 (since Sunday) and my missus is 21
She's way more mature than me though so i dont even think of the age difference

bostonian

is 17 even legal?

azezil

bostonian wrote:

is 17 even legal?

Yes...

Dave147

My ex was 17 when I was 20, and I had been with her since she was 16. Had to put up with her going through two years of school and not being able to go out with me but the age gap didn't matter. Of course we broke up a month after she started college lol. No issue here. Best of luck!

Elessar

azezil wrote:

Yes...

Only for girls afaik. For some reason the law is still 18 for a guy.

qwertyphobia

It's 17 for everyone.

If they are out of school 17 and 20 isn't that big of a difference, but not great either. But I would view an adult having a relationship with a school kid as very dodgy

LegacyUser

i was 17 datin a 24 year old

didnt work tho- i was 2 immature for him

StephenC_IRL

im 17 and i dont think theres any problems with it at all, none of my friends would think its weird , but it might depend a little for instance if you were in 2nd year college and if he/sh was in 5th year, but if you were both in college then there would be no problems i could see

mcR

That sounds fine, as long as their out of school. My friend (a girl 17) just started college and her boyfriend is 18 and still in school cos he did transistion year and she didnt and everyone in her class thinks it's werid and she is embarrassed to tell people, thats not even bad at all but if the person is still in school id say no

azezil

Elessar wrote:

Only for girls afaik. For some reason the law is still 18 for a guy.

Nope, 17 for everyone.

Xyo

half your age + 7.. thats the rule provided its legal

Nevyn

Xyo wrote:

half your age + 7.. thats the rule

What rubbish.

January

It's a rule of thumb ha.

I'm 20 and I'm in a steady relationship and living with a 29 year old. If you like them then it shouldn't matter. Don't let anyone else stand in the way because in the end it will just ruin your relationship.

Firetrap

Nah, I wouldn't have thought it was much of a gap. It all depends on the person though. Some 17 year olds are immature as hell, others are old heads on young shoulders. Same applies to 20 year olds.

Dudess

It really boils down to the maturity of the individuals.
As for the gap: well, three years is nothing when you're older (e.g. 23 and 26) but with 17 being so young it makes more of a difference.

cazzy

Unreg2017 wrote:

Simply put is a 20-17 relationship ok in most of your eyes?

Yeah 3 years is nothing and 17 is legal !

Dudess

As I said, three years is nothing when you're older, but it's a lot when you're a teenager. If a 15-year-old was going out with a 12-year-old would you say three years was nothing?
But yeah, 17 is legal and college age (or almost college age).

cazzy

Dudess wrote:

As I said, three years is nothing when you're older, but it's a lot when you're a teenager. If a 15-year-old was going out with a 12-year-old would you say three years was nothing?
But yeah, 17 is legal and college age (or almost college age).

It wouldnt be legal so thats totally different. With 17+ yr olds 3 years is nothing.
it would feel like a big gap if one was in school and one was in college but if the relationship is still going strong when both are in college/working then it would be nothing.

-avey-

As ,most people have said, it doesnt seem much of a difference at all, im 21 and have bn wit both younger (not 17 tho) and older guys. Some of the older one's wer less mature than the younger ones, all depends on the person

chris_oc

your gettin worried about that age difference,i tell ya i grew up in germany where nobody seems to take age into account at all!!i just dont get it,fair enough there might be few people who feel strong about subject but belive it or not,theres actually guys aged 21 goin out with girls that are only 14!!:eek:
now tell me thats not wrong?!!
not on the girls side but rather the guy's..of course a girl at that age wont be able to think straight and would probably think its cool that an older guy would even look at her,but what the hell is actually goin through the guys head??!is he actually expecting sex of a 14 yr old??
thank god ireland has a bit more of a conservative attitude to issues like these..
20-17 age gap is no biggy at all,if you lived in germany though it wouldnt even cross your mind! ha!;)

Crumble Froo

the way i see it is, if you're aware of hte age difference all the time (other than maybe childhood memory references...), then it's not a problem.

my boyfriend is quite the bit older than me, as is one of my best friends, and id rarely notice it at all. i dont think about htem as a certain age or generation, we just have plenty in common, and get on well.

opinionated

aoife2k wrote:

...don't worry about what people might think, you can't help who you're attracted to. Enjoying the relationship is the most important thing

Michael Jackson...

slumped

As long as she has her homework done each evening before you go out there should be no problem.

aoife2k

opinionated wrote: »

Michael Jackson...

HUH?

kowloon

Xyo wrote: »

half your age + 7.. thats the rule provided its legal

Works for me