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Life sucks - jealousy.

  • 07-10-2007 7:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Registered gone unregistered for this....


    im 16. Theres this one friend I have who is my best friend, shes my best friend. I couldnt live without her. I've gone out with her...long long time ago. i dont have many friends, i am a very quiet guy. those i do have often dont want to talk to me or avoid me for stupid reasons, and the ones who do want to talk to me live far away from me so i dont get to see them. hence, i spend alot of my time all alone.

    This girl. I care about her so much. I hate to see her upset, hurt etc. But I also love the pants off her. she's all i think about. No, its not a case of something that might "pass". I've had the same feelings for her for the last 4 years. shes all i want....the only one i ever want to have by my side. I'd give anything, everything just to have her as my girlfriend.

    now she has a boyfriend. and it hurts so much. im as jealous as hell. its not the first time it has happened. it just kills me. seeing as she was one of the few friends i could actualyl go to town with or cinema on weekends, im not gonna be goin anywhere when shes with him. OK, she knows im jealous, and i want her. and she doesnt "rub it in" to me



    need advice. thankies...


Comments

  • #2
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    I think you need to spend time away from her, cut contact for a while and try and get on with your own life. Seeing her with this guy is not going to help you.

    I know this might be hard as i'm sure you may go to the same school etc, but try. Try and keep your mind occupied, take up new hobbies and take part in extra curricular activities. Sitting in your room listening to ballads is not going to help you. You just need to take control and tell yourself you're not going to let this get you down. Who knows, you may make new friends in these new activities and may even meet another girl.


  • #3
    Latchy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    Your only sixteen and it is a bit pointless to be depending on this one person for company and friendship all the time , although i accet that for a lot of people like yourslf this is the case .The jelousy aspect is somthing you should loose cos it is self defeating and negitive .Have you thought about getting a girlfriend of your own ?


  • #4
    JohnnyStones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 306 ✭✭JohnnyStones


    Cut her out of your life completly, try not to see her again;after a few months you'll get a bird of your own and things will look rosey:cool: :cool: :cool:


  • #5
    Twinkle-star15
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 392 ✭✭Twinkle-star15


    Like other people have said, focus on other friends for a while. I won't go as far as to say cut her out of your life completely, but maybe tone it down a bit. It sounds like this'll be happening anyway. It sounds a bit like you're telling yourself you're madly in love with her, so you are (if that makes sense). Tell yourself instead that you're just good friends, and keep telling yourself until you believe it. Trust me, it works. You're saying you don't really have any other close friends- now is the perfect opportunity to make some! Join some after school club, or even talk to some new people in one of your classes- half of them aren't as bad as you think. Who knows, maybe you will end up together at some point in the future, but for now it's not going to happen, so focus on other things in your life. Best of luck, and I hope this works out for you.


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