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Why do I feel this way?

  • 07-10-2007 3:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Im a 20 year old college student who has spent the last 4 years living away from home in Dublin and recently I have been feeling very down. For the past 5 or so years there has been at least one major tragedy in my life and I constatly feel like I have noone to turn to and no one to talk to it about.

    My cousin (who I was close to) died when I was sixteen and this tore my family apart, he was the glue that held us together and life has never been the same. The summer after my first year in college my Nan who was also my godmother died suddenly and this hit our family even harder. I felt I couldnt talk to my parents about it and how I was feeling because I felt I had to be the responsible one and the one to help everyone else and so I never really got a chance to talk about it. Then two summers ago, my cousin and neighbour died within a half an hour of each other and less than a month later my boss committed suicide (I was the last person to talk to her alive) and I felt as if no one understood what I was going through. My parents comforted my younger siblings but just left me to my own devices (prob assuming that I could cope on my own) and I still have bad feelings towards them about it. Why?

    I feel like I should be getting over it and moving on with my life which at times I do but then I think about the people that I have loved and lost and it just brings it all back to me!

    I dont care if I get a response from this because just getting it off my chest helps so much.

    Thanks for taking time to read this its prob very disjointed and dosnt
    make much sense


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  • #2
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,532 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    sad and lonely wrote:
    I dont care if I get a response from this because just getting it off my chest helps so much.
    I've lost a parent, and it bothers me still. Your anonymous PM here is a good first step to working through it. A close friend could be helpful too. And although I am not a big fan of the clergy, there was this one young priest back home in Ireland whom I felt I could talk to. He would just mostly listen while I talked myself out. I tended to feel better after, especially when he didn't dump all that Church stuff on me afterwards (or the fact that I rarely went to mass). If you want to talk more, you can PM me.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'Hello!

    I can only imagine how difficult it can be for you... The best way to utilize 'negative' (i put this in inverted comas because sadness is not a negative emotion as such, i t can be used in a good direction) feelings is to unleash them in artistic ways. Draw, Write, try things and express your sorrow that way.

    if you would like to talk post back and maybe we can talk on messenger. I am from dublin myself :)'


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