Ever felt like leaving the country for good?

LegacyUser

Recently i was really let down by my girlfriend & best friend (no prizes for guessing) I had planned to go away with my best friend for a long time.. maybe 3 or 4 years? just traveling and working where possible.. Now i want to go on my own.. i'm sure i'll forgive him in time but i really just wanna go away and never come back.. My girlfriend is leaving for a year or more 2moro.. (booked with months) All my friends are gone travelling.. I have no job, trying to get job but no luck yet, i have no degree, there's nothing here for me..

Anyone ever felt like this or know someone who just left?

craichoe

I'm going abroad at the end of the month ..

Do it man !!!

I can't wait

Girrrrseach

Do it dude.

Im in the midst of planning the same thing...

Only thing i would advise is not to run away from problems - Leave no unfinished business before you head off, it WILL follow you.

Otherwise, do it. Nothing better. Whether it be with somebody or on your tod, you will learn so much about yourself, you won't believe it.

Best of luck.

Knockoff Nige

I'm in the middle of planning this. Proving to be hard work but should I get the visa, I'll be gone in a flash. I dont want to be in Ireland, personally. I dont feel Irish. I say go for it. Even if you hate it, you're not getting a life sentence, you can always come back.

Ninja_scrotum

Your "best friend" broke a serious rule! I would say if you want to go traveling, start planning now and just go for it before you end up with any commitments.

I plan on leaving in about a years time. I want to head to africa first, then South america then japan. At the moment I dont plan on coming back but I know it's a possibility.

But what you need is a job first. You need a few thousand euros saved if you plan to wander around looking for jobs for the next couple of years.

Pm me if you want, as i have a good bit of of information on working and volunteering and general vagabonding around the globe.

King of Kings

dude go travelling by all means.
but don't run away. first deal with your issues , destroy your enemies and make peace with yourself.

might sound lofty and bull****ty but you'll leave here with your head held high and not have any apprehension when you come back.

why forgive your friend btw? he was weak and selfish and your friendship didn't stop him when he should have backed away

Ruu_Old

Go away for a bit if it helps you clear your mind and see what happens. Don't go expecting anything when travelling and you'll have a lot more fun. Good luck.

LegacyUser

Cheers for the advice! As soon as i get money i'll go..

king of kings - I'd forgive him in time because they were both out of their minds and dont remember doing it.. and i know he's a good person.. it just made me realise i should go alone.. ive never done anything alone in my life.. Ive not joined groups or gone places becuz ive had no1 to go with so i think it's time to "find myself"

Also i since my g/friend is leaving i have nothing here to clean up...

Knockoff - I dont feel one bit irish either..:)

Is it possible to stay away for a long time out of europe? As in, if i get a 6 month visa for the states will i have to come home to get a visa for Oz.. and then repeat this for all countries when my visa runs up?

rivers

I'm not sure about OZ via the states...but in alot of places you can apply for your visa in the country you're in, just go to the embassy. Of course that might be a problem if you're not near the required embassy or consulate but its the only option i think. A good thing about being irish / european is that for most places Visa's arent very difficult to get, and are generally for a long period of time. This is especially true of most parts of Asia, where you can also get a working visa pretty easily. There's nothing like working in a totally different culture to open you're eyes and give you a bigger perspective in life.

There's alot of good people out there who won't treat you like crap, so don't let it get you down. Your 'friends' don't even deserve you thinking about them...
just remember, as was said above, don't go away with any hatred or grudges for people or Ireland itself. It'll only fester inside you and won't make travelling and meeting new people fun.

p.s just make sure your passport is valid for many years to come!

Latchy

I left ireland 20 years ago ..........i never went back (cept for weekend breaks when possible )
I do remember asking friends to come with me but when push came to shove found i was the only one serious enough and ready to go ,so i went around europe for several months , had a ball ,went back to ireland and then continued to travel over to europe for the next 3 years until i finally ended up here in Uk .

SWAY Z

I left Ireland this year man for 6 months and have to say i did miss it (Im Only 18) But when i got back here it really was an EYE OPENER as to how little this country is compared to the bigger picture ! theres loads out there to be seen and done do it while ye can man you'll miss home for a bit but soon get over it and will be glad you did it ? Im counting the days down till next summer so i can do it again !:)

LegacyUser

'Sorry to hear that. Get a job doing ANYTHING at all for the next few months. Work 7 days a week. 12 hours a day. If you can. You will have a lot of money by the end of it. Just go, enjoy yourself. You won't know yourself by the end of it and you will come back a completely different person. In a good way.

Good luck mate. GO!

Go wrote:

Recently i was really let down by my girlfriend & best friend (no prizes for guessing) I had planned to go away with my best friend for a long time.. maybe 3 or 4 years? just traveling and working where possible.. Now i want to go on my own.. i'm sure i'll forgive him in time but i really just wanna go away and never come back.. My girlfriend is leaving for a year or more 2moro.. (booked with months) All my friends are gone travelling.. I have no job, trying to get job but no luck yet, i have no degree, there's nothing here for me..

Anyone ever felt like this or know someone who just left?

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Spoony2

yep



But then i remmber theres things i want :mad: .....

look at natives.co.uk

theres a few back packer sites where you could go to france working in ski resorts as a night porter etc.

which isnt really travelling but at least yor out of the country all you could be doing is pot washing but you gte a money ski pass hot grub and a bed and soem pay which is not much but it does and yo could save that

my two cents

kev_s88

if its what you want then do it!!

ive been planning it for years.soon as i finish college im leavin and moving to canada!!! and i cant wait for it!!


if its something that you feel is completely necessary for you to get on with your life then do it!!

HarryD

Highly recommend it.
I left Ireland over 5 years ago with the intention of going back after a while.
Haven't been back since... loved it here in Hungary.. and Oz and hopefully San Diego soon :-)
Going home to the small town syndrome drives me mad..

LegacyUser

'I had the most amazing friendship with a few people...dated one briefly+ it messed the entire dynamic up. The other 'friends' completely betrayed me. +I left the country for good. It's been great!!!.'

Cheiftan

Go for it !!! But as everyone else is saying sort all your messy stuff out beforehand and try to bear in mind travel does'nt answer any questions it only raises more.

Good luck.:)

LegacyUser

Absolutely. And will be. I have a number of months left in my final year and then I will be going travelling. First to New York for a year on an internship (Or Canada if i can't get the internship for New York as Canada is way easier to go to) and then after that year, I wanna go to the usual places like Australia etc...

And hopefully, i'll find a place abroad that feels like home and make loads of new friends and live there for a while!

PS: Oh the girlfriend will be coming with me too, if she doesn't wreck my head that is

LegacyUser

thanks for all the replies. cant wait to go.. just gotta sort out how i'm gonna and what kind of visa i'll get for the US.

Glacier

Can you really do the US with no Degree? I've heard it's hard even with a post-grad.

bostonian

do it, don't look back. wherever you go, if you get homesick, the friendly ladies of aerlingus aren't too far away.

Manic Moran

What the hey.

I left Ireland for the US with a cheque for 3,500 pounds in my pocket, a credit card with a 2,000 pound limit, and a one-way ticket. I had no idea where I was going to end up, or what I was going to do.

In hindsight, this was a bloody stupid move.

Still, it seems to have worked out. As the lad says, if after six months things don't seem to be working out, head for home, recharge. If you feel up to it, try again.

NTM