Raised by a single father

LegacyUser

This may come out like a rant.

I've been thinking about this for some time and just curious if others have experienced the same thing I have. I'd be interested to know how it affected them throughout their lives. I've tried searching the internet but with little success, apparently single mothers is a bigger issue.

I was raised entirely by my father, as my mother... lets just say wasnt around since I was infant. I have no memory of her whatsoever so its as if she never existed. As a result would it be expected that I should have a slight hatred towards females in general? I dont think thats entirely true in my case but i honestly dont know why women do what they do sometimes, but thats not what im asking. Im not actually 100% sure what im asking here to be honest! I dont trust women as a default. With anything, I'm dont consider myself a sexist person but... i feel theyre incompetent at dealing with alot of things in life. I'm a very logical person and cant understand the emotions that hinder (maybe the wrong word to use) them. I cant help how i feel even though i know this cant be true. very illogical. Am I an incomplete person because I never had a mother to love as i grew up? Or had a mother to love me rather. A female friend of mine lately said to me that she realised im one of the most insecure guys shes ever met once she got past my confident exterior. Thats true to extent i feel, i doubt and regret almost everything i do. I'm not sure why. I find myself somehow blaming the fact the i never had a mother on all this?? is that just ridiculous? I dont know what kind of feedback im expecting to get here but anyone who had a similar backround, id love to hear how it affected you as a person. otherwise sorry for wasting your time

LegacyUser

hey, just felt i'd have to reply to you as i grew up in a similar situation so kindof know how it feels. funny thing is i'm a girl though! find it hard to get on with other women though. not like i'm odd with them or anything, just find it hard to trust them or something. its ridiculous obviously to tar everyone with the same brush. so i've no female friends whatsoever, just guy friends. even now i always long for a mother. i sound pathetic i'm sure. i often think of the day i'll get married and i won't have a mother there to share it with, or when i have children, no mother or nan for them. i can't explain it but it hurts to the core. so thats it, sorry for the probably unhelpful reply. best of luck with everything though.

Nevyn

Everyone has issue with how they were brought up be they big or small if you find they are effecting in a negative way then why not go see someone about it and try to resolve those issues. Maybe some counselling may help, talk to your gp for a referral.