friendship issue

LegacyUser

I recently started university and have been busy settling in and creating new friendships. However, one of my best friends seems to resent this? I think he feels I'm letting him behind, when I'm not at all. We are very close and go to the cinema/out for dinner at least once a week. I've invited him to everything recently, and even suggested time for just the two of us to meet and do something together, but he keeps declining, and says he doesn't feel up to it. I can tell he's unhappy though. Why can't he see that I'm still putting in the effort for our friendship, it's difficult when he declines stuff because it makes me feel like i'm not trying to make the effort and dare i say it, i nearly feel guilty for making new friends?

eimearnll

i think he see's you as more then a friend,hes probably worried your going to get a boyfriend out of all these new people your meeting.talk to him

PeakOutput

i would tend to agree with the above he dosnt see you just as a friend weather thats a recent thing or has always been the case who knows but its something you need to set straight asap

dont obviously say to him you fancy the hole off me whats wrong with you but when he does eventually agree to see you or whatever just tell him how you have been feeling and see what he says and take it from there

curiousxxx1

OP, i understand where he's coming from. I have a friend and we worked together until 2weeks and he left because he was going back to college. To cut the long story short, i do miss him alot!!! We went for lunch together, cinema, e.t.c.... i am sad and sometimes jealous that he's gone back to college and is hanging out with his other mates....and i am left here by myself, i do have friends but it's not the same!!!
Try and explain things to him and let him know how you feel, things happen and we all just have to get on with life. It's not like you don't care but you have other friends too

Red Alert

I think some of these very close friendships can sometimes reach a stalemate - because as far as I can see one side usually sees more in the relationship than others. I think you should maybe back off a bit, but at all costs talk to him about it. Go out together often, but don't let it stop you forming other close one on one relationships.

How Strange

OP, the sad reality of friendships is that very few of them will be able to withstand major life changes. It's sad but that's life.

It sounds like your friend's nose is out of joint. You're starting a new phase in your life and he isn't. Leave the door open for him to contact you when he has gotten over his jealousy or whatever it is but as Red Alert said don't let it put you off making new friends.

This is a new stage in your life and you should be enjoying it and not feeling guilty.

Talliesin

Maybe something else is going on for him. Perhaps trying to make new friends also but not having as much success?