Girlfriend Trouble

LegacyUser

I dont know where to start. Im just so fed up i dont know what too do. I have been going out with my girl for almost 4 years now im 19 and shes 18. We had our fights before but nothing too major.

The problem is that we havent had the chance to see each other much over the last few weeks and when we do its always when were in a group. I dont mind because we share the same friends but i tend to get put as second priority behind her friends 99.9% of the time, as in i get 20 miniutes of conversation out of her in the entire night.

With collage coming now i cant see myself getting alone time with her anymore, and i can see the cracks in the relationship forming because of it. She wants to be with her family friday nights along with doing collage work. Saturday night she will want to see her freinds. Saturday and sunday she works untill 7 in the local shop.Sunday night both of us will have to take the train back to collage and we cant meet up during the week because we go to different collages.

I just feel like its going to be over soon because of this and i love her so much i dont know what to do. I want to save our relationship but i dont want to be a jerk and make her chose me over her friends. Please someone out there give me help.

paulie.walnuts

She needs to make an effort to spend time with you, she seems willing to put time aside for her family and friends and not you. Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. You're not being a jerk whatsoever, if anything her behaviour sounds a bit much. Good luck and plenty of young ones for a 19 year old in college to be chasing if it doesn't work out.

Colonel_McCoy

You are too young for a major relationship. Ditch her and do your thing in college. Come fresher week you wont even remeber her name. Boooooooommmmm

ILTS

Sounds like the cracks are already in your relationship. Time to let go I think, move on to your new life in college. On the little you say it seems she is just treating you like a friend rather than a boyfriend. You are both still very young, far too young to be in a long term relationship. Get out there and experience all the fun of college, look forward, not back.

DD

ILTS wrote:

Sounds like the cracks are already in your relationship. Time to let go I think, move on to your new life in college. On the little you say it seems she is just treating you like a friend rather than a boyfriend. You are both still very young, far too young to be in a long term relationship. Get out there and experience all the fun of college, look forward, not back.

I agree with him, ur saying already things are not the way they were and u'll be more apart now with the college starting, so ..if she doesnt change then focus on ur college and go on with ur life.
And you 2 are so young...just the begining

BobTheBeat

Colonel_McCoy wrote:

You are too young for a major relationship. Ditch her and do your thing in college. Come fresher week you wont even remeber her name. Boooooooommmmm

Hehe:D Young relationships can work though. My gf and I have been together since we were both 16. Now it wasnt easy sometimes, but nearly 10 years later we are still together. (insane I know)