feel like something is missing

LegacyUser

I'm feeling 'blahhhhh' ...and i have no idea why!

Anyone every feel like something is missing in your life and can't quite pin point what it is?

I've got a feeling it's because I'm single but I've being single for a while and haven't felt this way. It's not that I'm not open to a new relationship but it will happen when it happens, I'm not stressing about it. I don't what to go out with someone just for the sake of going out with someone.

That's the only thing I can't think of that's 'missing' in my life, because I have a job that I love, my own house, great friends. I don't think there is anything that I can't do if I want, but some days it feels like something isn't quite right ...

I've got a feeling that I'm getting to that age ( I'm a 33 year old female) Even writing that seems terrible because it's only when I remind myself of my age that I know I'm 33, in my mind I feel a lot younger,and 33 seems so old! Maybe it's just a case that I need to grow up then ! lol or Maybe it's just a case that I need someone to tell me to grow up and appreicate what I have, but as the saying goes, the grass is always greener, the problem now is that I have no idea what grass I'm looking for.

AckwelFoley

Tell me about it (


Im 30 ive evertyhing i want really, but just missing that one thing. Putting the finger on what it is, is difficult.

Im recently out of a 7 yr relationship so that has hurt somewhat. Ive dated a bit but blaaaaah.. not interested..

I know 30 is no that old for a guy, but i as yourself feel like im in my late teens at times . . so im having like an early mid life crisis!

Im looking at my other mates and a few of them are still single and dont seem bothered.

Perhaps i should turn to drugs! j/k!

Knockoff Nige

Perhaps its charity work. I think when people get everything they want, they feel a slight unrecognisable guilt about it. Do something for charity, not necessarily give money but do something. Perhaps stage a fund raiser and climb a mountain or something.

Maybe you should run a marathon.

AckwelFoley

me, run a marathon? lol.

But yes, a charity sounds like and idea..

CodeMonkey

Maybe you want kids and a family. Maybe you feel that time is running out to do all that. How long will it take to meet someone you like enough to marry and start a family?

How Strange

CodeMonkey - Maybe you want kids and a family. Maybe you feel that time is running out to do all that. How long will it take to meet someone you like enough to marry and start a family?

CodeMonkey, you may be right and the OP is realising on some level that this is her time to do all these things but I think people are under far too much pressure to conform to the 2.1version of life - marriage, babies, mortgages etc etc

If you have these things and life turned out that way for you and you enjoy it then that is great but if it hasn't and like the OP you find yourself at 33 single etc then you may have to accept that this is your life, live it to the full and stop wishing for what could be or what other people have.

I think there is an awful lot of pressure, subconcious and concious, to conform with society so everything fits neatly into categories. But apparently 40% of women over 35 are single in Dublin and I'm sure there is a high statistic of single men too so there are a great many square pegs refusing to fit into round holes out there.

OP, I know what you mean. I am almost the same age as you and I also wonder sometimes what is it all about. I haven't attained those things either and I think its partly the realisation that those things may not happen for you, they may not be part of your life plan and that is a bit daunting. I used to assume that somehow life would fall into place and I'd wake up someday and magically I'd have be an 'adult' (mortgage, marriage, kids etc etc). But from your post you are successful in lots of other ways in your life.

I really believe that people should live the lives they have been given and not compare themselves to other people. It's easier said than done and it takes hard work but comparing yourself to others just undermines your chances of being happy with what you have and appreciating it.

ntlbell

just sound like 1/4 life crisis arrived tad late it'll pass

tbh

millions of years of evolution are telling you to have kids.

Knockoff Nige

tbh wrote:

millions of years of evolution are telling you to have kids.

I doubt its evolution. I'm pretty sure we had babies when we was apes.

Gemini Sister

I know what you mean OP. I'm 33 and a girl as well. Though not technically single (complicated mesh of relationships), most of my friends are, and some are knocking on a bit now, to the point where babies are becoming less of a possibility. And we spend years leaning how to be strong on our own so then relationships can feel claustro... society has sent our generation some very complicated messages - you have to be independent but its difficult to buy a place on your own or whatever - we're constantly bein told not to have a family young, then you're running out of time...
But on the brightside my mother didn't even meet my father til she was 35

Cheer up, you never know whats round the corner.