talkin dirty

Alex84

k just quickly,(first-time post!)

started seein this guy....sex is great....prob de best I've had!
He wants me to speak filthy in bed, it just doesn't come naturally to me
any sugestions?

Dudess

If it doesn't come naturally to you, you can't force it. That would just make you feel even more uncomfortable.
You say you've only started seeing him - what's the rush? Things appear to be going well so why don't you give it some more time. Being able to talk dirty requires feeling comfortable with your partner in every sense. You probably need to strengthen your connection with this guy even more.

admiralofthefleet

Alex84 wrote:

sex is great....prob de best I've had!

if you're enjoying then say what your thinking while doing it

Ruu_Old

Tell him what you are feeling and give him some encouragement also.

Dalfiatach

It's always weird, a bit uncomfortable, and just feels really, really silly the first few times

Try and summon up a bit of the old "to-hell-with-the-world, I'm going for it!" devil-may-care attitude and just jump off that cliff.

It might simply not be for you, or you might love it. You'll never really know till you throw caution to the wind and give it a whirl. After all, it's not as if there's any negative consequences from trying it, now is there? A bit of the auld dirty chat won't physically hurt, get you pregnant, give you an unspeakable disease or lead to long-term health complications. Sure it feels silly, but everything sexual feels a bit silly the first time you try it...

Carrigart Exile

Alex84 wrote:

k just quickly,(first-time post!)

started seein this guy....sex is great....prob de best I've had!
He wants me to speak filthy in bed, it just doesn't come naturally to me
any sugestions?

Describe what the sex feels like for you

Dodge

Dalfiatach wrote:

After all, it's not as if there's any negative consequences from trying it, now is there?

Unless the bf starts demanding it, or can't have sex without it. Particularly if the OP still isn't comfortable doing it. I suggest the OP talk about it with her bf, in a non sexed up moment. Tell him that she's unsure about it but she'll try it and that if she doens't like doing it she won't. If he sulks, forget about him. If he agrees, go wild...

AckwelFoley

You wanna talk dirty?

Have a chat with my mother..

I walked in on her about a year ago, and i heard thinhs come out of that womans mouth that no son should hear


All's i can say is my dad is a legend in bed from what i heard just before i threw up.

As for the filth talking be agressive. . .

Victor

Something you might find easier is to make a very quiet, but very naughty suggestion just when he isn't expecting it.

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This thread should really be in Sex and Sexuality.

spinandscribble

saying what your feeling is a great way to start. firstly ask him how HE feels. then he'll ask YOU how you feel. thats the way to get the ball rolling. it'll feel silly the first time but as long as you can have a laugh you'll get through it. you'll see his reaction and will forget you inhibitions

pretty-in-pink

lots of sex threads here recently,

OP, just say what it feels like, what you like about it, what you wanna do next, its a bit vulgar, but it does add something. Anyways, just go for it. Dutch courage played a part in the first time I did it. In fact in the first time I did most somewhat scary things.

SarahSassy

Only do it if you want to....

sabrina99

explore it with him further. find out exactly what it is he craves. some just like the usual "oh yeah **** me big boy" or "your so good" stuff. while some migt enjoy the dominatrix side of things such as slap him in the head and tell him he's a worthless so and so.
two very different things so you really would need to find out before you go overboard

pretty-in-pink

sabrina99 wrote:

explore it with him further. find out exactly what it is he craves. some just like the usual "oh yeah **** me big boy" or "your so good" stuff. while some migt enjoy the dominatrix side of things such as slap him in the head and tell him he's a worthless so and so.
two very different things so you really would need to find out before you go overboard

oh good point- find out just how dirty he wants it. it may be way to crazy for ya- (won't even give examples), or it may be the usual vanilla "god my ***** loves your ***. You're so great. **** me harder" stuff

delta_bravo

snyper wrote:

You wanna talk dirty?

Have a chat with my mother..

I walked in on her about a year ago, and i heard thinhs come out of that womans mouth that no son should hear


All's i can say is my dad is a legend in bed from what i heard just before i threw up.

As for the filth talking be agressive. . .

Anyone else find that hilarious?:) what age are you btw?

K-9

Alex84 wrote:

k just quickly,(first-time post!)

started seein this guy....sex is great....prob de best I've had!
He wants me to speak filthy in bed, it just doesn't come naturally to me
any sugestions?

Take your lead from him. As he said much himself. Every girl is different. If your a bit shy about it, get him to take the lead and then follow. I find the good girls outside the bedroom love the dirty talk, but the man has to lead first to make her feel comfortable with it.

Gonzo_Fiend

Examples:

I love to feel that big ****ing cock inside me

Yeah do me do me

Stick it in me; I love it. You're such a big boy

Wow you cock is killing me. I love it!!

AckwelFoley

delta_bravo wrote:

Anyone else find that hilarious?:) what age are you btw?

i was 27 at the time, i was staying at the parents house for the night after the pub ...

txt_mess

Just describe what your feeling I'm guessing thats whats he's after probably not the "say my name B*tch" full on experience

Marksie

Alex84 wrote:

k just quickly,(first-time post!)

started seein this guy....sex is great....prob de best I've had!
He wants me to speak filthy in bed, it just doesn't come naturally to me
any sugestions?

As dudess states, starting out talking dirty can be difficult. You could ask him what he would like you to say in terminology.

It can be very sensual for somenoe to tell another what it feels like (and useful to as you can incorporate adequate communication about how good it is, thereby encourageing your partner to continue). So talk sensually initially and begin to work up to the rest

If its is more the use of language the F*** me big boy style. Perhaps the time to start would be when things are quite advanced along teh way, the fast and furious phase. In that way you may be more open and let go.

Though to be honest if it is against your nature you will find it difficult.

Though one thought occurs to me, he wants you to talk like a p*rn star. Why not have alook at a film or two and see what they say?

DD

Alex84 wrote:

k just quickly,(first-time post!)

started seein this guy....sex is great....prob de best I've had!
He wants me to speak filthy in bed, it just doesn't come naturally to me
any sugestions?

if u dont feel like doing it, dont do it
if u want to try it try it for fun
and if u dont feel comfortable stop doing it

im imagining someone trying to talk dirty and start laughing after hearing herself...:)) i think its funny
hey, if u cant talk dirty and u dont want ..some moaning and some nice whispers can be enuf for ur man

Riesen_Meal

Send him a few racy txts when you guys are at work? Along the lines of "what colour knickers am I wearing?" or something to that effect, catch him off guard!

Nothing worse (or sexier) than gettin txts like that in work (as a bloke) all you wanna do is go home and ahem "bury the baldy fella" as my mate would say....

Aura

Random texts are the business. Describing some racy dreams are an easy way to ease yourself into it too but as stated it's not everyone's cuppa so don't feel ya have to. Plenty of other ways to spice things up too that you may feel more comfortable with...

Enjoy!